I met this girl in New Years Eve and we ended up having "fun" in my house til 12p. I Know it looks like just another 'one night stand', but she seems to be good girl after all cause she made it really difficult for me to make her "Happy", we talked a lot and i think she could be something more than what she showed last night. So, the real question is:
Can i start a serious relationship with a girl that i had sex with on the first night?
PS.: She's and her friend where visiting NYC and i was (hunting)out with my roommate.
2007-01-02 03:14:43 · 11 answers · asked by Angelo C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That would be like asking whether or not you are capable of having a relationship based on the fact that you 'put out' on the first night too. I love the double standard that it is excusable for a guy to do that but a woman must automatically have no morals based on the fact that she did the same. Big deal, it was New Year's and she had some no strings attached fun, no one is perfect and to be honest, I don't think that her doing so was a flaw at all. Her getting down on the first night doesn't equate her having no respect for herself nor does it make her a bad person (and if you think so then I guess you are no better). If you like her and think that it is worth pursuing, then go for it but if you base your decision on whether or not to date her by actions that are the same as yours, then you are just being too shallow and ignorant. Take care and good luck:)
2007-01-02 03:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say sure...I've been in a serious relationship (9years!!!) with a guy I had sex with the first night we got together. I'm not easy, but I did feel sorry for the guy. I first rolled up the window on his hand (power windows!), then I ended up nailing his manhood with my keys (accidentally!!!) and there were a few more (painfully) other things I did to the poor guy, so I felt at least he should have some fun out of this...the good part was he STILL took me out to dinner after all the abuse. We just celebrated 9 years in August and he proposed at Christmas. So all in all, I say why not.
2007-01-02 11:25:37 · answer #2 · answered by momofatsc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess this depends partly on where she's from. Distance is a factor if she's an out of towner.
Moreso, it depends on what kind of impression you made on her... and whether or not she was just looking for a one-nighter.
In all liklihood, this was a one-nighter... but if you're interested in more, you should pursue it. There's no set-in-stone rule that says you can't become serious after boning on the first night.
I buried the tubesteak the 3 days after I met this one girl... and we dated for 3 1/2 years. It was a crap relationship... but not because of how soon we shtooped eachother.
2007-01-02 11:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut. Maybe it was just a fling for her, and now she actually wants to get serious. The thing you have to ask yourself is, "is she too easy? is there anyone else?" If you believe you can trust her, and that she's a good person, then you should go for it. Just make sure you go with caution. Again it was New Years Eve, people like spontanety and such on those holidays and there is a lot of drinking. But she probably likes you if she talked with you and such. Give it a chance if you want-nothing to lose.
2007-01-02 11:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by ItalianBella 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i doubt it if the relationship started with sex it will end in sex most likely cheating on 1 persons side so i say dont bother to go for it find a new girl and try to have a relationship with her not just a "good time"
2007-01-02 11:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok you need to know more about her, does she have a bf, bc some girls may have a bf, and end up having sex with guys bc they feel attracted. But you need to get to know her better, and where is she from, maybe she lives far away!
2007-01-02 11:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were doing the same thing, can someone have a relationship with you?
2007-01-02 11:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not the first night get to no each other first and see were it leads you
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-02 11:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by hot_cowgirl_1986 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, she has no morals..even if she seems like it. You might be chill in the beginning...but it wount last. take my word.
good lucks.
2007-01-02 11:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't cheat and maybe it depends what the girl is really like
2007-01-02 11:20:27 · answer #10 · answered by hefner93 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋