OK, SO I JUST STARTING DATING THIS GUY, WE ARE MOVING TOO FAST I THINK. I HAD SEX WITH MY EX A COUPLE NIGHTS AGO AND HE WAS SUPPOSEDLY MY 'REBOUND' FROM A WHILE AGO... I STILL HAVE FEELINGS FOR HIM. TURNS OUT HE WASN'T A REBOUND AFTER ALL. WE HAD A SECRET RELATIONSHIP AND NO ONE CAN KNOW ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED... SHOULD I JUST TELL THE GUY IM WITH NOW THAT I MOVED TO FAST AND TAKE TIME FOR MYSELF.... WHAT THE HECK DO I DO
2007-01-02 04:10:30 · 23 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u need to stay away from both of them if u dont want to end up hurtin them
u have the potential to hurt ur self and other ppl so id stop dating and seeing guys for a while and just stand back and evaluate why u relly cheated and wat it is u want in a relationship
2007-01-02 04:15:54 · answer #1 · answered by leandrasmiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you cheated then you were not ready for this new relationship. But on the other hand why are you hooking up with someone you broke up with. If it had been a good relationship you would not have broken up. chalk it up as a bad move on your part and think about what has happened. You are not really interested in this new person enough to committ to them. Also the one you broke up with was not right either or you would have stayed together. Sit down with this new person and explain that you thought a relationship is what you wanted but have since realized that you need time for yourself because things are going to fast. If that person wants you they will wait until you have worked things out. Also if you can be sure they will not find out about your indiscretion do not tell. Less to deal with while to sort out feelings.
Also your ex should be let go and told if he understands that you need time to see if your feelings are the real thing and not a bunch of feelings getting mixed up between two relationships. It should be a matter of time to get staightened out. You may find being alone is what you want right now. Space to reevaluate your life and feelings. Good Luck and Be True to Yourself.
2007-01-02 12:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by mrs_keebler_cookies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and let him know you think you've moved too fast. I don't know if I'd tell him about your indiscretion because it would only make you feel better.
You should be as kind about it as possible, it won't be easy for him to hear. If you don't want to see him again, then be clear on that. Apologize to him for hurting his feelings; tell him it would be unfair, especially to him, to continue since the feelings aren't reciprocal.
But, before you do anything, make sure your ex is worth all this; he's an ex for a reason.
2007-01-02 12:17:45 · answer #3 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why no one can know about your secret relationship, but it sounds like more than just a secret. It sounds like you need to bring that relationship out into the public and end the newest relationship.
You need to see if the secret relationship can make it in the light.
Take care,
Troy
2007-01-02 12:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from both guys 'til you clear your head and see what direction you really want to go. What you are doing is unfair to everyone involved, including yourself.
You are acting on emotion (which isn't entirely a bad thing) but you also need to think about the consequences of your actions.
And there are always consequences.
2007-01-02 12:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch thats something people should never do.... you shouldnt have done anything if you werent ready, and you should have put yourself in the potion, ive been cheated on alot and im a good guy. somethings cant be put back the way they were, i would take time for yourself because it hurts more then you think sorry but it sounds like you dont trust yourself or knowwhat you want
2007-01-02 12:14:09 · answer #6 · answered by aj b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break up with him, you don't have to tell him you cheated on him. Just say it isn't working out.
I was with a guy that had a girlfriend a few nights ago, so I know kind of how you feel.
2007-01-02 13:06:35 · answer #7 · answered by xoxo7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time away from both men, at least a few weeks, to clear your thoughts and figure out what you really want in your life. Only you can decide what's right for you.
2007-01-02 12:16:47 · answer #8 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're confused - which you sound like you are - then take time out from both guys n sort out how you feel n what you want.
Be honest with yourself, then these sort of situation will less likely to happen.
2007-01-02 12:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by CHERRYBLOSSOM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell the guy you are with that things are going to fast and you would like for them to slow down and if he does not except then go on you do not have to tell him anything he could be doing the same to you as well you don't have a clue get to know him a little better then if you know that you can stick it out with him then you can tell him
2007-01-02 12:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by kimmy07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋