From everything I have read, there is no proper way to mention bridal registries anywhere within the wedding invite. My dilema is that the maid of honor included a registry notification in her wedding invitations when she got married and thinks it is ridiculous that I don't. She is offended by me saying that I don't wish to do that because that implies that she did the wrong thing. Also the future groom is siding with the bridesmaid. He wants to include a short mention of bridal registries with the map and other information that will be enclosed with the invitations. I personally appreciate being provided with registry information and feel it is easier for the guests who wish to bring a gift. I am fully aware, however, that it may considered rude to do so. Family members are all out of town and unable to help. Suggestions are appreciated.
2007-01-02 06:07:03 · 17 answers · asked by StressingOut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We included a mention of the places we are registered on the invitation. I don't think it's rude and it actually helps the guests; they don't know where you are registered.
I wouldn't include a registery because it will be updated when people buy gifts and won't be current.
2007-01-02 06:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shanan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Registries should NEVER be mentioned on the wedding invitation. It's considered very rude and it's not proper etiquette at all (regardless of whether it may be helpful to a few guests). What the groom is suggesting is considered extremely offensive, and it will look like you're just trying to get gifts out of this wedding. Don't be surprised if some people decline to attend the wedding (who you thought would be there) - If I received an invitation with a registry and map of places, I would seriously be offended and think that the bride is just trying to get gifts. People like that don't deserve gifts.
2007-01-02 08:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a different opinion about honeymoon registries, but they are becoming more popular and more acceptable. Generally speaking, younger folks usually like the idea while those who oppose it are older. Think about who you are inviting and whether they are more traditional or would be up for something a little different. If you do decide to do a honeymoon registry, it would be best to do at least a small registry of traditional gifts for those who are more comfortable with that. Just know that no matter what you do, someone somewhere is going to complain or call it "tacky" (a word I have removed from my vocabulary during wedding planning). In the end, you have to decide how much you care what your guests think. If their opinion is important to you, then be sensitive to it. If not, do what you want and ignore the comments. Good luck!
2016-05-23 06:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't put any kind of registry information with the invite, you will probably be hounded with people calling to find out where it is.. Or people could just guess at what you would like for a gift and you could end up with 15 identical toasters that you can't always return!
The best way to avoid all rudeness seems to be in one of 2 ways:
Somewhere on the invitation, map, or RSVP card, print the name of the wedding website or registry site. Or, to give guests the option to recognize the registry, you can put something like "For registry information, please contact us at:" and put your phone number or email.
Many registry places will give you business card size notices to put in the invitation envelopes that simply say "We are registered here." It's a little more bold than the first option, but by making them an external part of the invite means your guests can choose the option of ignoring it.
2007-01-02 06:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by chocolateandnuts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is etiquette not to mention registry in the official wedding invitation, as it portrays you are expecting gifts.
I went through the exact same thing two years ago. What we did is mention the registries on my bridal shower invitations. Also, we knew if people wanted to know, they would ask our parents, etc.
Also, a website would work to display all of your wedding information as well as registry. There are a few sites out there that allow you to do this free of charge. The only issue with that is spreading the word about the said website, in which you can also mention this on your shower invitations or actual invites-totally up to you.
Lastly, if your families are used to people including registry info in the invitations, go for it. They might be taken aback if you don't specify which stores hold your registry. It all depends.
I know it's one thing after another, but remember this is just small stuff compared to your big day. Try not to sweat it too much, you can't make everyone happy!
2007-01-02 06:17:05 · answer #5 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never. never. Never include mention of any gifts, registries or hopes for cash in ANY invitations. You are 100% correct, and this maid of honor is sorely mistaken. The only proper way to let guests know about where a bride is registered is IF they ask. If they don't ask, so be it. When I registered for my wedding, the store included little cards stating where I was registered, I guess to include in the bridal shower invite. Know what I did with them? Right in the trash. I don't care how many people tell me it's "OK" to do nowadays, it will never be OK.
2007-01-02 14:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by MelB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is to create a wedding website that includes information on registries - you can include the website on the invitation, thus indirectly giving guests what they need to know.
By the way, I also appreciate getting registry information as a guest, although I'm well aware that all the books say not to. I personally feel that it's a rule you should be allowed to break if you want to - it's your wedding. If you don't want to though and you want to stick to the etiquette, see if they'll be satisfied with a website link.
Congratulations, and good luck!
2007-01-02 06:12:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes - it is considered bad etiquette - but at the same time, most brides do it and most guests appreciate it. A lot of what is considered "bad" by etiquette standards is becoming more common anyway.
That being said - the proper thing to do is NOT to mention gifts anywere in the invitation. A wedding guest should NEVER be made to feel that a gift is expected in anyway. Word of mouth, your wedding website and bridal shower invitations are all better alternatives.
2007-01-02 06:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should never be included in the body of the invitation itself. I've seen a few where it was on the reverse side of the invitation -- tacky in the extreme, IMHO.
Including a separate card with the information seems to be pretty common practice but it still looks like a shameless gift-grab.
The last couple of invitations I received were silent on the matter. Calling one of the bridal party got the necessary information. That's probably the most correct way.
2007-01-02 06:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by Bostonian In MO 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We faced the same dilemma because I find registry info incredibly helpful. The solution: eweddings.com website + postcards. Our wedding website has a section for registry info and we also bought postcards at staples to print out with directions, registry, and hotel info. The website is also great because we have it available for 6 months after the wedding to post pictures.
Honestly I am going to stick the postcards in the same envelope as the invitations because I see no point in spending any more on postage, but we also have fairly informal families in which 90% would not even notice the faux pas. I think a lot of it depends on the audience to which you will be sending the invites to. Good luck!
2007-01-02 16:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by Laurie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe your friend WAS wrong.
Properly done, if as a guest I am concerned about getting something you can actually use, I should call you or a family member, such as the bride's mother to see where you are registered. And this would be the time for Mom to tell me that you could use cash as well.
It is rude to tell your guests that you EXPECT them to buy you something so that they are permitted to attend your wedding. If that is the only reason you are having a wedding, rather than to share this special time with family & friends.......
Most stores now have on line registeries that out-of-towners can check. And if they don't have a computer, graciously accept the gifts you receive.
2007-01-02 06:26:04 · answer #11 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋