Any suggestions for making the little ones feel included without making it too complicated or noisy? I have some concerns and reservations about this...but it may have been done before. One suggestion was to let them all walk in the processional, but not as formally dressed ushers/flower girls. We're talking about 10 kids or so. I read yahoo answers where people said just choose the kids you want....and the bride has already done that. She just wants ideas to include the siblings, maybe just a token gesture of affection and recognition.... or maybe that's just not necessary?? She does feel close to the families and their kids.....what do y ou think?
2007-01-02 04:07:18 · 9 answers · asked by Sweetserenity 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would be nice to include them all, and if you have them all walk down the aisle, then go sit with their parents, that could be very nice. It's probably the easiest way to include them all, actually, and it's pretty quick and painless.
Other things kids can do:
Pass out the rice/bubbles to the guests for the departure of bride and groom.
Pass out wedding favors.
Help the caterers with napkins, keeping punch bowl full, etc. Older kids can serve some items.
I was too old to be a flower girl at several relatives' weddings; my sister was the flower girl. I did feel left out until, at one wedding, I passed out the rice and at another I served the punch (the caterer was a family friend and I was 10).
2007-01-02 04:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be much more of an issue with little girls than little boys - little girls want so badly to be part of it all. Boys are often glad to be free of the duty. I would make it optional for the other children to choose to participate or not. (Happy children are better behaved children.)
I think many of the above ideas are very clever & cute - the rose or the bells would add a lot to a ceremony. It would depend on the style of your wedding, age & personalities of the children. And not every child has to do the same thing ...little girls can carry roses to a vase at the alter, little boys ring bells. That way you can just call them up and those that wish to participate may and those that do not won't impact the ceremony. And older kids that may not want to be grouped in with younger ones and can handle greater responsiblity are given a job of handing something out.
I would then equally have for each child waiting at their seat at the reception a kid friendly and age-appropriate "appetizer" ( juice box & teddy grahms for younger, soda & chips for older?) and a child friendly and age-appropriate "favor" such as an activity or toy they can quietly do at their seat (coloring book & crayons, sticker book, brainteaser book for older, small puzzle or toy). That will make each child feel special and keep them from being restless while waiting.
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 04:23:25 · answer #2 · answered by apbanpos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the girls, it could be cute to make them all veils! Little girls love to play dress ups, and you could do something like that. Allowing them to dream of their wedding days, also you could make them little bouquets. For the boys, I have no clue. Bowler hats? Bubbles?
Another idea would be to have all the kids line up on the aisle or down the stairs as the newlyweds walk out of the church, and have them blow bubbles as the bride and groom are presented to the world.
At the reception, you could have each child make a wish for the newlyweds. I am sure it would be very cute, and that it would contain things like "I hope you have lots of toys". But if you had a microphone and a line of kids to send them well wishes, it could be really cute and fun! A great video moment.
Good Luck, and I hope it all goes well!!
2007-01-02 04:22:07 · answer #3 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not have them be bell ringers? Not huge, noisy bells, but little melodic bells. They announce the arrival of the bride.
You could do it right after you & the minister come out & before the actual processional starts. As soon as the kids get to the aisle's end, a parent (or equivilent) could be there to direct the kids to their parent's seats & not interfere with the actual wedding.
What kid doesn't like ringing a bell?
2007-01-02 04:17:03 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say give them the little bubbles to pass out or whatever your favors may be. If you have those disposable cameras, I'd suggest having the kids give one to each table. You could also compile a little gift bag with a few favors in it for each child. Maybe a few things to keep them content if they get bored, etc.
2007-01-02 04:22:32 · answer #5 · answered by akey88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do anything with the other little kids at the ceremony. I was at a wedding once where there were little gift bags (well, in big ziplock bags) at the reception, at the guest book. They had a little care bear in the bag, coloring pages and crayons, and assorted little stuff. You could put those little wedding bubbles things in them. My son just loved it!
2007-01-02 08:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them bring a rose to place in a basket at the alter as a gift to the bride.
2007-01-02 04:22:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not really a part of the wedding, but at our reception we had a pinata for the kids. They really seemed to enjoy that and it was just for them.
2007-01-02 04:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them be in it. most of all help with every thing.
2007-01-02 04:09:27 · answer #9 · answered by Baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋