my ex and i broke up almost a year ago and i haven't seen him since then..he lives in another state now and he suggested that i should visit him sometime..getting over him was the hardest thing i've ever done..should i go? what if i start having feelings for him again? help!!!
2007-01-02 04:28:48 · 21 answers · asked by yowww kelly clarkson 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the holiday blues got to him and now he wants to reach out and feel better by going back and see whom is willing to feed his loneliness..... if he really wanted to see you he would have come to you, if he really wanted to see you he wouldn't have waited one year....
Most likely he is looking for you to make him feel whole and once that happens he will look past you for further needs.... just like when you broke your heart one year ago...
The choice is yours - discuss why he has this intense interest in your visiting him out of the blue.... let him know you're concerned and see what he says - if you decide to visit or better yet, he says he will come visit you just be prepared to be his comfort blanket till he gets his fill and off he goes again....
2007-01-02 04:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by D. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go. What would be the purpose ? I would be afraid of being used or being hurt. I know what getting over a love is like, and I know in my heart that when I was young, in this case I would be going hoping we could start over and live happily ever after. Now that I have lived a full life, I would have a lot of things to think about and" # 1 would be me" and that I not hurt any more. If he is wanting to reconnect with you, he will come see you. You might suggest that. Tell him the distance is the same. Don't appear anxious, just friendly. You think long & hard sweetie and take care of yourself. Happy New Year to you~~~
2007-01-02 12:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go but if you dont want to get hurt again i would suggest that you dont do anything physical or anything to try and get him back, if you go there with the idea that you are only visiting a friend you might not be hurt if he infact doesnt still like you and just wanted to see you again...
2007-01-02 12:32:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to remember why you'll broke up and wonder why he wants you to visit him. ALwasy be carefull with your feelings. Becasue it took a while for you to get over him and now for no reason he calls and ask you to go visit him. SO why can't he come and visit you? SO think about it real hard before you do anything.
2007-01-02 12:41:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you are absolutely certain that you've gotten over him, you shouldn't go. It's very hard to get over those feelings and if you don't want to hurt yourself again, I wouldn't go if I were you.
If you are willing to give him another chance, ask yourself why you might want to do this. He better have very good reasons for you to believe he's different and changed for the better. If not, you'll just save yourself some heart-ache by not going.
2007-01-02 12:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is hard! i mean i know what you mean. but do you kind of want to be with him again, would you want to be friends with him?
do you want to go? it could be a good thing, a way to break the ice, if you want to maybe be friends with him you should go? if you think that youll start feeling things again then dont? i dont know how the break up was, and does he have a girlfriend now? is he does, dont go, that will be weird, and make you uncomfertable, and if you think you may start liking him again, make you jealous and depressed!
i hope this helps
sorry...
2007-01-02 12:36:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur strong enough to not be affected by ur visit then go but dont go if u cant handle not bein in a relationshi0p wit him and u still have feelings for him dont put urself in a position to be hurt or to get into a bad relationship
ask urself why he wants u to come
2007-01-02 12:35:40 · answer #7 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still trying to get over him then no you should not go. What would be the purpose of you going to visit him if you are not a couple anymore.
2007-01-02 12:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think u should go cuz if u say that u r ova him then u want have a problem visitin him and if u still have feelings 4 him then it's just gonna be feelings nuthin else
2007-01-02 12:33:37 · answer #9 · answered by Chris breezy and Ashanti 4 eva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life is yours. Listen to your inner-self, and weight the result your decision would bring. Is it going to be a happy-get-back-together, or hurting over and over again, You are the one who decide.
2007-01-02 12:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋