In the hierarchy of relationships (i.e. friends, family coworkers, lovers) where should friends rank?
2007-01-02 05:30:59 · 16 answers · asked by writerchick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many people sacrifice their friendships when exploring a love interest.
This is not wise - as if you ignore your friends they may not be around later when you are looking, or when you need someone.
A person should strive for balance. A woman does not get what it is to be a woman from hanging out with guys. Neithier does a man get what it is to be a man from hanging out with women all the time.
2007-01-02 05:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about a relationship hierachy, but I will say this. I think friends should be understanding to the fact that when you fall in love, or are in a new exciting relationship it is normal that the relationship becomes all consuming. You think about the person all the time, and you want to spend whatever free time you have with them etc. This is natural. I think that friends that are really your friends should try to be understanding. A real friend will be there no matter what. Yes their feelings might be hurt a little, but they should suck it up, and still be there for you. When they get into a relationship and it is their turn that is how they will want you to treat them. This is what happened between a good friend of mine and myself. When I dating my husband. She got over it. But now she is dating someone. I don't even hear from her as much, but i'm here. She is enjoying herself right now, and when the newness wears off she will come back around. And I will be here.
2007-01-02 13:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question. I guess if you are starting a new relationship and it's something really special, then you need to spend time with that person, get to know them, etc. However, don't completely put your friends on the back-burner (that's a good way to lose them). Reserve a few nights a week that are just for your friends and a few nights for your new love interest. If your really going to get to know your new love interest, you have to have some "alone" time, no doubt. And if your friends are good friends, they will understand and be excited for you.
2007-01-02 13:38:58 · answer #3 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends will inevitably become a lower priority, your new love interest will want more of your time, but that person should be giving you something your friends don't. i do not believe friends should ever be forsaken. your friends say a lot about who you are, and your new love interest should not be trying to change that. depending on where the relationship goes, that love interest could be closer to family, but friends are a close 2nd behind that
2007-01-02 13:36:15 · answer #4 · answered by schroeder_ce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not forsake your friends but as you grow older and move along in life, there are several times that priorities will change.
For example as a baby your priority is to eat, sleep, etc. As a growing child into young adult your priorites are family (parents and siblings, school, friends. As an adult family (wife, kids, etc), family (parents and siblings, etc), work, friends, etc.
It is up to the individual to put their priorities in place... some put work first.
2007-01-02 13:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they are close to you I would say they would rank right up with the love interest, when some people fall in love they forget their friends, while others don't. I guess it depends on how you feel about your friend, if you weren't close to start with then you might less time with that person than you did before
2007-01-02 13:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your friends giving you the pootany? Are they?! Are they!?! No they aren't! So they get lower priority(sp?) until they can match what the love interest can give.
ps: I saw your nick so change out pootany with smoked sausage.
2007-01-02 13:33:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't. Is it going to happen anyways? Yes, it's natural. A romantic relationship goes so much deeper then a friendship. It really can't be helped.
2007-01-02 13:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hopefully you've made the right choice and when this happens- of course others have a lower priority- but don't forsake them silly.
If they're are only reasonably intelligent they totally understand your 'love' will deserve your priority.
2007-01-02 13:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by MeaCulpa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lover, friends, family are all part of someone's life. Believe me, if you lose one of the pieces of this pazzle you will miss it... Try keep them all in your life, every piece in it's own way. That will make you happy!
2007-01-02 13:38:46 · answer #10 · answered by Nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋