Ok, In the past I had a boyfriend who would always "claim" his female friends were just friends. Yet they were flirty as hell, and he would get secretive at times about things. Anyway, I didn't bother him about it, I didn't want to get annoying, but down the line I found out he was talking to this particular girl behind my back and he later dumped me for her. After her he started dating another girl, a girl I learned he had met while we were still together. With all that "female friend" hurt, now with my new boyfriend I feel like I have jealousy issues. When he talks to girls he used to like before me it bothers me so much. I even noticed him put one of his previous crushes on his top 8 on myspace and it has really pissed me off. What do I do? Do I confront my new boyfriend? How can I make myself not so upset over these other girls? I don't want to ruin this relationship by complaining too much but I don't want to sit back and get played again. Please help me!!
2007-01-02 04:39:55 · 21 answers · asked by enchantinglydia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
confront him. otherwise there is no way that he will know, and its like stuffing the issue somewhere where you wont think about it till it comes up, and then it will be too late. go call him now and tell him how you feel!!!!!
2007-01-02 04:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok here's the deal just because one man cheats on you or you feel like he is not being straight with you doesn't mean another man will. if you suspect anything talk to you boyfriend and tell him how you feel and if you don't like that he has a crush on his top eight talk to him about that too. remember communication is key in making a relationship work. i hope this will help you. also just a reminder everyone has a little bit of jealousy every now and then. so i don't think you have any sort of issue.
2007-01-02 04:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by *~green eyez~* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MySpace is a relationship runinor. he could be very good friends with the ex that is on his top 8. but i would say confront hin and just see what is going on- tell him about ur past and see what he says. if he says that there good friends believe him but be on the look out for anything. u dont want to ruin a relationship if he was bein totally honest with you.....just look at everything a be a lil spy to see if he is cheating or flirting.- good luck
2007-01-02 04:45:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have stepped into this relationship too soon after the last bf, why not give yourself some time and concentrate on you. Because there are too many issues going on right now. I think that if you explain to your bf your situation before him, he might be a little bit more considerate with his movements, until you can get a grip on yourself.
2007-01-02 04:48:10 · answer #4 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is about you not about him! Dating is a process of getting to know someone, perhaps even marrying them...but most of the time it is just dating.
That involves multiple relationships over several years.
I have been married for 31 years, and have always had female friends that were just my friends. My wife knows about them but she trusts me. I have never had sex with any of them (although I occasionally think about it)
You can't put a straight jacket around someone and expect they will do anything but resent you. If you are meant to be, you will be, if you are not...move on!
2007-01-02 04:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every1 gt d right 2 b jealous bt there shld b a limit 2 it. U shld tell him nicely tat u dun really feel comfortable wif d way he handlin tink btw his ex instead of confrontin him. Ask him hw he will fel if he pt himself in ur shoe. If he dun really care it mean tat tis guy nt rreally serious abt u. U had 2 gif tis realtionship a 2nd tot.
2007-01-02 04:45:58 · answer #6 · answered by ruth tee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considering your experience it seems normal that you would be insecure. Instead of worrying about "what ifs" enjoy the time you're with someone you care about. If you find out he's a player and messed around, recognize that this person wasn't the person you thought he was. It hurts but once you grieve the person you thought he was, it'll get better.
2007-01-02 04:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the guy well enuff and this wouldn't be your first "serious" talk, well, I would tell him about your last boyfriend and all those girls. I would let him know how much it really hurt you. Aren't you supposed to be able to tell eachother any thing? Give it a shot. Good luck
2007-01-02 04:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enchanting, you have to get your power back... you need to be more secure in yourself and your self worth. You must also ask yourself why is it your truly attracted to these kinda guys. I believe on some deeper level your setting your self up for failure. Once we give our powers away to an undeserving individual it makes it difficult for us to make sound decisions.... Voice you feelings to your new Guy, if he Cares about you, he will understand and would not want to see you hurt. If he cares about you... all you need to do is say it once and he'll take it from there. Trying showering him with tons of attention, this will make it hard for him or any one else to do likewise.
2007-01-02 04:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have little time with this guy you cant tell him stight out he will freak and take you for a spycho.......BUT IF YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE ENOUGH HAVE A TALK WIT HIM AND TELL AND REVERSE THE SITUATION.....and pls pls pls dont mention you are insecure just let him know you Womt let that happend to you again....if he makes excuses that you need to re think if its worth staying with the idiot or moving on with better things ....dont ever find yourself waisting time.
2007-01-02 04:47:38 · answer #10 · answered by A. RMZ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ounds like you're going from one player to another. If your new b/f put his ex g/f on his top 8 list then there is still something going on between them 2. He still plans on talking to her and later on he'll be leading you on and playing you. My advice is to leave him and find yourself a great guy somewhere.
2007-01-02 04:55:29 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋