i recently broke up with my ex boyfriend and its been a a good month ...on saturday i went out wit my friends and i meet this guy in the club ..and we just clicked and i spent the rest of the nite just talking to him..and when i got home i called him and we spoke for a good three hours..so today he asked me to come over to his house ..i jus made an excuse not to go ...im thinking he just wants some quick sex ..but then again he is just a decent guy ...any suggestions about if i should go and spend time with to his or not
2007-01-02 03:22:02 · 19 answers · asked by gina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want sex then go... if you don't then don't go...you know the answer yourself - quite simple really..
2007-01-02 03:26:27 · answer #1 · answered by jonti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You surely must go to meet him but go to a coffeeshop and then get a hotel by yourself if he lives a long way away. You might have clicked but don't spend anytime at his house until later.You don't want he nor you to be in a compromising position. Tell him you aren't going to his house. If he says ok, he probably wants to be your friend. If you don't want that piece of advice before you go be sure all your family and friends know where you are going , why, and when you will be back. Excuse me but just saying No isn't going to do it if you two really really like each other!
2007-01-02 11:27:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't go over to his house, that may make it look like you're eager to get the physical side of things going too. Suggest you meet up somewhere else, like the cinema or a park or something & when there just mention to him that you didn't feel totally comfortable going to his house when you've only just met. Let him know your situation & how you feel & make sure you let him know you're not easy! If he's really interested in you he'll respect your honesty & who knows... it could be the start of something beautiful! Good Luck!
2007-01-02 11:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is really a good guy (and I'm sure he is), then he should be willing to pick you up at your house and take you out on a date. Or, he should be willing to meet you at a public place such as a restaurant, movie theatre, etc.
Talking to a guy for three hours is great, but you probably aren't ready to go to his place just yet (or are you?)
Good Luck!
2007-01-02 11:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right...he's looking for sex. And even though he seems great, it's always smart to get to know a guy better before you're alone with him. You never know. Otherwise, it sounds like he really likes you! Suggest meeting him for a movie or lunch/dinner. If you give it up too easily too many times guys bolt...even if they really like you. So don't go but see him again somewhere else!
2007-01-02 11:26:29 · answer #5 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should go to his house if you are interested in persuing him as someone more then just a "booty call".
let him ask you out on an official date, if he doesn't do this then move on. Or when you talk to him again and he asks you again to come to his house you can open the conversation about going out whether it's a restaurant or dancing or even bowling. You deserve men to ask you out on dates. if he doesn't he is not interested in you other then a booty call no matter how well you click.
2007-01-02 11:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by tonaloha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be safer to meet somewhere public - you don't know if he is a decent guy or not yet. What happened to old-fashioned dating? Just take your time and get to know him before going alone to his house; you only met on Saturday so it's early days. Whatever you do, don't be pressurised into anything. x
2007-01-02 11:30:46 · answer #7 · answered by Gracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hows about go out for dinner. Somewhere a bit more neutral than his place.
Get to know each other a bit more and if he doesn't put pressure on you to come back to his, then maybe he genuinely is a nice guy and worth your time.
I think you know when you have got a guy who is worth your time and the ones who are there to just get laid! x
2007-01-02 11:24:52 · answer #8 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to get on really well with him. You should go and if he does just want sex you can always say NO. What will you say the next time he asks you over. He might just want to save his phone bill and talk to you face to face
2007-01-02 11:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by stellaprincess2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think you could like him and he could like you why not suggest going out somewhere neutral rather than somewhere he and get his leg over quickly! Get to know eachother a bit first - saying that I went to my fellas house a week after I met him and it all turned out great! :-)
2007-01-02 11:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by Emma W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet him somewhere neutral first, like a coffee bar or somewhere. You've only met this guy once, now he wants you over at his place. Take great care, you sound very young and vulnerable.
2007-01-02 11:25:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋