I'am 30 years old and i dress like a 20 year old rapper.I guess iam having a hard time letting go of my youth.I still feel like i'am young but everyone says i need to start dressing like an adult.And people are starting to bring up stuff about my personality that i should take a look at everyone wants me to act like a 40 year old,iam still trying to find myself.
2007-01-02 04:34:14 · 10 answers · asked by michael j 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hey, you need to change. Its a sure thing; it a stupid thing to see some big men acting and dressing in a stupid way. You are an adult. I think you should start playing that part. Do you have kids? Well, .............
2007-01-02 04:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember..."every girl's crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man". No one said you had to look like a 40 year old (which by the way can be dead sexy!) but a 30 year old trying to look like a teenager is ridiculous. There are many stylish clothes that are very classy and look good on any age person. Find a personal shopper at a good department store and let them help you find a good look.
Also, check out What Not to Wear either on BBC America (Trinny & Susannah are really great). They have "made over" guys and girls so give it a try!
Also, a men's makeover can be found on www.newyorkimageconsultant.com.
Step out and be adventurous. Change is never easy but once you try it you'll find that you're ready to move on in life.
2007-01-02 22:17:37 · answer #2 · answered by Inquisitive125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would help to know what you do for a living. But overall, yes, by the time you're 30 you should be acting like an adult. Take a day all alone and go into a nice men's store and just try on a suit. See how it looks. Take note of how it makes you feel. Try on some other nice men's clothes, and ask the salesperson for advice. There's more style choices than kid or old man.
2007-01-02 13:23:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
30 is still young, I think the key is to wear what you like, and what looks good on you and just adjust your clothes slightly depending on the situation . Everyone has there own unique style you just have to find what you like and mix it up for ex. just because you work at an office or have a family it doesn't mean that you have to wear a suit and a tie or bill cosby like sweaters .Maybe you can still rock the same style as if you were in your 20's but take it down a notch and add a small touch of class.
2007-01-02 18:57:15 · answer #4 · answered by viva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the important thing, the best thing a person can do for themselves, is to be comfortable inside their own skin. And you can't really do that if you're trying to be what other people think you "should" be. BTW, any statement or judgement that involves a "should" needs to be very closely analyzed for reason. Why "should" you act like a 40-year-old? What does it get you? Why is it important? And so forth.
You, not your friends/family/ acquaintance, need to decide who you are and how you want to dress and behave. If your "comfort zone" is dressing and acting like a 20-year-old rapper, if that's how you feel comfortable inside your own skin, so be it. If you try to be anything else in order to please other people, the prize you win is getting to behave like someone you aren't in order to keep pleasing these people. That doesn't sound like a winner to me!
Certainly it does no harm listening to what people say about the way you dress, act, behave, and evaluating what people say on its own merits. But you need to decide what is right for you. In the end, the people who like you and love you for who you really are are more important than the people who withhold their liking unless you turn into a different person.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 13:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Karin C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your last line said it all, "... iam still trying to find myself." Your view of yourself and how you feel about yourself inside affects the way that you try to portray yourself to the world. I have friends who sometimes dress in bright colors or put on lots of makeup because they are hoping that people will see the brightness and not the person underneath. Is this true for you? You are a person of value and worth, because you're a child of God. To find out more, e-mail me.
2007-01-02 14:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh God I totally understand you, I'm also 30 and feel 21 at least but reality has set in for me as I see my body and hair changing and of course I find myself getting tired more easily. But you know what? I still enjoy life, though at times I kind of get depress also, nothing to worry about it's life and it's only taking it's course~
2007-01-02 13:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first what is your profession? if you dress like a rapper (saggin' pants and the whole nine yards) and you are not in the music biz and you are not in a business that caters to youth, then you should really think about how your dress may affect peoples perception of you.....sad to say it...but when you are 25 or older, you need to start seeing yourself thru others eyes and how they may see you (prejudgement does exist)
2007-01-02 12:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by gwennie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NOW is the time to change.
2007-01-03 00:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I simply follow my instincts as to when and how to change as necessary.
2007-01-02 13:14:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋