ALOT worse than normal. They are tap dancing on my last nerve... any suggestions??? I'm about to string them up by their toes in the tree outside!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-02 05:03:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
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2007-01-02 05:08:50 · update #1
My 2 kids do the same thing. I wait to see if they can work out the problems themselves but if they still carry on I get involved. I ask to see why they are fighting. I try to fix the problem and if that doesn't work I seperate them and make them find something else to do that doesn't involve one another............
2007-01-02 08:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's pretty normal, especially with that age range. I'm sure it doesn't help that they are not used to being together, and they've been stuck together with school being out.
The funny thing is, to you it seems like dumb stuff, because you are older and have more experience with life. For them it's very serious stuff, and it'd help a lot if you would take these seriously, like you had two friends who were arguing over things.
Fill up their time, so they don't have so much spare time in which to fight...put out craft stuff, go to the zoo or museum, take their arguments seriously and help them figure things out. Use love and logic, online there is a series on sibling rivalry.
Worse comes to worst, if nothing else worked, I would put my arguing kids in a small room and tell them they can come out when they are finished. Not allowed to use physical means to make a point, no screaming, etc. I think my seven yo and six yo spent about half an hour arguing before they decided *I* was being unreasonable and started laughing.
2007-01-02 14:56:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I grew up with 4 brothers and a sister. We fought ALL the time. We fought over who sat where, who had more cereal in their bowls, what we could watch on t.v. My parents went grey quickly with all of our fights.
I am not sure what to tell you except that this is probably "normal" behavior. It is not acceptable behavior, but it's normal.
Do you have standard 'punishments' or penalties for fighting? I would start enforcing them. Put them in chairs in separate parts of the room (a time out so to speak). Tell them fighting is not appropriate and that they need to settle their differences without fighting- physically or verbally.
Reward them with praise when they are getting along. Maybe give them an 'incentive' when you catch them behaving appropriately- (more t.v. time or something like that).
Hang in there, it's only going to get more 'fun' as they get older.
BTW- I am in my 50s now. I can still recall how we fought. God bless my parents and their vast reserve of patience!
2007-01-02 13:15:22 · answer #3 · answered by Malika 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have boys that are almost 10 years apart. it is very important to allow them time apart, mainly the older one. Give the 8 year old their own time in a room by themselves and keep the 5 year old with you away from the 8 year old.
If they spend too much time together they will grow tired of each other. best to make it more of a privilege than an obligation to play together.
hope this helps.
2007-01-02 13:25:59 · answer #4 · answered by Free Falling 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 9 and 7 year old boys, and a 5 year old daughter, so I feel your pain! Unfortunatly though, that just the way it goes! One minute they are playing together nicely, and the next they are fighting over something silly. The joys of having children!
2007-01-02 13:12:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
lol...its normal for little kids to fight all the time because my nieces are 5 and 7 and all they do is fuss and fight...try to seperate them like send one to a friends or take them where theres other kids like the playground or chucky cheese...its just they might get tired of each other and need someone new to play
2007-01-02 13:13:14 · answer #6 · answered by ♥THIKKNEZZ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bro and I are 3 years apart. We fought ALL the time. Im sure we put our mom threw hell and back, but you just need to deal with it. They will be the best of friends when they are older and you will be so happy you had two!
2007-01-02 13:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Call Nanny 911.
2007-01-02 14:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by Max 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when they fight punish then by taking away there favorite toys they like to pay with and if tat doesnt work let em fightand when they finish fighting make them stand in one spot and hug each other for as long as yu want them too
2007-01-02 15:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by carlee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah i know what u mean my best friend and her little sister are the same age and when they were those ages WOW it was BADDDD!!!!
but do what her mom did you know those rockin' robots well she bought them those when they got in a fight they took it out one the robots instead of each other
2007-01-02 13:15:14 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋