ok, well me n my x gf broke up about 3-4 months ago... She promised like weeks after we got broke up that we'd b back together, and everything would be fine she just needed space... so i tried to give her space and she ends up having a guy come over the night she said she didnt want to talk... So the next day she said she was so overwhelmed.. That she went off n said a bunch of stuff she didnt mean.. Well a couple weeks ago she said dont worry everything will b ok.. Same thing she said when we broke up, and i asked her how? it was n she was like you'll be fine! and she loves attention, so shes doing a bunch of **** bc she likes attention.... Yeah i absolutely am in love with this girl n i cant help but think about her.. It sucks i know we were meant to b we have had a thing for eachother for over 5 yrs now.. and im a sr in highschool n shes a jr.. Idk what to do nemore bc all i do is think about her... and i cant help it and i dont wanna care nemore about her or what she does...
2007-01-02 03:09:03 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do the exact same thing that she does to you...when you guys get back together tell her you need some space "everything will be 'alright'.." and just flirt with other girls...that'll teach her
2007-01-02 03:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by First_time_mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see the need for the breakup....if all she needed was some space, the two of you could have just agreed to not see each other for a couple of weeks. It sounds more like this girl wants out of the relationship but doesn't want to hurt you. It doesn't happen that way. Someone always feels hurt. Just point blank ask her if she wants to see other people. Tell her that you aren't going to stand by why she sees other people. You shouldn't wait on her. If it is meant to be....y'all will work everything out. Good luck.
2007-01-02 11:19:07 · answer #2 · answered by heaven o 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's rough and I know what it's like. Make a pro's and con's list about her. What are the good things about her and what isn't. I'm not trying to be mean, but you'll have to decide whether to keep her or not. Does she put you through a lot of pain? Many People believe that they are in love, but then something happens and you'd meet someone new and better and come to realize that everything happens for a reason.
2007-01-02 11:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by funfriend2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move on. She playing with you. She a drama queen of the worst level at your expense. Take some time find a girl that has qualities that you admire. Or just play the field. Don't get serious with anyone for a few months. Give yourself a chance to level out emotionally after dealing with this girl that has you chasing your tail. Good luck.
2007-01-02 11:26:18 · answer #4 · answered by Miki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey man take it easy, i know your pain, i went thru the very same thing this past summer with a gf of a year (time is just a number, like age, it doesnt matter, the spark between two people does)...anyway, the best thing to do, is do you man...what i mean is right now, she has you where she wants you, she wants you to chase her, she wants you to wait for her, she wants to see you jealous, etc...the best thing to do is the opposite..soon shell be calling you trying to get back with you...if the girl needs space, give her space...distance will bring that spark back...shell remember everything she did with you and miss it, eventually...but u cant be a baby and call her or see her every 5 seconds of everyday, believe me i know thats all u want right now...because everyone wants what they cant have...so just get yourself together, play sports, chill wit ur boys, go out, meet new girls, and have no limits to wat happens, then she will notice you are independent and wont let her stop you from having a good time, tell yourself you dont need anyone....but remember, im not saying ignore her, or dont be her friend (thats what u need to be, just a friend)...a girl once told me to play the 5 day rule in this situation to see if its still there...if she doesnt call or come to you in 5 days, then you call or go to her...but never before the 5 day period (unless she comes to you...in which u start to play hard to get)...keep it up and good things will happen...try not to let it get to you, and whatever you do DONT try to figure out what shes doing, thinking, wants, etc...getting into a females mind is beyond us guys, ull drive yourself crazy...good luck pimp...like snoop says "play on playa"
2007-01-02 11:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by clownwitafrown 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand that this girl is over you. She will continue to string you along as long as she can just to have someone there in case she needs him. You really need to find someone else. There is no way you can love someone who treats you like crap. I suggest you find another girl who has a warm heart and is good to people. Your ex broke up with you to explore other people and you are still allowing her to call the shots. End it with her and you will see a major improvement in yourself within 4 days. Thank you.
2007-01-02 11:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok it looks like shes not coming back, bc its been 4 months already, and I think when she says she needs her space* its probably over. Get over her!!
2007-01-02 11:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live and learn. You gave her the upper hand, she is in total control. You appear desperate and clingy to her, very unattractive. Next time love smart, this one is over but she is willing to leave you hanging in the wind for as long as you are willing to absorb the torture.
2007-01-02 11:14:39 · answer #8 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell you to move on. but it seems like you really love this girl. it seems like that. maybe she was just afraid of really committing her self to you. but i hope that you to can finally work something out with each other. i may not know you but i dont want your feelings to keep getting hurt. she could be afraid of what might happen after you gradutation also. because if you two might stay together. she is just afraid
2007-01-02 11:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by girlie 801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out with your friends. I had a relationship through high school and we ended up breaking up anyway so... go find new things. Hang out with different people and don't let it bother you. She just wants your attention and you are giving it to her!!
2007-01-02 11:16:41 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋