2007-01-02 04:53:04 · 29 answers · asked by Libralady 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
listen to me first off you are not a bad parent. you are a wonderful parent. there is no reason why you shouldnt accept your daughter for who she is. i am sure she didnt get up one day and said mom i want to be a lesbian. and you did not get up one day and say dad i'm going to be heterozygous. if it's what she wants let it be. you're with a man and she wants to be with a woman. maybe she doesnt find interest in boys at all. i can bet she is 17 and if she had a boyfriend you would say it's too early to have a boyfriend and so forth. now that she has a girlfriend you wont accept maybe she is just trying to prove something to you. you wont accept anything at all she has done. this is what she wants then let her do what she wants. maybe she will change her mind maybe she wont. but being a parent is accepting your child for who he or she wants to become. this is what they want then let it be.
they are your children and they need you most because a lot of people wont accept them. they want to know that their mom is there for them and will accept them for what they are and not for who they are trying to be. listen mom ,you're a parent. if you cannot find it in your heart to accept your children for who they are then there is no point in being their mom. they want you to accept them because you are their flesh and blood. they want to know that you will be behind them in whatever they do. im a straight person. but I DON'T LABEL PEOPLE I LABEL JARS. in my eyes your daughters are what they want to be and not what other people say they are. it's up to you to accept them. you grew them. this is their decision they want to know that you are there with them. they want you to show them where they have went wrong but this is one thing they dont want to hear you say this is wrong. in their eyes it's not.
they are your children accept them fro who they are, that is what makes them different that is what makes them who they are today. ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE. and as i said. LABEL JARS NOT PEOPLE.
2007-01-02 08:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself if you love your daughter ? Is she respectful towards you,responsible, kind, going to school ?Has she always been a person you are proud of? If she is all these things don't risk losing your daughter over her possible sexual orientation.She may be experimenting or maybe she is lesbian.As parents we tell our children" we will love them no matter what" and we don't follow that statement with " as long as we approve".Your daughter needs to know you meant those words without conditions.Keep in mind she is still the same person she was before you found out about her relationship.
2007-01-02 05:04:46 · answer #2 · answered by gussie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I haven't experienced this, but it must be quite a shock to find out that your daughter is a lesbian. BUT- she is still your daughter and loves you as much as a heterosexual daughter would. God has chosen for her to have a different orientation than us. There is NOTHING wrong with her preference. Please don't let her down by putting down the way she is. If this puts a cramp in your relationship, I would seek a counselor to help you understand why she's attracted to other women. She will always be your daughter, she needs you to understand her and love her. She will face enough discrimination from closed-minded, uptight holier-than-thous.
2007-01-02 05:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all:
dont think you did something wrong and that you didnt teach this or that because it has nothing to do with it.
2. relax and dont ask her 1000 questions about it because it will only hurt your relationship.
3. once you are cool and have an open minded, have a heart to heart with her and let her explain you how she feel and why she chose to be a lesbian.
4. never compare and NEVER make stupid remarks about: linda smith got a HOT BF or stuff like that, you wont change your daughter's sexual prefference.
5 and please dont judge. she is your daughter and will alwaysbe
2007-01-02 06:14:51 · answer #4 · answered by chikis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is your child love her. She is old enough to choose who she loves and if you are unable to accept who she is, she may start to resent your judgments and choose not to love you. She was born with a different biological makeup then what you expected, So what, she needs you to help her feel comfortable with who she is as a person, not who you wish her to be. If she was born with a mental or physical problem would you love her less. NO, She is deserving of a loving parental unit, even if she chooses to love differntly then you have.
Good luck and accept your lovely daughter, She loves you.
2007-01-02 08:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remind her that you love her no matter what. You don't have to like the behavior she is doing to still love her as a person. Let her know you don't like it, but that you are there for her and she can talk to you about it. Don't judge her. Be honest and open to her about what you are going through. If she were a drug adict, you would hate the drugs and still love her. Tell her your worries about a lesbian relationship. Let her talk to you as well. It's important to keep the mother/daughter relationship going. Supporting her does NOT mean you have to like what she is doing.
2007-01-02 04:59:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Willy-nilly - there is nothing you can do for that!
You know gayness isn't a disease or a change people can obtain during their life.
By now it's well-known that sexuality is due to a mix of diverse accidental causes (intrauterine, genetical, social, environmental, etc.)
Therefore you only can accept the reality trying to support and help her now!
2007-01-02 05:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by whole_feelings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well my brother and father are gay and I have no problem with it. My dad is my dad and my brother is my brother, their sexuality has nothing to do with that. Its not different then my straight sister. I don't think about her sex life just like I don't think about my dads or brothers. It has nothing to do with who they are. I loved them before I found out they were gay and I love them after. I do however ask that my they do not discus their sex lives with me but like I said I don't want to hear about my straight sisters sex life either. Just don't think about that. Focus on your daughter as a person and as your daughter not as a lesbian.
2007-01-02 05:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by ktbblb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's a simple answer to this. I would think that over time, knowing that being with another woman is what makes your daughter happy, you will be more accepting. As a parent, I'm sure you just want your daughter to be happy.... it just so happens that men don't make her happy. :)
2007-01-02 04:56:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
The California State Penal Code section 288 is distinctly sparkling on the subject count number of intercourse crimes against little ones. The gender has much less to do with the crime against little ones. it somewhat is the age of those that are in touch in a intercourse crime that determines no count number if the crime is a Misdemeanor or a legal.
2016-11-25 22:41:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋