I met him about 2 months ago through and advert in a newspaper.
After talking on the phone and exchanging text messaging for a week, we met up.
When I first saw him, I was defleated, disappointed. Not what I had expected. But I didn't want to hurt his feelings and also wanted to see who he was inside.
The few times we slept together were great. And we do get on well.
Only I keep blowing hot and cold. I don't fancy him.
I have tried to observe him; See him in a different environment and really look at him, but I still don't know. One minute it's great, the other I can't stand him touching me.
I have been totally honest with him as how I felt about him.
But he wants to keep trying.
I don't know if I should just stop it and move on or keep trying myself.
I don't feel that I love him. I don't really fancy him. I do like some things about him. But...
Will my feelings grow in time?
I was in love with a guy I've been doing my best to forget, and hope to get there. Now what?
2007-01-02 05:23:05 · 16 answers · asked by Kc 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I thank you all so very much for your answers. The bottom line is I must let it happen and not run after it.
So hopefully 2007 will be the year; And one my new resolutions is to stop looking.
Thanks.xxx
2007-01-02 07:05:38 · update #1
honestly sounds like your loney and want to be with someone..anyone. You can't force yourself to be with someone you don't fancy. At the end of the day the longer it goes on the more it's going to hurt him. Being loney is crap but there are tons of men out there.
2007-01-02 05:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you should step back and do a 'pro' & 'con' list, see how the two lists balance out, if you find that one side is alot longer than the other go with your instincts.
The other reason may be that you are not ready for another relationship because you are not over the grieving process of the one you were in love with, this would put a block on any feelings he would like you to have.
2007-01-02 05:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by shortstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been dating? If it's been a substantial amount of time and you still don't have the ultimate warm-fuzzies for this guy, then it's time to move on. It's not fair to either of you to stay together. You could be with someone you are head-over-heels for and at the same time, does your guy really want to be with someone who is only going to have luke-warm feelings toward him? Maybe you should just be friends. Life is too short to waste your time in a relationship you are not super-jazzed about.
2007-01-02 05:34:02 · answer #3 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should finish it with this man. Your feelings wont change you'll just put up with him and thats not fair on you or him. It sounds like you might be re-bounding from this other relationship so why not spend some time on your own for a while and someone good will come along-they always do when your not looking.
2007-01-02 05:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are rebounding like a giant beachball!
This one was good for the time you were together, but its not a keeper.
The next one might be better.
Just keep looking until someone ticks all those boxes, you just don't know whats round the corner. Corny but true.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 05:28:11 · answer #5 · answered by johnstone4192 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you really HAVE GOT to fancy the person you expect to fall in love with, that's how it starts, he could be Quasimodo, but as long as you fancied him then a relationship would blossom. You have got to have that initial spark there for anything to develop & it sounds as though you have not, so I would suggest you stop wasting both of your time.
2007-01-02 05:29:44 · answer #6 · answered by Denise W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the foundation of your relationships (love) is physical appearance alone, then you are building a structure on sandy ground. Try building a simpler relationship first, one that is loving and giving without having to be physical. If it fails at this level then it certainly won't fly long term.
2007-01-02 05:53:14 · answer #7 · answered by David M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, if you don't fancy him & don't love him, then move on, he cant give you what you are looking for, it has to be natural and be him not him pretending or trying to change what he looks like or how he acts., he's not got it, otherwise you wouldn't be questioning it... Move on, you hanging round is only gonna hurt him more and make you bitter!!!!
2007-01-02 05:33:07 · answer #8 · answered by anney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing? Have you ever thought about it? Wake up. This is not some arranged thing you are forced to be in. Are you desperate?
You can't force yourself to be in love with someone. Move on and find someone who trips your trigger. Life is too short for this nonsense.
2007-01-02 05:28:14 · answer #9 · answered by justbeingher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To 'LOVE' someone and to 'BE IN LOVE' with someone are different.
The answer is no. I was in just such a relationship for 13 years - and even though they were happy times - her time as well as mine were ultimately wasted.
So do the fairest, and kindest, thing!
xx
2007-01-02 05:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋