we fought yesterday and we get the bus to work together in the mornings. As she got off the bus this morning I noticed she never had it on. I haven't had a chance to aks her about it yet.
2007-01-02 05:58:37 · 36 answers · asked by efil_4_msdb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
She wears it to bed, in the shower, she never takes it off for anything - ever. She had all her other jewelry on except this so I find it strange for her to 'forget'. I'm worried that taking the ring off over a fight isn't good for later. I never cheated or anything bad like that - we just got into an argument over something small and escalated to a fight. I don't even remember what it started as.
2007-01-02 06:19:11 · update #1
No, that's not right. If she said yes, then she said yes, to the ups and downs. I think you either have to ask yourself if she's just being immature, and what will that lead to later or if you can change that immaturity, or if she really loves you and she's just trying to get your attention.Right now it's not a big deal, but it is a sign of things to come.If shes can easily take off the ring, then just think about what she can and will do while being married. Talk to her and find out, I'm sure she loves you.Good luck.
2007-01-02 06:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by dmv135 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does kinda send a bad impression. If she isn't wearing the wedding, she is implying that she no longer wants to get married. If the fight was over serious matters then that might be expected, but if the situation was not so serious then why would she remove the ring. If she is willing to "call it quits" when things get rough now, how much energy will she be able to put into making the marriage work. Will she remove the ring so easily then? If so, then this could be serious.
BUT, it might just be coincidence. Maybe she just forgot to put it on while dressing this morning. Before jumping to conclusions that the fight is the reason she isn't wearing it, make sure thats the way it really went. See if she puts it on when she gets home from work, or even if she puts it on tomorrow. If not, then it may be time to ask her why she isn't wearing it.
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!
2007-01-02 06:03:52 · answer #2 · answered by wunluv06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i just got engaged on Christmas and we had a HUGE argument on new years i wanted to take my ring off and call it quits but I really thought about it and realized i love this man and through thick and thin we will stay together. I took it off for about 5 min put it in my pocket and i didn't feel right without it. Maybe she's not that serious about getting married. Talk to her in a calm voice and ask if she is really serious about being with you. If not let her go but go in good terms.
2007-01-02 06:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right - it's not good. That ring is supposed to symbolize your commitment to each other, and if that ring is conditional on how you feel at that moment - your marriage will not last. Fights/arguements happen - a successful marriage is one that is committed befure, during and after each one - and as a symbol of that committment, removing that ring is a dangerous starting point towards letting go of the commitment as well.
2007-01-02 06:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey mike,
no i don't think its right for her to not wear the ring. its a symbol of the love and affection you guys have not the feelings behind the fight (unless you were caught cheating) tell her that its not what the fight about that's important but the fact that you guys are communicating because that's what will take you through the test of time.
2007-01-02 06:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Tina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had better apologize, even if you don't think you were in the wrong; get used to it. I used to do the same thing with my wedding rings; when we would fight, I'd keep them off for a while, and have even returned them to him. We are picky little heartless creatures sometimes, we women, but things that get us emotional really need to be resolved.
2007-01-02 08:49:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be pretty mad if I were you. I think that my fiance would literally have to cut my finger off to get my engagement ring off. Besides cheating on me, there is no fight that would ever make me take my ring off. You should definitely call her out on it.
2007-01-02 06:21:48 · answer #7 · answered by jenna11rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do things in anger. She is probably just mad at you right now and figured you would see it this morning. Guess you didn't talk to each other on the bus. You are engaged to be married so I find that odd. Hopefully things will calm down soon.
2007-01-02 06:01:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand you not liking that she has done that but my guess is she has done it on purpose to get back at you and/or show her displeasure after the fight... Let her cool off. Most likely she will put it back on once you two are on the mend, so go make nice...
2007-01-02 06:08:00 · answer #9 · answered by kewtber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to sound mean but after your fight she is probably doubting she wants to marry you or she is doing it to get back at you. Either way you two need to sit down and have a talk
2007-01-02 06:06:27 · answer #10 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋