My friend is dating a liar, cheater, and all around scumbag but she won't listen?

Question

My good friend is dating someone we all know is bad news. She refuses to see him for what he truly is, a liar and a cheater. She thinks that it won't happen to her because she understands him better than his other gf - but I say once a cheater always a cheater. Should I leave her alone to figure this out - or should I keep trying to get her to see the light of day?

Answer 1

You're wasting your time if you think you're gonna get her to listen to you. Just be there for her and hope that his true colors show soon.

You are a good friend to be worried about and for her.

Answer 2

Good friends always try to protect their friends from whatever. I'd say to keep trying to tell her but not on a daily basis. It would help if you have some "proof" that he is STILL a liar and a cheater! If you do, and she still won't listen, then lay off, she'll have to learn on her own! But, be there for her when she does!!

Answer 3

A good friend would explain to her that this man has shown traits in the past which would make him not ideal as a boyfriend. Give facts. Don't resort to name calling.

Make sure she knows that the reson you're bringing it up is because you care, and only want the best for her.

That said, let her know that you're her friend regardless, and if she chooses to stay with him that you'll still be there for her. She may know more than you think she knows. Sometimes people really do change.

Answer 4

You can keep trying to explain it to her, but do not push her. You might lose her as a friend if you push too hard.

We see what we want to see. You cannot make her see how bad the guy is if she does not want to. She may not even accept that he has been bad to her until he does something really hurtful.

Just be there for her and remember that love can be blind and get us all into trouble. Sometimes we just have to go through the pain before we accept the truth.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 5

Maybe deep down in her she likes the fact he is a bad boy. Many people have this problem, both men and women. Usually it ends up bad, so if you really love your friend be straight up with her. If she doesn't listen there is really nothing you can do but sit and watch. Life is a series of lessons, and this will be a good one for her.

Answer 6

Unfortunately she seems to be totally infatuated with this guy. There is nothing anyone can say to her , because she probably thinks she is the one who can change him. Sadly only when she ends up getting hurt will she find out the hard way. Hopefully for her maybe he will change and be faithful to her.

Answer 7

You have to let her find out for herself what kind of man he is. She'll never listen to you- as she is blinded by love. And if you keep telling her, she'll end up turning on you and it could end your friendship. She'll think you're jelaous or don't want her to be happy, or whatever. Sometimes you have to let people make their own mistakes so they can learn for themselves.

Answer 8

Obviously you care about your friend. Let her find out on her own. It's ok to let her know what you think about him, but, she needs to fail on her own. You cant rescue everyone from themselves. I know its hard because, I think women like you know a real loser when they see them. Women have detective skills that most of us dont think about. Your a great detective but you cant fix this or you would have done it already. Peace be with you.

Answer 9

Let her figure it all out on her own,but still keep a close eye on her cuz I'm sure you don't want anything to happen to your friend.

Answer 10

You have to leave her alone. If you've given her your opinions once, that's enough. Being her friend means not judging her and always being there to support her.