Why Is He DOIN This?!!!!?

Question

My boyfriend is a Bastard.....help me?
My boyfriend has been acting distant, like saying he'll call me and not answer, although when we're on the phone, he loves having long conversations with me as he often complains if I say I have to go. He told me he wants us to have a baby. We're seeing each other long distant, and I'm seeing him in 2weeks for the weekend. However, I sent him a text, cuz I'm frustrated wit him saying "What's on your mind hun? I'm working my **** off for you lately, if you don't think we're gonna work, or something's bothering you, you know I'd prefer you to tell me hun x". That was sent bout 9 hours ago and he hasn't replied. I'm just at breaking point wit him, I'm not gonna call him ever again if he doesn't call or text in response. What do you think he doing/ and what should I do now?

Yeah, I'm asking dis question loads, cuz not many people have answered the other question, and I NEED advice on dis!

Answer 1

it's quite clear to me that Ur B.F. is giving u the cold shoulders. what i suggest u do is to dump him. sorry to say but if u guys are having sex, he has gotten what he came for!
and try not to call him very often, he'll say you are nagging him.
girlfriend there are so many other nicer guys out there that are ready to give u the world-- better must come!!
get on with Ur life; Ur young and beautiful and u don't need a man who won't give u an attention.
be safe and conscience.

Answer 2

Personaly i think hes seeing someone behing your back but hes keeping you on the side, not to be a jerk just cause he doesnt want to hurt your feeling. Long distance realationships usually dont work because of temptation. DO NOT have a baby with this guy you will more than likely be raising it by yourself. I wouldnt go see him either tell him something else came up and youve made different plans and see how he reacts. then in a couple of days tell him you dont think this is working and you want to see other people, then its done your pretty much broken up, if he really wants you take some time to yourselves then try to get back together in like a month or 2

Answer 3

Clearly, long-distance is not working for you two. What you each need to do is figure out what your real needs are, and then work together to figure out how to meet those needs. (For example, how often do you need to see/talk with each other, how long will this separation last, how often you need to hear "I love you" or similar endearments, etc).

For example, agree that you see each other in person once a month, and talk on the phone three times a week (avoid text messages, IM, and email as these can be very impersonal and fail to convey important nuances). Then agree that you will trade off who comes to visit whom, and that you will call him on Mondays and Wednesdays, and he will call you on Saturdays. Or whatever particular arrangement works for your situation - the point is to get it spelled out so that everyone knows what to expect and what is expected of them.

If he isn't willing to work on this with you, or you find you can't meet each other's needs, then it is probably time to end the relationship.

Answer 4

Well I can understand what you are going through. I have been in your shoes. What I would do is take a step back and review your whole relationship. It must be a pretty deep relation if you are disscusing kids. How long have you two been together and how far apart are you living? Long distant relationships are hard on a relationship regardless. You need to do what is going to make you happy, life is way to short not to be. I can only tell you to put your self first.

Answer 5

I would say move on. You deserve someone who will give you more time and affection. And whatever you do, DO NOT have a baby with him. A baby should come when everything is right, not as a way to make things better. I say move on and find someone who knows your worth. There are so many guys out there who know how to treat a lady you don't need one who doesn't.

Answer 6

Honey, he isn't loving you the way a grown a** woman deserves to be loved. Cared for and appriciated. it hurts i know, but the pain that someone you love afflicts is the worst kind. Love is Suicide. If you keep ur finger on the hair trigger ur heart is gonna continue to be wounded. Give him some space or let him go... cuz he doesn't care about you. So who else will?

Answer 7

As a grown mature man talking this is my personal point of view.not to be rude but this is real, this is a new year you need to find someone else and leave this @$$ alone . Speaking of he wants to have a child Honey think about it his d*** ain't worth it . Do you and move on! Love you girl, keep in touch love.

Answer 8

Quit feeling sorry for yourself. You're coming across as desperate. Your message included the reference to 'hun' and then a reference to 'working your *** off'. Huh?! What are you trying to accomplish with this tactic? Maybe you should sit tight and try to figure yourself out.

Answer 9

Nikita
You have already answered your own questions.
The guy is playing games and thinks its cute by treating you poorly. You have to set boundaries on what types of behavior you will accept. This guy's behavior is unacceptable and you should let him know this.
I suggest you find a man that treats you well and respects you and answers you text messages and phone calls.
Jim

Answer 10

Oh hun quit wasting your time on a looser. Get out see people enjoy life do things for you that make you happy be around people who make you happy life is too short to waist on people not worth your time!