I bought some gifts for my goddaughter and her mother thinks we should bring her the gifts instead of her coming to pick them up. Isn't it proper to go and pick up a Christmas gift that someone is giving to you?
2007-01-02 06:20:29 · 19 answers · asked by blazenphoenix 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They live less than a mile away. They spen the last week going from house to house picking up gifts so why should it be any different for me? They're not consistent.
2007-01-02 06:28:02 · update #1
You are being gracious and buying gifts. You do not have to make a special trip to deliver them too. At your next visit, take them along as it doesn't sound as if you were invited to their holiday gathering.
To be expected to just show up and bear gifts is entirely inappropriate, as is it to ask someone to come over to just drop off a gift. It should never have been discussed in the first place! By your mentioning you have a gift for their child should prompt the parents to either invite you to their home or ask when they can stop by yours.
When you see the child you will give them to the child. Very simple.
2007-01-02 11:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by logical_centrist 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is proper etiquette to visit with your goddaughter over the holidays and give gifts at that time. If they didn't invite you over for such an opportunity, then you could invite them to your place for a visit and give the gift then.
If you don't want to do that, you could drop off the gift.
I am assuming the goddaughter is too young to go to your house on your own, and this is some issue between you and her mom. Don't make your goddaughter suffer because of that.
You are the one giving the gift and IMO, that includes getting the gift to the intended.
2007-01-02 14:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only time that i've gone to somebody's house to get a gift is when my mother and her twin sister alternate christmas', and who cooks the lunch and we exchange gifts. Because whoever's house it is, the people go over there to get their gift.
If you were having a little party of some sort, i can see why she would come over and get it. But the proper way is you giving it to her. Unless, she's over at your house and then you can give the gift to her.
2007-01-02 15:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is your gift to them, so you are responsible for getting it to the recipient (just as you would pay shipping and handling for a catalogue gift). However, if they want to be helpful and show their gratitude, they could offer to come pick it up.
The only exception would be if you have some sort of physical impairment that makes leaving the house difficult for you.
2007-01-02 15:05:18 · answer #4 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it was my goddaughter, and she lived less than a mile away, I would deliver it in person. If you stand on the argument that it's so close for them to come over, then it is equally close for you to make the trip.
2007-01-02 16:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by Punkie'sDad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about proper, but tell her to come over for a cup of coffee or tea or something, catch up, and take some pics of your god-daughter. While they're there, you can give the gift.
My sister-in-law (and me) don't care for excess traveling, so we just get together for lunch and swap stuff.
2007-01-02 15:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally, (just how I've grown up and how things are now) people usually come over and visit and bring their gifts with them (or when we visit we bring our gifts to them with us). I think that people would feel funny going over to someone's house just to get a gift, but like I said that is just how I grew up. Everyone is different and may think differently.
2007-01-02 14:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's much more proper to go to the person whom you're giving the gifts to rather than the other way around. You bought the gift, and assuming they didn't ask for it, you should be the one to drive to them.
2007-01-02 14:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The person giving the gift should take it to the person receiving the gift.
2007-01-02 17:30:35 · answer #9 · answered by onefootnaked 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I do believe the wise men went to Jesus not the other way around. People say we "come" bearing gifts. You said it yourself, they live less than a mile away, so get off the couch and take the gifts to her.
2007-01-02 17:19:35 · answer #10 · answered by fifimsp1 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋