recently had a brake up- was a year long relationship which we were very much in love-- i had helped him through a hard spell of drink adiction and then everything was fine. we were having a blast--due to some unfortunate circumstances i ended up getting agravated and we ended up arguing nearer to the end of the year- we were going to move in together then the day i move in--he brakes up with me telling me he doesnt love me any more even though he had seemed so in love with me a week before. Just got a message 3 weeks later saying he's been in and out of hospital for alcohol abuse and they are putting him on anti depressants. he seems like he needs someone-- but he finished with me and im angry about it--but im scared because i care alot about him. should i stay friends? or leave him to be depressed on his own????
2007-01-02 03:50:00 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stay out of it. It is not your job to be a super hero here. He has problems, and has to work them out on his own. I am sure he has other friends and family there to support him. I might send a card or something to show support, but otherwise, stay away until he is healthy again. It won't make anything better for either of you. He needs pro help right now. Don't be a doormat and run to his rescue, or he will never learn to take care of himself.
2007-01-02 03:53:11 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems to be seriously ill and having a very hard time getting over his alcohol addiction.I know you care a lot about him.That's why you need to be there by him but just as friends.You definitely need to comfort him but not with intimacy but with a distant approach.I hope you got what i meant.You dont need to care for him like you did before.He has changed a lot and has made it clear that he doesnt love you anymore.
I suggest you to keep things between the two of in a friendship level like what we otherwise call,''staying in touch'' kind of relationship.You need not rush to the spot and care for him like a a baby or overeact.Care about him but by maintaining sufficiant space so that it wont hurt either of you.Keep it minimal.If you dont care for him now,chances are good that you may regret later for being so sloppy.So show that you truely care about him and by ignoring you he's indeed missing out on someone special.
2007-01-02 12:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound cold, but forget about him. He left you in the cold and didn't think twice about you. It seems awfully convenient that he reaches out to you when he is having a problem. This guy needs to face his demons himself. You were good to put up with him for so long, but live for yourself. You're allowed to be selfish after putting up with him for so long. Go out there and live!
2007-01-02 11:56:09 · answer #3 · answered by Snuggles123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋