why are my parents so strict on me dating??

Question

THEY DONT LET ME DATE BECAUSE THEY THINK IM GOING TO DO SOMETHING AND GET PREGNANT JUST BECAUSE THEY WERE 15 AND 17 WHEN I WAS BORN.

IM 14 BUT VERY MATURE I HAVE A JOB I VOLUNTEER ON THE WEEKEND AND I WANT TO GO TO STANFORD. THEN LATER BE A NURSE THEN BE A DOCTOR. SO YEA. BUT THEY JUST CANT FORGET WHAT HAS HAPPENED IN THE PAST.

Answer 1

How old are you? Follow the rules, prove yourself mature and capable of making good decisions. Any amount ot fussing and defiance will say that you are still childish.

They are strict because they love you. They are strict because as wonderful as you are and as happy as they are to have you here, they know that making adult decisions when you are too young is costly. Pregnancy would be the least of my concerns these days. Boys can still give you kooties (sexually transmitted diseases)

Answer 2

Your parents are so strict on you dating because from the minute you were born and they looked at your perfect, beautiful, tiny little face, they were overcome with the huge notion that they had brought you into this world and were charged with the immeasurable task of protecting you from it in any way possible. From that moment they have felt responsible for your every joy and pain, your every victory and defeat, every little sniffle and bruise. It's something that, until you become a parent, you will never even be able to pretend to understand. It doesn't matter what age they were when you were born, if they are good parents, they would still feel this need to protect you from making any mistakes that would hurt your chances for a great future. (And on the flip side of the coin, it's perfectly normal for you to try to pull away, do your own thing and establish your own sense of identity. It's an ageless, timeless struggle. The best things you can do are: never give them any reason to lose trust in you and honor and respect the fact that they are doing what they must do, even if it seems to be making you miserable at the moment, and they are doing it out of love.)

Answer 3

And that is because they know and understand how easy it is and how they were and how even more different things are todsy. There are many other things besides pregnancy to worry about and Mostly because they Love you and want you to have a great life. So, you see it as being hipocritical and small minded and them taking their mistakes out on you, it really isn't that at all. They probably had a really difficult time staying together and raising you and being parents at that age and they want so much more for you. It is out of love that they are so careful with you...not anything else.There really is no need to rush things. People grow up so fast as it is and you should be grateful they loved you enough to stay together, most don't. Also, grateful that they care enough to make sure you are not out doing all the things that cn ruin your life, or at least make it really hard and difficult, at your young age. you will have their trust and they will allow you to go when it is time, you need to focus on school and take your time and allow them to have trust in you when it is earned at the right age. Good luck.

Answer 4

Hard to answer without knowing how old you are but no doubt they are just trying to protect you from repeating their own mistakes. I'm sure they're also aware that getting pregnant can occur pretty much anywhere and you don't need to be dating anyone for it to happen. They should be encouraging you to be confident and responsible so that when someone "tries something" you will have no trouble saying no to them. You should have a serious discussion with your folks and tell them you feel that you are ready to start dating and even though they were young when you were born it doesn't mean you are going to do the same thing.

Answer 5

My parents didn't let me date until I was 18. They wanted me to put my own life first rather than being distracted by and focused on boys. They wanted me to get a quality education, a great job, and a good financial grounding.

I'm 28. I have a good job. I have a Master's degree. I'm making enough to pay my bills and then some. And I found the man I want to marry.

Here's the thing: I dated behind my parents' back. Now, I'm not saying this is what you should do. In fact, I don't recommend it. I could have gotten myself into dangerous situations. In fact, I almost did once. I broke up with someone, and I was alone with him in a car in the middle of nowhere. He tried to force himself on me, and I fought him off and screamed at him. He thought better of it, and I'm a very lucky woman because of it.

I knew my parents would not let me date, so I knew if I was going to do it behind their back, I had to do it maturely. With the exception of the incident above, I did my best to avoid doing anything stupid. I also made it a point to put my studies first.

If you are mature enough, talk to them. Show them that you have your priorities in check. Otherwise, I'd listen to them. They are doing it for a reason, and you should respect that.

Answer 6

They are just being caring parents. Don't think of it as they being hard on you they are only doing it because they love you. Just show them that you can be trusted, by doing your homework and if you do go out with friends coming back on time or even a little earlier than you said that you would. Also why don't you talk to them about it tell them that you understand that they care about you, and that because they had you at an early age this doesn't mean that you will do the same thing. You need to talk to them and ask them to trust you

Answer 7

Ok so you're parents have issues because it happened to them so they are worried about it happening to you so they are over reacting. It sounds to me like you know why they are being so strict with you. If you want to know how to get around them being so strict with you, work hard to prove to them you are trust worthy and different. Focus on school and sports and whatever else you can do to show them sex is NOT what you care about, boys are NOT a concern to you (Even if they really are, just pretend) eventually they should calm down.

Answer 8

well hello they are Right, I'm as teenager and everything you are going trough Right now I'm going through as well. they worry about you I'm a male so you can imagine that my parents are strict with me so that kind of sucks because sometimes I think they don't trust me but we are teens and we have to admit that we don't really know everything and no matter how much we say nothing is gonna happen well sometimes it does and that is when prob;ems arise and for girls really is something is bad because they are the ones who get pregnant, but whatever you do please use a condom cause you don't want kids rigth now. your parents just care for you and they don't want you to go through the same things they did they try to protect you from things that might harm you so just try to talk to them and explain them that you are not as them(don't hurt their feelings though) and tell them that you just want to hang around and that is it. well good luck.

Answer 9

They want the best for you my dear. I bet it was really hard to raise a baby when they were 15 and 17. They know as well as anyone what can happen when you are that young, One thing leads to another. They want the best for you, try to remember that.

Answer 10

Sometimes we parents make decisions that totally suck for our kids. Sometimes we over-react, sometimes we have to go with a gut instinct or have fears that are brought on by childhood experience. For one thing, it's AWESOME that your parents are involved in your life. Many parents don't give a good gosh-darn. Maybe try spending some time with your parents showing them you respect their decisions and that you are trustworthy. That may help them to compromise a little.