and wanted all her attention? She wanted to spend all her time with him and therefore couldn't keep up with her study so she quit half way? And she spent the college money (her parents years of hard-earned money) on clothes to keep herself pretty? I don't think I've heard of anyone who was so blinded by love and stupid enough to destroy her future for a guy, anyone but me. After we broke up 7 years later, I'm now doing low-level job with meager income and seem to be stuck and going nowhere in life because of the lack of a college degree. Do you think God will give me a second chance? No! I cannot afford to go back to school. I hate myself! I'm the biggest loser on earth! I deserve to die!
2007-01-02 03:28:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What has this got to do with R&S
2007-01-02 03:31:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Everyone makes mistakes. If you don't want to be a 'loser', learn from it and there are second chances that give you a chance to move on. I'm a single mother and recovering from a medical mistake that almost killed me but even I am getting a 'second chance' (ironically, I'm in the process of enrolling in a college right now). All religions can motivate you, but I've never seen any particular gods/goddesses that come down out of the sky and lead you by the hand thru every decision there is but there are usually religious leaders (of diff. faiths) and philosopher's (especially) that have mountains of helpful advice. I've read that Xianity took a lot from Plato so I would read some of his work and see if that helps. After you're done venting, good luck with any future decisions! :-)
2007-01-02 03:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by strpenta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to me - I MADE THE SAME MISTAKE FOR A GIRL!!!
I dropped out of school as well, just for her. Just to be at her side and to entertain her after spending all day at work. Five years later, after asking her to marrry me, I came home and found her sleeping with my best friend. That was it - my life was over. Everything I ever loved had betrayed me.... I jumped head first into a bottle of tequila and attempted to kill myself that way... Nearly lost my job, lost most friends from sheer stupidty, etc...
I realized something then too. God isnt going to give you a second chance - ONLY YOU CAN GIVE YOURSELF A SECOND CHANCE. God wants you to help yourself. I too had squandered my chances at a paid for education. So, I took out student loans and I put myself through school while working a full time job 8-5pm. Five long, hard years later, I was a college graduate (at 30years old.)
Five year after that, Ive gotten a great job/career as a State Investigator, and Im engaged again to a great woman... All because I gave MYSELF another chance...
Please, give yourself a chance. You deserve it. Feel free to email me if you need some support - Ive been there. I know what youre dealing with.
2007-01-02 03:47:20 · answer #3 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only girl ever to do that.
Ok. That part of your life is over. So now it’s time to get yourself together and move on.
Realize that nothing holds us down like fear and anxiety. It’s like a weight that gets us pinned where we’re at. Christ taught us not to fear tomorrow. So just let go of all the fear.
God will forgive you your mistakes, but you must also forgive yourself. Mistakes were made. Accept it. Now move on.
Take some time to think about what kind of career you want. Realy want! If you're going to make the sacrifice it has to be for something you really want. Even if you can’t afford classes, if you have a local college, go over there and talk with advisers and get advice. Find out about all the options. It could be that you could just take one or two classes for semester. This would take longer, but you would eventually get where you want to be.
If you want a better life for yourself, I promise you there is a way to get there, although it is going o require a little more work on your part.
So let go of the past and concentrate on finding out what you need to do NOW to move forward.
It is absolutely doable, but you are going to have to stop beating yourself up and just let the past go.
2007-01-02 03:47:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave god out of this honey. It's never too late to get your life back on track. If you really want to go back to school, there are ways to pay for it; grants, scholarships, loans etc. And with a degree and a better paying job, paying back any loans you may have received won't seem so daunting.
Just don't ever fall into the trap again of thinking that you have to give up your life to make some guys life better.
Peace
2007-01-02 03:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can and should go back to school. Go to the financial aid office of some schools in your area (university and community) and find out your options. Or maybe you could consider going to a trade school.
Talk to your parents about the choices you regret and ask their advice. And don't worry... dropping out of college is not a sin! God is on your side. Pray for guidance, surround yourself with supportive friends, and thank God you didn't end up worse off.
Good luck!
2007-01-02 03:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by Suzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly that poor, you can get a pell grant and go to night school. The sooner you get over it, the sooner your life will get back on track. This is common, and at least you didn't drop out because you were stupid. You are a real person, and like the rest of us non spoiled brats, life gets in the way. I also enjoyed your storytelling or writing ability. Good luck, I have a funny feeling you'll make it.
2007-01-02 03:36:19 · answer #7 · answered by boozer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're not a loser and you certainly don't deserve to die. If you live in the U.S., you can go back to school, and you should. Start with your community college, tuition is cheaper and there are all sorts of grants and student loans available. Talk to the financial aid department, apply through FAFSA and get going. I'll post a link for FAFSA. Believe me, if you want to, you can go back to school even if it's one class at a time. Stop beating yourself up, we all make choices that aren't good for us at one time or another. It's your choice now to move into a positive direction and stop looking back, move forward. Here's the link below...you can find the money you need for tuition. Good luck.
http://www.fafsa.ed.gov/
2007-01-02 03:37:40 · answer #8 · answered by leslie 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hey kiddo, stop being so hard on yourself. If you think you can make it in college:
Take out some loans
Go back to school
Get the degree
Get a job you'd like to have
pay the loans off.
Figure out your situation and look at all the different things you can do to put yourself in a better one. It's not too late to go back.
Keep your chin up kid, it's going to be more difficult, but you can do it. Just keep an optimistic mind.
2007-01-02 03:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Southpaw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the biggest loser. Love is blind and can do some damage. Life is all about learning from your mistakes, too bad we can't be born again with all the knowledge we die with. Don't blame God and always seek his help.
2007-01-02 03:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by headstr8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed, and now you have to lie in it. The guy you fell for obviously didn't REALLY love you, because if he did he would've encouraged you to complete your education. God is not to blame for what happened to you, you are. You may want to look into some vocational training so you can at least get a decent job to support yourself.
2007-01-02 03:32:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋