i feel so bad! how can i improve myself and get this guy that i like love me?

Question

i'm so so shy, that i can hardly talk to a guy!! whenever i see the guy that i like, i get extremly embaressed. LASt time when i saw him, i jsut ran away instead of talking to him!! He's so hot, and i feel that i'm nothing next to him. I caught his eye sometimes, and when i look at him he looks down as if embaressed. How can i improve myself and get at least to look into his eyes and smile at him?? Is being 1.64m and 64kg bad??

what's the right ice breaker for us? (being shy...)

is this a good idea? I thought of calling him and ask him if i can do a survey to him. i'll tell him that he can win a plasma screen, therefore i'll need his e-mail to inform him if he won or not. I already tried it, but there was only his mother. should i try it again??

Answer 1

You shouldn't have to "improve" yourself for someone to love you. You should find someone that loves you for who you are not what you look like.

Answer 2

Well self pity is never a good trait to carry - but don't feel worse for it :p Sometimes our minds will make a list of all the things we *want* to have, or things we see other people have, and wish something like that for our selves. Often when we are doing this we have this idea that what ever it is that we are wanting would be great, and awesome and perfect - but almost nothing is without its consequences. It's much healthier to think about what you do have, what you have done, and what you can do. Think about all of the people around the world who don't have clean water to drink, or don't have enough food to feed their families. Diet and exorcise also play a HUGE role in how you feel about your self. If you don't feel like you have the energy to exorcise, then look at your diet first. If you seriously think you might be experiencing depression, Yahoo Answers isn't going to be able to diagnose you. Talk to a counselor. Depression is a heavy weight that can hold down every aspect of life; it's important to find a way to kick it off your back. Cheers and good luck

Answer 3

dont u dare improve urself 4 somebody else. make adjustments 2 urself if YOU feel that it would be for the better but not because you feel you would suit this guy more!!!
u say he looks down as if hes embaressed maybe hes just as shy as you really. flirt with him or go and talk to . believe that u r just as good as him possibly even better and things will work out!!
love isn't surface deep so he's not gonna love u by you changing whats on the outside let him no the inside -real you!!
best wishes

Answer 4

I know nothing about conversion of height as m and kg to pounds. But you are going to have to get outta your shell.As in shyness. When you see this boy again smile and look into his eyes. That will be an ice breaker. You are something and dont let you or anyone think you arent. He has already looked at you so dont let yourself think he was embarrassed. Good luck to you.

Answer 5

well ,first of all u don't need to improve urself all u gotta do is but a little confidence in the picture.I had the same issue .You can first start with an easy step by say a simple conversation like hi then from then ur relationship and confidence will grow more

Answer 6

the only thing you need to improve is your courage. if he looks down as if is embaressed then go over before he walks away and talk to him because you never know he could like you. if you don't want to talk to him in person then try to find out his number because sometimes its easier to talk to someone on the phone then meet in person. that's how i got my boyfriend to talk to me i called him one night when i knew he would be home for a while and yeah i almost hung up but i talked to him and now we are going out. all i need to do was step up forget being embaressed

Answer 7

first off you have to have confidence in your self, if he really likes you for who you are, he will fall in love with you when your just being yourself. Ask him how he feels about you, TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. I went through the same thing, I never thought Id be good enough for this one guy because he was hott, and everyone liked him, and one day I called him up told him how I felt, and weve been together ever since.

Answer 8

Thing big sweetheart. Often, its easy to be intimidated, but you've already got all it takes... just be yourself. The most important thing is to find somebody who will love you for who YOU are, not what you think they want you to be.

My advice? Read a book called "The Magic of Thinking Big"... its a wonderful book on believing in yourself. Another good book is "Conquering an Enemy called Average"

Answer 9

well i think you should at least say hi every time you see that you caught his eye.
you shouldnt be shy!you should love the fact that hes looking at you.adore him from a disstance.let the actions speak for them self.you should be confertable with yourself.not too confident or anything.just let him know your single.and your looking for someone.and that someone might be him.ask him for a cup of cofee.or anything just to get him to smile at you would do the trick.good luck girl!

Answer 10

You know I never believe what most ppl told me about first loving your self and that you dont need to change for anyone else but yourself...and you know its sooo true. You should change only to make yourself feel better not to get someone to notice you. Trust me, give yourself time you dont have to rush love, love come to those who wait. I know what you must be telling yourself right now, this is just another help yourself tip but its really not once your happy with who you are ppl well start to notice you for who you are. ;)

Answer 11

ok, you might try writting down exactly it is u want to say, to him, think abt it !! Then slip him a note,,who knows? Just saying happy new year and secondly what have u got to loose? just a decline, there are other fish in the sea. The worst effort, is the one not done!! Try it