I had a pretty decent & quiet New Year. I wasn't mad, I did something positive, I also prayed, I went to see a good movie later that day, I'm doing fine .... but I'm depressed. Could it be because I recently broke up with my boyfriend? Or could it be the thoughts I have of the things I've been thru that were painful & where I'm at with my life at this point (2007) & wish I was doing more things with myself? I'm making progress in my life but I do wish I was doing more things even though I'm working towards them. Is it normal to feel this way on New Year's or during the holidays in general?
2007-01-02 02:18:10 · 10 answers · asked by Lala 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
The coming of a new year forces you to reflect on what you achieved in the past year - and if you didn't achieve what you thought you would (or if you went backwards) it is understandable you may feel depressed. Losing a boyfriend is horrible. Try to think forward - it's a new year, make it better than the last - who knows when you will meet a great guy and your next boyfriend. Best wishes.
2007-01-02 02:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by Carrie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I think perhaps you still care about the things that you broke up with your boyfriend ,so ...no matter what you try doing something ,you always couldn't help thinking about that ?Or... Maybe you celebrated some festivals with your boyfriend before ,and this year it's a little different feel ???
Am I right ??? Just guess , however ,I really hope you'll feel happy in this New Year .
Everyday is a new day ,do what you like to do ...may your dreams come true.
Good luck in 2007!
2007-01-02 10:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by happyangelxh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Christmas and New Year's Holidays are a time when depression is common among many people. So much focus is placed on family, friends, coupling and 'happiness' that often people feel MORE alone and 'without'. Given your recent breakup too, it is understandable you are not yourself and perhaps prone to hypercritiquing of yourself.
Make a list of all your great assets [personal] and then of your accomplishments and things to be grateful for....reading that list will lift your spirits as you focus on the positive rather than the negative.
Take pride and comfort in making progress! :-)
2007-01-02 10:27:35 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
New Year's Eve and New Year's Day inevitably bring up review of the year behind, and a look at the year ahead. I've been pretty depressed over it, too. Shall we blame it on the pathetic line-up that seems to be developing in the presidential race?
Actually, I think it's the idea that you have to know where you are and what you are doing in some philosophical sense. You don't, you know; you can continue living your life one day at a time, just like the rest of the year. So for today, at least, relax and enjoy!
2007-01-02 10:28:11 · answer #4 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above is possible.
I have heard of assorted studies that show that depression does tend to show up worst during holidays, and I imagine not having your boyfriend there has not helped.
Hang on: It'll get better. As long as you have a goal, and are making progress, there is no need for regrets.
2007-01-02 10:43:24 · answer #5 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a new year. Why not start on a positive note. Perhaps you could join a church group or develop a new hobby. Sometimes a rough year proceeds a good year so tat you will be able to appreciate the events yet to come.
2007-01-02 10:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Phillip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are answering your question yourself! Keep thinking and you will probably find exactly what is bothering you. You also had great answers. Personally I often feel blue during the winter holidays because friends are away, it is cold and dark outside, and there is nothing much to do (no work, many places are closed).
2007-01-02 10:49:01 · answer #7 · answered by Viv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On top of the things you mentioned, don't forget that the daylight is in short supply and just this time of the year has a lot of folks down in the dumps. If it doesn't go away though, you should see your doctor.
2007-01-02 10:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your alone. I am depressed as well. My new years was going to be spent quite. But got nasty and I indeed up calling my ex and mouthing off. Didn't make anything better. But I don't regret it and maybe you just need to find something just for you this year. Something to keep your life motivated. Not for you and somebody else but just you alone. I'm actually going to school to turn my life around. We just need something to take up our time, that's all.
2007-01-02 10:22:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this time of year the depression rates in people always go up due to lack of sunlight. you could go get professional help or just go tanning.
2007-01-02 10:41:07 · answer #10 · answered by lindsey f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋