Me and my bf broke up. I called him and tried to get him back despite advice that I should wait for him. He turned me down. We spoke about us and said that if either one of us moved on, we'd tell the other. I asked him about being together again and he turned down the idea yet again sayin it wasn't worth the energy. A week goes by during this time and I get asked out. I go hang out with this person, and when I get home my ex is there, asking me where I've been. We argue and he says he came over because he loves me and wants to get back with me. Now he says he's changed his mind because I didn't tell him before I went and hung out with someone, so now he doesn't wanna be with me. I feel I agreed to tell him if I found someone else, but how much explanation do I actually owe him when he had made it clear he didn't wanna be with me? What is up with him?
2007-01-02 04:07:38 · 10 answers · asked by THICKUMS 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay out of this relationship. He's not good news. In college, I had a drama like this happen to me. It ended badly, but only after the soap opera went on for an entire semester. It wasn't fun. I wasted a lot of tears, arguing, and love....on something that was too immature to be anything.
2007-01-02 04:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not owe him anything. You guys are no longer together. It sounds to me that he only wants to be with you when it is convenient for him. He wanted you back because he actually thought he might lose you as an option. He doesnt want you, but he doesn't want you to be with anyone either. I have gone throught this myself. You don't owe him anything. You just need to move on. You dont' need to tell him anything about oging on dates, because if you do, he will just try to ruin it for you and the worst thing about a new relationship is the drama. No one new will want to deal with your drama. I would date poeple in private and when you find someone worth your time, tell your ex that you wish him well but leave you alone.
2007-01-02 12:11:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, you are chasing a loser! He is still in the phase of playing games and stringing you along. Sounds like he doesn't want you totally but also wants you to be there when he does! Drop the fool and move on! There IS someone out there who just may want you for just you!! Kick this guy to the curb and do yourself a favour! Just for fun, listen to a song called " Red High Heels" by Kellie Pickler! Life is too short dear to let some guy control you! Drop him like he's hot !!!
2007-01-02 12:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by GardenGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. Don't even call him again. He made it clear to you that it wasn't worth it to him to get back together with you. He is just playing games with you, trying to pin the blame on you when he was probably just looking for a good enough excuse to not try to make things work out again. You have nothing to prove to him. You did nothing wrong. It was just a measley date and your ex is very immature.
2007-01-02 12:14:13 · answer #4 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is playing mind games with you!
He didn't want or appreciate you, until someone else wanted you. Now he is hurt!
Tell him to get over it! You played by the rules, and you didn't need his permission to go out with someone else...
Something tells me that if he had been the one to go out on a date, it would have slipped his mind altogether.. (telling you that is)
I think you are good to be rid of him, as he sounds manipulative, and somewhat immature...
Give it a rest for 6 months, and then if you want to get back with him, try again, minus the head games that is....
2007-01-02 12:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just going to hang out with someone doesnt entirely mean you moved on. If you still want to be with him you should play hard to get. He did make it clear that he didnt want to waste his time or energy on you, id suggest leaving him alone and if he must come after you, make him try to earn you back.
2007-01-02 12:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by ksm02 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do not get sucked up into the confusion that is your ex's mind. he wants you only because you moved on before he did. he's just jealous and sounds like he is not worth your time. at all.
2007-01-02 12:11:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lin B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just confused over the whole thing and he just wants to move on yet but part of him thinks that he wont beable to find a girl as good as you. just give him time. maybe have small chat with him sometimes just to keep intouch with him
2007-01-02 12:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he's just playing mind games with you....he's feeling miserable and he wants you to feel even worse....you don't have to report your every move to him...you tried to work things out with him and he told you he wasn't interested....he doesn't get to be the only one to make the rules....
2007-01-02 12:11:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's got some issues i suggest counseling but in answer to your question if you haven't explained every little detail to him then do that but if you have maybe you need to repeat the process over again i mean wait tel him you love him and in time he might come back to you again.GOOD LUCK
2007-01-02 12:13:45 · answer #10 · answered by Hayden W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋