How to portray confidence?

Question

I have been told that its not necessarily beauty that attracts guys its confidence. My question is how do i portray this confidence wen youre not a confident girl

Answer 1

smile, head up, flip hair, chest out, and act like your a queen!

Answer 2

Confidence is very difficult to portray, particularly if you are not confident. Confidence is about having positive thinking and believing in yourself. Try to be optimistic, for instance: your glass is half full not half empty. The mind is a powerful thing, and psychology can be a useful tool! Get yourself a couple of self-help books, something to do with low self esteem for example. Are you quite young? Because when you are young life can be quite tough, confidence can come with experience. If you are an older adult, then you are obviously not feeling too good about yourself, and you could possibly be quite shy. Do try not to worry about being around people, they are only human like you; and you will be surprised just how many people are just as nervous as you. Learn to have steady body language, smile even though you may not feel like it. If you run out of things to say to people, ask them questions about themselves, and what they think of certain things. People love talking about themselves and what they are interested in. Take the time to listen to people and show an interest in what they are saying; even if you think that what they are saying is boring. Always remember a good saying which goes: 'The people that matter don't mind, and the people that mind don't matter.'
You can do it if you try, sometimes it will be hard, but just force yourself to get out there and enjoy people and life. I wish you all the best!!!!

Answer 3

You can achieve this with self-speak. What you say to yourself, in your head and out loud, on a daily basis is what you will begin to believe. Look right in the mirror and tell yourself you are witty and charming and smart and hot and sexy and whatever it is you feel you need to hear in order to put yourself out there like that. Banish from your thoughts and your words that you are not a confident girl or not beautiful. You will believe the bad things you hear, too, so be sure not to hear any. A good part of confidence is fake at the outset, so you have to be willing to fake it until you feel it. Eventually, it will come much more naturally to you. This is true for the social scene and the business world.

Answer 4

You're correct that a little confidence goes a long way. I told my wife just the other night that one of the main reasons why I'm so attracted to her is that she is (and always has been) a strong woman. Strong women teach us what it means to be men by challenging us, bolstering us and supporting us.

I'm less sure that confidence is something that can be taught. I myself am not the most confident of people, but I think the answer lies in finding what you are good at and deriving your confidence from that.

Physically, you convey confidence (or lack thereof) in your body language. To do this, you have to develop mental confidence and this will impact the degree of confidence you display physically. I don't think working the other way around would work.

Change you way of thinking. Identify negative thoughts when they crop up and counter them with thoughts that are uplifting and affirming to you as a person.

One of my favorite quotes on confidence comes from Salvador Dali, who was a bit of an egomaniac: "Every day when I wake up, I face the extraordinary pleasure of being Salvador Dali."

If we could all think that way, I think we'd all have a greater degree of confidence. Good luck!

Answer 5

The best way to portray genuine confidence is to be confident in who you are. I know it's much harder than it sounds, but it's possible. You deserve to feel confident in who you are, and far better equipped to deal with the ups and downs of a relationship if you can accept yourself - but the work must come from you. Start with your thoughts - build yourself up rather than put yourself down. Try not to dwell on what others think of you. It is possible, I promise. Good luck X

Answer 6

The keys to confidence are being comfortable with being alone, having patience with the dating process (not settling for what you don't want), learning to balance kindness (personal integrity) and assertiveness, and having maximized your self-image (doing everything you can to look your best). Also, I recommend getting plenty of rest and not going too far out of your way to establish a relationship. Let them do some work (you'll need to learn how to train people to treat you properly--human nature is both good and bad). However, smiling and being polite are also important. Finally, I recommend learning what it means to market yourself as a "defined product" in a "target rich environment" (see Dr. Phil website).

Answer 7

I would look at some comms skills techniques that allow you to portray gravitas/confidence even if you are not.

Things like not being scared to pause rather then umm and arring
body language and eye contact etc etc

It's good to review any video footage of yourself and then think about how you come across to others.

Answer 8

You can't. It's not something you can't pretend. If you want to learn how to be more confident, you need to have success with some of the things that you are doing in your life. Perfect a few things that you are already good at. Become knowledgeable on certain topics. Read, read, read and know what you know. Don't flaunt it but know it.

Answer 9

Relationships don't last because people try and be somebody they are not and they attract the wrong person. Don't be false or you will attract the wrong guys, be yourself and you will find your perfect match.

All girls think other girls are confident but it's jut not true. So-called 'confident' people scare guys away. A lot of celebs say they are insecure.

Answer 10

If you are pretty it will show not only outter beauty but inside. Its inner beauty that will make you confident on the outside. Smile all the time and everyone will notice. Be friendly .

Answer 11

Become a real Christian, the Holy Ghost will give you the confidence you need.