Which is better for the children?

Question

I have four kids ages 7,5,3,and 2. My husband wants me to work full time and let a babysitter watch our kids. We can't afford a daycare so he looks online for someone who is willing to watch 3 kids for really cheap. I don't like the idea of some stranger taking care of my kids. Some of those people who watch kids for really cheap treat the kids they watch like a paycheck they will do the minium to get paid and thats not good for my kids. Thats what i told my husband and he said i am to over protective of my kids and i should go to work. Even if i did work we would only gain $200 a month because of the extra gas and babysitting fees we would have to pay. So what do you think? My husband makes enough money to support our family.

Answer 1

I have to agree with you - these are your kids, and if you dont feel comfortable leaving them with a strager, dont do it. Wait until the kids are a little older and in school, then day care will be cheaper (you would only need before or after school), and you can thing about getting a job then.

Answer 2

I too have 4 children 9,5,3, and 1. I stay at home with my kids, and my husband has never asked me to do anything else. I think if you want to stay home, and you can afford it, you should. You never know who might end up with your children, especially if you are looking to hire off the street with no training. One of your kids could end up hurt. I would tell him that. Also I would make up a list of the household chores he would be responsible for if you have to work full time, and tell him he will have to cook dinner half the time also. That may change his mind. It would my husband's. He hates house work. If that don't work, and you really feel the need to be at home tell him you are not working full time. You could possible find a part time job during hours your husband could stay with the kids. I would just tell him what you are willing to do, and compromise. I don't think 200 a month should be a big deal to him. Maybe something else is bothering him. Just talk to him.

Answer 3

Gee if you are only gonna make 200 then maybe you should be the babysitter and watch other peoples kids. You know you will do a good job and can make much more than the 200 you are talking about.

Answer 4

If there really is no need for you to work, why work just to pay daycare in a matter of speaking?

I feel the same as you with private daycares, I don't trust the people that run them.

Honestly, $200 extra a month isn't worth all of the hassle. I would sit down with your husband and talk to him about this. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 5

If your husband makes enough money to support your family. I suggest that you should work part time or something like that, so that you can spend your time and take care of your children. Because they are young, it is best to be there for them. A stranger taking care of your kids, and you feel that that is not right then you should go with your instincts, and care for your kids, not a stranger.

Answer 6

I am a stay at home mom...I think if the husband or wife makes enough money to support the family, the other should stay home with the kids. They only grow up once, and parents are the best people to have around them. Why would you give up the oppurtnity to see your child grow and learn new things just for a few extra bucks?!?!?

Answer 7

Your husband sounds like a man that has his priorty's screwed up. Not only are your children at risk of being ignored, or mistreated by a stranger, but they are at high risk of being molested, or hurt. Is he crazy? Children are always better off if they can be at home with their mother (assuming the mother is a good parent) and to leave them with a babysitter when money isn't an issue, is not the best choice for them. If he is bent on having you go back to work, then please, for the safety of your children, do a thourough back ground check on the person you choose to take care of them.

Answer 8

There is no influence that can substitute for that of a caring mother. If your husband earns enough, then you should stay home and be with them, at least until they come of age. When I was a young boy, it meant all the world to me to have the comfort of my mother sometimes when I arrived home after a hard day.

Your husband sounds adamant. However, it is YOUR responsibility to raise up good children, and passing their nurture off to someone else so that you can boost your income will not tend towards the type of children our society needs. We need more children with morals, morays and ideals that will uplift and strengthen society, and they will not learn those things in daycare. Whatever extra money you might make will not compensate for lost Kodak moments, journal entries, and other small experiences among all the opportunities to teach and train your children that you sacrifice for such a pittance.

Make sure your husband understands why you choose whatever option you choose, even if he disagrees.

Answer 9

we are never to over protected of our kids, maybe you can find a part time, while your husband is at home, a job from home, or start a small business, i have 5 children and i would love to be home with them but i am a single parent so i can not and to tell you truth it is sad, i miss so much, they have learned how to cook and do things on there own and they even make dinner for me, i have to clean so much after them, but if you can stay home with them do it.. i would like that for myself but can not... my kids ages are 13, 9,8,7 and 4 i work from 9-6 and they are in bed by 8 be with them if you have that chance that your husband makes enough... when they are older you can work all day if you want..

Answer 10

Just tell him to think of all the money it will cost if all 4 children, not to mention yourself end up in therapy for separation issues.. Not saying it always happen when children are in daycare.. most of the time everything turns out fine. but you will never be able to get back the time you will be losing out on, if it is at all possible to stay home with your children i whole heartily believe that is the best thing in the world. in my opinion... i don't even want to get into the stress factor that would be added to the family. ((especially the mom who usually is the one who has to make everything work in the end.

Answer 11

why don't you start a home daycare or babysitting service?? or get a job where you can work from home. that way you get the best of both worlds. do you have family that can babysit when you are working. it would cost too much to get a sitter while you work, and it's a pain in th *ss to figger out. good luck.