Ok...I have a problem. I am having a great relationship with someone but his daughter is out to "get" me. I have done nothing to her and can't understand why she is acting so childish. She is almost 16 yrs. old. She has told everyone in the family that she will make my life miserable if I continue to have a relationship with her dad. She makes ugly comments to me, constantly asked when I am going home even if I just got there. Now she is mad because her dad is talking about us getting married. She has threatened to move out and etc.... I have done everything just short of kissing her a$$ but nothing works.. she just uses me to the extreme for everything. I am tired of this and I can't see our relationship going any further while things are like this. He has told me that I am free to say anything or correct her in any way considering that he is intending on marrying me? I am just so confused as what to do? The grandmother tells me to hold my ground and not let her run over me.
2007-01-02 02:20:19 · 5 answers · asked by T&E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For me not to let her run over me. We went out to eat with the family the other day...(his family) and she told the ppl there that it was my b-day and embarassed me in front of them. (1st time meeting them). She walks around the house in tank tops with her stuff hanging out and the shirts pulled up above her belly button and short boxer with no underwear...I am just at a loss? I can't see myself saying anything to her but I can't let her get the best of me. She won't even come home when I am there. She threatens her dad that she is moving out if her marries me. This is crazy. The bad thing about this is that I love her like a daughter. Please help???
2007-01-02 02:25:33 · update #1
she sounds like a spoilt brat and yes stand up to her --- she will be leaving home soon so why should you make 2 people unhappy because of her
yes she has problems but they can be solved --- if she wants to solve them
2007-01-02 02:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a grandmother and her grandmother is wrong. In two more years she will be grown, either going to college or getting married.
This is the main reason we marry for better or worse, until death do us part. The children can't handle the boyfriends and girlfriends that their parents drag up. It is not just you. It would be any woman replacing her mother in her dad's life. Children only like one mother and one father. Children put up with and sometimes hate step-mom and step-dad.
The children didn't do anything wrong. They didn't cause the divorce and they shouldn't have to suffer for it. If grown ups can't get along and they must divorce, they need to stay single until the children are grown. That is the least they can do for bringing them into this world.
It is not all about you and her dad.
2007-01-02 10:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be acting like this because she has been the only women in her fathers life until he met you and is having a hard time of it. She probably hasnt had to share him with anyone else.
Try talking to her about it, Once she sees that you are a great person she will come around. good luck
2007-01-02 10:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not want anybody else to hung around with her father except her mother even if she is not there. She is not willing to have a step mom. Ask her father to make her understand things if it still does not work don't marry him, it would be a painful family life.
2007-01-02 10:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Vivin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is to sit down with bf & daughter and discuss the situation. Good Luck
PS. Don't accuse or raise your voice or get angry. Just DECLARE. That means state your case, what's bothering you.
2007-01-02 10:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋