on Christmas night he calls me again and he said he wants me to go abroad and then his parents can allow him to marry me. I said going abroad is not a problem for me but it’ll take time but he is pressurising me to go soon. I don’t know what he actually wants. On Christmas night his words shows that he really wants me back, He was not saying all those just for sake of saying but he really mean it. But on 1 Jan he call me again he said that I forget him and marry with a more deserving boy. And that word pinches me and disconnected the call.
Now I don’t know what to decide. Either I have to go with my plans of going abroad and give a chance to live this relationship or to move on and start again. But this is true that I can never forget him. He is my soul mate and he know it too that nobody can love him more than me. But still he changes his mind every day about me. I want him to stand with me but he is not co-operating. What I have to choose. But I know this he loves me, and he will never able to forget me also but what to do now? May be my one wrong step can lead to end of this relationship.
One thing I know that I can’t fell in love again because loving someone is not a game that If I failed once or twice I can start it again to win. I can’t start all again with someone again. I don’t want to end this relation. What should I do? Because he is not co-operating.
2007-01-02 02:12:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, if he is pushing you to marry him the way he is, then he isn't thinking about you at all, just himself. That is not love. Love is someone who would stand by you in whatever decision you make. What is the hurry about getting married? Second, you most definitely "can" fall in love again. Just give yourself the chance to. It sounds to me that you need to sit down and explain to him that you love him, but you're just not ready to make that big step. If he loved you the way he says he does, then he will understand. And if he doesn't, then you need to just cut your ties and go your separate ways, there's plenty more fish in the sea.
2007-01-02 02:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not to forget about him cause sometimes its hard to forget about that first love, have you heard the saying of if you love someone set them free if they come back it was meant to be. Try this, move on in life and maybe find some new friends to hang out with and see what happens or just force him to tell you, if you are both adults than he should not worry about what the parents think to the point of loosing someone he loves, It is his life after all. good luck
2007-01-02 10:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by blueigurl34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he is saying he cannot marry you without his parents permission. That alone is telling me that if you do get married, who is going to be wearing the pants in your family (and couples are a partnership but i am suggesting his parents ruling your home..) It is a choice for you and him alone. Secondly, if he is not listening to your concerns, do you think he will listen later? Thirdly, if he loved you the way a woman is suppose to be cherished he wouldn't put you in a position where you have to chose or lose. He should respect you. You are another human being, not an attachment to his side, and you need to make choices for yourself. It may be the wrong choice.. but what if it is the right? It is for you to decide.
2007-01-02 10:28:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to seriously decide whats in your best interest, Because two people love each other doesn't mean they should be together. And sometimes the best thing is to just turn and walk away regardless of those feelings or who can forget who! Its something you must carefully decide!
2007-01-02 10:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to this, if he is that indecisive then he is also having doubts. Do not, I repeat, do not make another move until the doubts subside. As far as never being in love again and hanging on to him out of fear.....you know better! Good Luck!
2007-01-02 10:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You carry on with your plans of going abroad.Maybe he was depressed because of your going so he said those words. If the love is so deep, even God will help you. Tell him you love him so much that you are going only because of him. He will surely understand,and cooperate. All the best.
2007-01-02 10:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think this will change after you marry him? You are deluded if you do. It may be difficult for you to give him up because you have strong feelings for him, but since he is "not cooperating", I would avoid extending this relationship - it will take you nowhwere and will end in heartbreak for you. Good luck.
2007-01-02 10:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Doug R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that about him. follow your heart. You love him enough to never forget him. Get married and work things out as much as you can.
2007-01-02 10:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop this guy like a hot rock. He is playing you. If he is trying to get you to go abroad there is something bad going on there. Get away from him fast.
2007-01-02 10:18:43 · answer #9 · answered by blondee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LEAVE HIM ALONE, AND YOU to TAKE SOME SELF ESTEEM CLASSES
You can fall in love again, love doesn'y suppose to hurt and what your feeling isn't right move on. there are other guys out there for you
2007-01-02 10:15:09 · answer #10 · answered by Fruitful1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋