I am having a terrible time coping about a guy I was with for a year and half. When we were together he told me he wanted to commit suicide. It was an ongoing issue so I recommended he talk to a professional but he wanted to talk to only me. I tried my hardest to help him. Come to find out he kept a secret that he had a child he never met w/ a one night stand before we met. I helped him come to terms with it and when he finally met the child he ended our relaionship to pursue one with the mother of his child. I found all this out when I was in the hospital this past summer. I was pretty ill and the response I got was never to call him again. And there after he manipulated me into thinking I aided him into going back to the mother because I told him he should be a part of his child's life. They are not together anymore. But I am having an awful time dealing with how he treated me after I helped him with his serious threats of suicide. Ironically, i'm seeking prof. help b/of this:(
2007-01-02 04:59:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Just be thankful you are away from him. Do some soul searching and you DON'T need someone else in your life right now. Figure out what you want / need in a relationship and I promise you'll never allow someone to treat you this badly again. He should be ashamed! Mental cruelty isn't far from what he's done. Do NOT go back with him.
2007-01-02 05:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by baby1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am glad to hear you are getting professional help with this. Nothing to make a frown about. He's mentally ill. He wanted attention and you gave it to him, unfortunately. Now you know. You cannot be your significant other's therapist. And you should never try again. Stay away from people like him. If you find out that your next bf has mental issues like that, you need to tell him he needs help. If he gets it, you can consider continuing the relationship IF you are staying in it for the right reasons. But if he refuses to get help like this last guy, you need to tell him that you wish him well, but you have to end the relationship. Even if he threatens to kill himself. You do not have the power to make him do that OR to stop him. No one does.
2007-01-02 05:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all - as adults - continued to enable her. What are you expecting from her now? She's drunk her brain away. You are dealing with a person that can't be sane or sober. Accept it. Get therapy for it if needed. Then move on... Add: My parents were both alcoholics...mom died of alcohol poisoning and dad is sober and alive but not the clearest "thinker" on the plants... Indiana below nailed it...I have long since forgiven them for what happened so that I can be happy living MY life.
2016-05-23 06:36:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you are just going to have to come to terms that some people don't see their actions as wrong. He probably doesn't even realize the work you did to keep up with his suicide talk. He used you and everyone gets used every once in a while. It sounds like you are depressed bc he left you for her. If it was me, I would just get to the point where I literally hate him instead of feeling depressed. *uck him!
2007-01-02 05:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by headstr8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep seeing your doctor just because he wouldnt - i saw a psyc. for 6 years straight and now i see one about once every 6 months for a check up and just to get things off my chest. you helped him out good for you but not every body in this world is gratefull. well if anything look at it this way so many fathers have nothing to do with the children you helped a child meet his dad weather or not hes a good dad the child will make his own mind up about that later!
2007-01-02 05:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by noel22f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he will not get the help he needs, and it is really getting you down, and it sounds like you have enough of your own problems and really don't want him in your life, just sit him down and tell him. If he keeps talking about taking his life, just call up the crisis line or a hospital and they will take over from there, and get him help if he likes it or not. Take care of yourself , and don't let him get to you.
2007-01-02 05:23:58 · answer #6 · answered by Ladyofathousandfaces 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess if you think you need help and you dont mind getting help with a conveyor of pills down your throat ya im getting over a relationship with someone when i been nothing but honest and the gal accused me of cheating and talking to other women when i have talked to other but we did not have intercourse or make out they were girls like you who were frustrated shure i wanted to have sex but i was only loyal to her and what did i git for being loyal and honest her beating the crap out of me for the holidays she was verbally and physically abusive and it was not good for me either i tried i really tried to teach her what i know instead she showed an evil face and she was the one sniffing arround on here getting dates and what not at the bars booty dancing after i stumbled on her site i just sunk i cant belive i was living a fantasy especially when she was pulling page after page of guys pics right why i was there trying to help her fix things because she is either to lazy but she tried to say what do i do for her there is not one time that i wasnt doing something for her and her kids assaulted me along with her i cant be that desperate for a realationship
2007-01-02 05:12:12 · answer #7 · answered by peter w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a first-class jerk and manipulator. Continue seeing your therapist, and chalk this up to one of life's harsh lessons. I doubt you'll ever be taken in again by a creep like him.
2007-01-02 05:36:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have alots of friends, i know pretty much everyone from our school, we hang out and we always do stuff together, but i always put a little distance, because i dont want them to get close me and tell me veyething, its very anoying...you should only care about you, and what make u feel better.
2007-01-02 05:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats awful, you need someone new in your life
2007-01-02 05:01:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋