Ok .... I was a bit dramatic with the question .... what i meant to say was I am going on a third date on wednesday with this girl.... I dont like that much but she likes me alot and I dont have the heart to hurt her feelings .... I am quite lonely and would like a girlfriend but I dont know if i want her.... There is this other girl that I have not even been on one date with yet... but we talk constantly and get on so well ......What should I do ..... A bird in the hand is worth to in the bush ....right ...or should I cancel the third date and wait and see this other girl...?
2007-01-02 03:08:44 · 48 answers · asked by Fox Hunter 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One in a bird's bush is worth two with your hand.
2007-01-02 04:12:36 · answer #1 · answered by Oliver T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard when you know that someone likes you more than you like them. Best thing to do is to end it before either of you gets hurt. Go on the date and tell her how you feel. She'll appreciate it more in the long run if you are honest with her. You'll only end up feeling like a jerk if you keep going out with the girl you don't like. Being lonely just really isn't a good enough reason for wanting to have a girlfriend! Get a hobby - go the gym - out with mates - you never know what will happen in the future!
2007-01-02 03:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Emma W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you should go to be honest. People normally know after the first couple of dates if they are into the other person. Its not fair to lead her up the garden path. Just to stay with her for company will only prevent you from meeting somebody you really want to be with. If the girl your going on a date with is nice suggest being friends, then grab the bull by the horns and ask the other girl out!! Dont waste time on things that are not right life is too short! Good luck x
2007-01-02 03:27:32 · answer #3 · answered by REBECCA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like her what's the point in going out with her? Don't leave the girl who likes you hanging and don't be desperate and use her. Unless you have a dating time conflict, I'd go on the third date and have it be my deciding factor. Try to make this one the best date of all because you might realize what you've been missing out on with this girl while thinking about the other one. You'll be able to make your decision after the third date.
2007-01-02 03:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by Marc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with the girl you're about to go on a date with. Go on the date, and tell her that you think she's nice but that you don't see the relationship as being quite what you're looking for. Tell her that you don't mind dating her and seeing what happens, but that you don't want to be exclusive, that you want to see other people. See what happens. She might like the idea and then you don't have to give her up to try the other girl and find out the other girl is just as bad.
2007-01-02 03:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be true to yourself. Wait!! If you arent really that into her, do yourself a favor and get out now. Wait for something better. If you continue to "settle" you will become comfortable with it, and never actually go out for what you want. It is not fair to her either, but right now we are talking about you. Think about what you want in a partner, make a list. And, find people who complete most if not all of your list. Dont settle. If you get into the habit, you will end up settling for everything, work, minivans houses the entire lot. Always seek what you want, and believe in. Settling should never be an option, especially this early in life! Good Luck!! (and no one blames you for being lonely. Even the best of us get that way!)
2007-01-02 03:13:49 · answer #6 · answered by thelaundryfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead the first one on. If you like her, and enjoy her company, then fine, continue to date her. But don't ever lie to her, or make her think you feel more than you actually do. Don't let her think you're exclusive if you're interested in dating other people. You can date more than one person at once as long as you're completely honest with all parties involved. There's nothing wrong with that. If you don't really like the girl, and she REALLY likes you, then it would probably be best to let her go, before her feeling become any deeper. Don't stay with her just because you "want a girlfriend."
2007-01-02 03:13:01 · answer #7 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lead this poor girl on! If you don't like her like that, be straight about it. Otherwise you are being selfish.
Also you are ruining your chances with the girl you do like, as you are dating someone else. This is bad for 2 reasons. One, you are not available, and two when you are not dating this girl anymore she may think you are flighty and a serial dater type.
Just go for the girls you like, you will hurt both girls feelings otherwise.
The third date girl, you have to hurt her feelings a bit now that you've started. Be honest now, it will be less painful for her in the long run.
2007-01-02 03:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the bird in your hand's bush, then worry about the flock that you hear in the distance...after all, you're not responsible for what she thinks may happen, only what you know you want. If after being with her for a while you decide that she is or isn't the girl of your dreams, then the other one didn't amount to anything except a fantasy, anyway...or, she'll still be available to pursue
2007-01-02 03:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't end it now, she is going to be way more hurt if you do it later. The sooner the better, for the both of you. And a girl will want sex when she is ready. That's usually after the "I love you". Then wait a little bit before going with this other girl to totally figure out what you want to do.
2007-01-02 03:23:40 · answer #10 · answered by funfriend2008 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, do u want sex or just a girlfriend?
Well, I would say go on a third date, but set up a date with the other girl, too.
2007-01-02 03:12:38 · answer #11 · answered by RamontheGreat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋