i've been dating my bf for over a year now. i'm a college student and have started to see another guy at my school. i'm currently on vacation, so i haven't seen this guy for about a couple weeks now but i constantly dream about him and think about him. i think i'm starting to really like this other guy. i'm so confused right now!! i dont want to break up with my boyfriend because i'm afraid that i'll regret it but at the sametime, i want to because i like another guy. what should i do!! i can't get to know the other guy while i'm dating my boyfriend because he would break up with me he said. Please Help. Thanks
2007-01-02 05:49:42 · 17 answers · asked by appletree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are young and your infatuation with this new person is your brain's way of telling you that you are not ready to be with just one person. Maybe your boyfriend feels the same way.
2007-01-02 05:52:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest dude, I have been where you are and its not weather you want to leave your boyfriend or not its just that you been with him for a long time and this new guy comes into the picture...Its a fling that's about it the reason you dream about him is just that you are more then like just into him because his the new guy you just got to know...Think about what you may or may not end up doing but just know this and this really comes from the heart, its hard when someone cheats on you and its even harder to tell the person you cheat on them.... so just trust yourself and make sure that this new guy want what you want and is willing to be there for you as your current bf was!!!
2007-01-02 14:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel! I always hate making desicions about guys, i am always afraid of picking the wrong one, i kind of like to keep my options open if you know what i mean. I bet your the same way!
Anyways, i think you should weigh your options, like the pro's and con's with each guy.
Like you have already had a year with your current boyfriend, and the new guys is fun and an adventure! I can't tell you what to do, because i am like you and always have trouble making up my mind!
But your in college and maybe it's time for something new....
2007-01-02 13:57:58 · answer #3 · answered by amanda_062 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shoudldnt lead ur boyfriend on. tell him you want to take a break. during u break say u think it would be best to see other ppl. after uve been dating the other guy for a while and u still like him make the break perminate. if u find out hes not for u get back wit ur old bf. simple
2007-01-02 13:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step away from the situation and decide if this new guy is really worth it. Make a list of each of their good qualities and their bad. It sounds like you are trying to keep your boyfriend on the back burner just in-case things don't work with the new guy and that is not fair. Make a choice and make one that you can live with.
2007-01-02 13:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this other guy then you should break up with your boyfriend. It's not fair to any of you to continue your relationship with your boyfriend while you're thinking of this other guy. Breaking up is hard and sad and that's why people don't want to go through the break-up but it is necessary if you want to pursue this other guy. Good luck.
2007-01-02 13:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but you need to choose. You're not being fair to either one. Love and life have no guaratees and that's what you're looking for. You want one of them to say that they will never leave, make you happy forever, etc. This is not a fairy tale but real life...
Be fair and honest, list the likes and dislikes of each and then choose but do it quickly.
How would you feel if your bf was doing the same thing to you in keeping his options open. Somehow I don't believe you would appreciate that.
2007-01-02 13:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really feel that u have a really good connection with this guy i say u give him a chance and tell ur boyfriend u wanna take a break. but if u dont think u wont go any where w/ this new guy then stick w/ ur boyfriend...i dont know u or these guys so its ur final call on what u do.
2007-01-02 13:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by Lex[baller#11]<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not being fair to either one of these guys or yourself. You have to choose. That will help you feel better about yourself also. Of course your boyfriend would break up with you if he found out about the other guy. Wouldn't you if it was the other way around?
2007-01-02 13:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by smoothie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is not a matter of u liking me is a matter of is he feeling the same way about u?and u have to be careful on what u decide cos most people pretend to love u and when they get what they want they kick u out,so if i were u i will hold tight to bird i have than that one in the bush,hope u have had that proverb b4 and understand the meaning
2007-01-02 13:57:15 · answer #10 · answered by combs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋