I STARTED DATING THIS GUY AFTER A LONG RELATIONSHIP. I REALLY LIKED HIM THAT I HAD MYSELF CONVINCED HE WAS A REBOUND AND THAT WAS ALL. I STARTED DATING SOMEONE ELSE AND NOW I FEEL HORRIBLE BC I STILL REALLY LIKE HIM. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO BC I FEEL LIKE I MOVED TO FAST WITH THE GUY I'M WITH NOW. I DIDN'T STAY SINGLE LONG ENOUGH BETWEEN ANY OF THEM AND NOW I NEED HELP! I'M SO TWISTED IN WHAT TO DO ESPECIALLY BC ME AND THE 'REBOUND' ARE SECRET TO EVERYONE. I MISS HIM SO MUCH THOUGH? I DON'T GET HOW I CAN FEEL LIKE THIS AFTER MONTHS OF TIME APART WHEN I THOUGHT HE WAS JUST A REBOUND
2007-01-02 02:52:30 · 15 answers · asked by Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well he obviously is'nt a rebound as you thought. all you need to do is end the relationship with the guy you are with now. and give yourself some time to think about what you want. stop jumpin from guy to guy because it isnt going to work and you're always going to end up confusing yourself. be smart and have time for yourself. if you cant be alone then have like a little friends with benefit type of thing. nothing serious. YOU NEED TIME TO SORT OUT YOURE FEELINGS!!!
2007-01-02 02:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need some time alone to re-group and discover yourself. Find some "girl" friends to hang out with for a while. Figure out what makes you happy, and what you want most in a man. Tell all of these guys that you need some time, that you have been moving too fast trying to recover from the last relationship that you have lost yourself. If they can't understand that ~ they are definitely not for you anyway. After some time, if it is meant to be witht he rebound guy, and he truly cares for you, then it will work out after you have had some time to think, and de-stress. This will show him also, that you were a bit out of control which caused you to make some mistakes.
2007-01-02 11:01:14 · answer #2 · answered by 2mom35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You fell for him bc he was there when you needed him and he gave you the attention and affection that you need so much after a diffcult breakup. You should have given yourself some time to heal but that is all in the past now. You have to understand that love and matters of the heart dont wait until we are ready for them to happen they just do. You should not walk away from this guy and this relationship and you should not be keeping your relationship with him a secret. It seems that you really like him so dont step back and let somebody else snatch him up and then you will be right back in the situation that you dont want to be in.
2007-01-02 10:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound is a relative term. He may have been the guy after the LTR, but when something clicks, don't tell yourself it can't work because he was a "rebound". If you really liked him, stick with it and see what happens. They call it a rebound because you usually aren't over the previous person, but if you are and are ready to move on, then go for it.
2007-01-02 10:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Christina C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him how you feel. Not everyone goes for the rebound relationship.....I left a 13 year relationship and a month later was dating another man who I am now in love with....there was no rebound
2007-01-02 10:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Ladylike ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you're saying is you used this "rebound" guy as a way to get over a relationship with no intent on ever really having a meaningful relationship with him? Did he know you were using him that way? If not, grow up and move on. You've already chewed him up and spit him out, don't screw with him any more.
2007-01-02 10:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Josh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never rebound guys, thats just wrong. Sure I bounce back into the love game, but not with a vengeance. My advice, tell this guy how you feel, never rebound again, and stop worrying so much.
2007-01-02 10:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by Chey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The worst thing you can do after the demise of a relationship - is run to someone else. You run the risk of hurting some very genuinely wonderful people when you date them in your screwed up state of mind. I suggest you take a break from dating ANYONE - and get your head together first. You should also call him and let him know that you're regretful, and messed up. Be honest with him - he could be THE one.
2007-01-02 10:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, you want to go back to the rebound guy. ask him waht he thinks about the two of u getting back together. just cuz you say he is a rebound doesn't mean he can be someone you date.
2007-01-02 10:54:45 · answer #9 · answered by blah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand. I really hate the whole rebound game. I say you need to go get your man!!! Well go. What are you waiting for???
2007-01-02 10:56:13 · answer #10 · answered by lady bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋