I'm dating someone I really like and care about, only problem is, I do not like his friends at all. He wants me to be friends with them, but I've tried hanging around them and we just do NOT get along. I'm not quite sure how to handle the situation... can anyone help?
2007-01-02 03:25:22 · 12 answers · asked by MaryJane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I’ve been in this situation and is no apple pie. When it comes down to it you will be judged accordingly when it comes to the people you hang out with. If hang out with a bunch of punks, you will be mistaken for a punk. If you hang out with nice, responsible, and reliable people, you might be mistaken for that as well.
When it came to my relationship, it brought us a lot of problems and arguments, because his friends had no respect for me what so ever and were very irresponsible.
If you can have a conversation with him to make him understand how you feel and he can acknowledge that this could jeopardize your relationship and take action (because some single people just don’t know), then you’ve got a great guy on your side. But if he rather force for you all to be friends, knowing that you all just don’t get along, then it will bring you problems in the future.
Friends and family play a big important role in a relationship, remember that. No matter how much you can fight it, if you are not both on the same team there is no winning in these situations.
Good luck.
2007-01-02 03:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl this is pretty tuff.I have been with my bf for 4 yrs and i like none of his friends and also his brother. I was in your same situation. What you need to do is sit down with him and discuss why you dont like them. He will understand and appreciate you coming flat out and telling him, rather than thinking you are just being a ***** not wanting to go out with him. Also if he really wants you to come hang out with him and his friends, bring 1 or 2 of your friends with you so you guys can bs and what not. That way you dont even have to pay attention to his friends. good luck girl!
2007-01-02 03:31:32 · answer #2 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why cant you get along w/ them? if it's just because you guys have different interests or whatever, then it's not really a big deal. he's going to have his own group of friends and so are you. just as long as you're able to say hi and chitchat a bit if he brings you along w/ his friends... i think that's fine.
but if you hate them and absolutely cant stand being around them, then i'd reconsider this relationship. it'll definitely sour the relationship even though most ppl tend to believe that friends wont affect the relationship.. but it does.
2007-01-02 03:33:17 · answer #3 · answered by tooxswt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy, you're going to have to put up with his friends. By trying to get him to not hang out with them you may eventually succeed--and then he'll be resentful toward you. Not a good thing. Hang out with them sporadically. Tell him that they drive you nuts but don't go on and on about it. When you have to hang out with them, just grin and bear it. Unless your partner's friend is an out-and-out bad person, you have to respect your partner's choices.
2007-01-02 03:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard because (like you) his friends are a big part of his life. I am afraid it will cause problems.
You just have to remember, they're HIS friends not yours. You dont have to be around them. Take time with your boyfriend and just pretend they are not there. There will be times when hes with them ad not you, that will be when the problems arise because you dont like them.
In this situation its best to remember its about the two of you, you don't have to like his friends and he doesn't have to like yours. Just stay away from the sarcastic comments and youl be fine!
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 03:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by bored4bored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want things to work out, YOU have no other choice but to accept his friends, to which is the same for him. You also need to find your own time, with your own friends, even if he doesn't like them. Don't push the issue or YOU will lose. Think about it.
2007-01-02 03:29:38 · answer #6 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend talk to your man! if his friends are butts than tri only hanging out with him if the first idea didn't go so well!!!!!!!!!!
2007-01-02 03:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by the secret miley c. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk about stuff that you like and maybe they will see that you might be a good friend, or they are just really jealous
2007-01-02 03:29:48 · answer #8 · answered by ally_cat0o4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
..you will have to get in good with his friends if you want to keep him...that is just the rule.....otherwise, he really isnt your type either if he's hanging with people you dont like...because, for him to get along with his friends, he is probably like them too....
2007-01-02 03:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by chillie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy. Tell him if he would rather hang out with his friends than you, than you feel its best not to be with him
2007-01-02 03:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋