I am a married 33 year old man. There is another couple that we are friends with. She stays at home. I stopped by their house one day at lunch to pick up something. I ended up sitting around for an hour just talking with her. Her husband is an hourly worker that is not allowed to come home for lunch. Well, it became common for me to spend one lunch a week with her. No sex just talk. Sometimes I would go with her to get things done in town so I could help her with the kids. I found myself looking forward to those days and becoming close to her. We stopped this about 3 weeks ago because of the appearance of it. We never had sex, talked about sex, or even touched. We just talked about our lives and what was going on. I know that we can not continue because of what others will say we are doing. I miss it though. I have thought about trying to find someone to talk to on the phone or email to have this kind of relationship. But it is hard to do. I have a pretty cushy management job what allows me lots of free time and that is both good and bad. Is it common for ladies who stay at home all day alone to desire a friendship like this?
2007-01-02 05:00:35 · 16 answers · asked by Brian 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Yes .. I think it is very common... makes me wish you lived close to me...he he he. My husband works lots of hours and there are days I do not even talk to an adult. I think stay at home mom's wish for adult interaction. When my husband is around... he does not care to talk about daily stuff.. mainly wishes to talk about his job. I bet this woman misses your friendship as much as you do.
2007-01-02 05:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by chelleb0971 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I think so. However, I think in any circumstances, it is not always possible for men and women to be friends. She may, deep down be attracted to you... and possibly, in some way, you to her... mainly I say that because of the way you talked about how much you looked forward to the time you spent with her. I don't think either of you did anything wrong, since you said you didn't. But you also probably made the right choice to stop hanging out. A woman who stays home could very easily become lonely... but it would be better for her to acquire some new female friends (maybe other stay-at-home wives or moms...). And as for you, there are plenty of men out there to bond with as friends too.
2007-01-02 05:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by KSmom24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are heading for an affair quickly. Work with your wife to find out what is missing in your marriage. Face the fact that you are blaming "the other woman" because you don't want to take responsibility for what is happening. If need so, make an appointment with a counselor and discuss the issue with him/her. Talk honestly and use "I" messages. Only then will you be able to work this out.
2007-01-02 05:07:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's common for people who are alone all day to feel like that. We all need someone to talk to. As for you though, I don't think your wife would appreciate you trying so hard to have the friendship you're seeking with a woman. Maybe you can find a man with the same hobbies?
2007-01-02 05:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by HappilyEverAfter 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's common. But it is inappropriate for you, a man, to fill that need. She needs other ladies to talk with. Kids can drive ANYONE nuts if that's all they ever see.
You are taking unfair advantage of her. AND of her husband. Does he know about you? If not, why not? You are treading on dangerous ground. And as someone 'in management', you really should know better than this.
2007-01-02 05:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say its common for anyone to desire a friendship like this. Its nice to have someone to talk to. Its called a best friend, it sucks that people will assume the worst even if its not like that. Ask your wife if she has a problem with it. She might, she might not, but at least you would be being honest with her.
2007-01-02 05:03:40 · answer #6 · answered by TOO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
she may very well desire your friendship, you may be offering her something she does not get with her husband.it would be nice to have a friend around and have that kind of relationship. the tricky part of the friendship is that can you honestly believe it can stay that way? it may very well turn into a sexual relationship.its hard to draw the line. it would be easy for her to depend on you and need your attention.
2007-01-02 05:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by wisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I stay at home with my kids and I have no friends to hang out with, when my sister calls once a week ( she lives 550 miles away) we end up talking for about 2 hours. it gets very lonely at home alone and no one to talk to but your kids. I just try and keep busy
2007-01-02 05:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by kristinad21 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is nice to have someone to talk to besides the kids. To have this kind of relationship though should be taken cautiously.
2007-01-02 05:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes , shes probably lonely,maybe she should get involved in
volunteering her time, or go out into the public meet new friends or join a stay at home group
2007-01-02 05:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by sissy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋