What do you think?

Question

ok.. its a long story so be patient. I have been talking to this guy online for about 5 months now, and I really like him (I think I love him) we caht almost everyday and we talk on the phone all the time. THe thing is He lives in Cali and I liv in Texas, so I wanted to move up there...but I am scared because although he says he cares for me I know he flirts everyday online with other women. SO, I told him that maybe we should take a little time off till he decided what he wanted, the single flirting life or if he really wanted to be with me. He told that the hardest part is to believe to have so many things, so many feelings and emotions and just walk away from that but that he did not know what he wants... I haven't heard from him since (about 3 weeks)... do you think he moved on? Do you think he needs more time? What should I do? Should I still move to Cali and go to school over there???

Answer 1

Do not move to California! He probably has forgotton about you. Yes, that sucks bad. But imagine what you could be going through alone in a new city.

Answer 2

I looked at your thumbnail picture and from what I can see you are beautifull. If he was telling you he loved you and flirting with other women, forget him. You haven't heard from him in 3 weeks because he either moved on and never really cared or this is a sick twisted way of punishing you for saying something like that. It will probably be a small matter of time before you hear from him again and he probably will be hoping that you are so happy to hear from him you will just move out to california and not ask questions. Look, you have had nothing from this man other than talking. Walking away now if he is behaving like this may sting a little or a lot but I promise you if you just move out to California or continue to pursue anything with this person you will get burned beyond what you have even considered up to this point. Be carefull and protect your heart.

Answer 3

I think that you should call him and find out where he's at before you do anything. If he wants to be with you, before you move to Cali, I would schedule a vacation or a weekend there to see if things are capatible in person and to make sure that he's just not some player who is excellent at long distance relationships but sucks at the up close and personal ones. If it's all good than go for it and move there, just make sure that you are okay with it... like would you be happy living there if he wasn't there type of thing. That way if something does go wrong, you will be content to stay there and finish school.

Answer 4

What are you thinking? He told you straight up, weren't you listening??? You haven't heard from him in 3 weeks, don't you take hints? I know I sound a bit disgusted, but I don't understand why you are still even thinking twice about moving after a guy says those things to you? You haven't even meet! Talking each day on the computer is a whole lot different being with someone in person. How do you actually know everything he said was the honest truth? You don't! You even said he is still flirting with a lot of other females. Is that someone you want to move miles for. You think he's going to stop for you? NOT!!!!!!! Just remember-ACTIONS SPEAK A WHOLE LOT LOUDER THAN WORDS-ESPECIALLY ON A COMPUTER!!!!

Answer 5

Dating on line is not real. Do you realize what kind of world we live in and how dangerous it is to put your faith in some idiot on the internet that flirts with you? Your obviously attractive (your photo is really nice). Why don't you meet guys in real life situations and leave the internet to just "online chatting." People lie their buttz off on the net, especially when your dealing with a guy that is probably stringing you along. Smarten up....go to school anywhere you want, but, dont rely on the net for any kind of quality relationship....it doesnt exist. Not at your age and good looks. Read NancyBucks remarks.....she is right.

Answer 6

Don't move to California just in case he decides he doesn't want to be with you (just in case, you sound like a great person!!). You should give him a little more time so you don't sound too pushy or desperate. Those things really turn guys off. Let him come to you. If he hasn't gotten in touch with you in a week or two, then you can talk to him. Right now he's trying to figure out a life-changing situation, let him think it through.

Answer 7

You are a beautiful woman and I am sure you have plenty of guys knocking at your door. With that in mind is it a smart thing to pick up and move to another state for a person that you have never met in person. If you are that interested take a weeks vacation to cali and meet him and see where it goes from there

Answer 8

Cali is a good place to live and go to school- but for this guy? Hell no!
I think you should wait a week and when you are thinking objectively and not emotional- read your question- You will intuitively come up with the right answer- Trust your instincts

Answer 9

People can portray and pretend when they chat online or talk on the phone. I say let it go. Don't leave everything you have behind. If you want to move, make sure that you do it for yourself and not because of some guys you haven't even met. I think he moved on and you should do the same.

Answer 10

Uh no you shouldn't move to California. You only really know him by the phone..and online...If you are to have a relationship with him, you should both establish this before you make a big move. I think getting involved with someone on line is dangerous anyway. So think twice and be careful. you don't want to end up another statistic.

Answer 11

Definately do not move. First, if he "loved" you like you love him, there is no way he could just stop talking to you. It would drive him mad. How do you know that he hasnt done this to others as well? maybe he is just a computer junkie? I hope it works out for you because hurting is NEVER easy. But moving at this point would be a very bad idea. good luck.