I wanted to know because it seems like it's always women who seem to be the ones considered needy in relationships...
I used to be needy before, but after breaking up with my ex, I became independent and just feeling awesome on my own, now I have this new boyfriend, and uh... He's VERY needy and clingy, not that I mind much (for now) because I totally understand where he's coming from... But... Honestly I have NEVER experienced something like this in my life! Never before I met a clingy man! All the BF's I had, the male friends I have, only complain about their needy women... So, I wonder, did I just find the one in the million??? O_O!
It's kind of ironic, but before, I used to dream about having a man like that, who wanted to be with me all the time, calling me all the time, etc... But.. Now, I can see why it is a bit annoying when someone is too absorbing... Well, specially when I was enjoying having all my time for me and not having to give explanations to anyone all the time..
2007-01-02 02:09:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well... I just read other questions, and well, it seems I AM lucky... Most questions in here are about women who don't get enough attention (if ANY at all), so... Yeah, maybe I should cut him some slack, is better to know that you'r needed and wanted than be all abandoned and treated like crap... He treats me like a queen :-) , I guess I just have to show him that I'm not going anywhere and maybe he'll cool off a bit... If not, LOL, I'll try to enjoy his love with patience :-P
Keep answeing anyway, I wanna know what other girls/guys think! Do you like it? Hate it? hehehe
2007-01-02 02:22:01 · update #1
Great question I love it. The news is he is not the one in a million clingy needy guy. There is a equal number of clingy people men or women as there are independent.
Its something I am grapling with myself. I cannot figure out if I am drawn to clingy women or Independent women although the independent women relationships last much longer in my own experience.
2007-01-02 02:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Cdn_Superdave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women should do a lot of things which would prevent men from being screwed over by them, but as long as there is something in it for the women then you're not going to see that happening any time soon. I sometimes find it amazing that women were ever considered the kinder, more gentler of the sexes. BTW In a society that has abortion legalized, then a woman is not with CHILD if she becomes pregnant. Instead, she is with FETUS until 20 some weeks in, at which time abortion is no longer a legal option for her. So the man has not made a child with her. He has made a fetus with her. It is only if the woman chooses to carry the pregnancy to term and does so that the fetus becomes a child. Therefore, it is through the woman's choice alone that a child is created. Everyone who tries to blame the man for children being born in societies where abortion has been legalized needs to seriously reevaluate their opinion. Women are the ones who have all of the control over their pregnancies in those societies, so they should buck up and take the responsibilities that come with the choices they make concerning them. It is only in societies in which abortions aren't legalized wherein a fetus is a child at the moment of conception. Therefore, any pregnancy would result in a child and the man would be as responsible for its creation as the woman. If women want men to share in the responsibility of creating a child, then they either need to give them the right to decide if she carries to term or delegalize abortion.
2016-05-23 06:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't mind a guy being into me, if he's the right guy. There's nothing more annoying that someone you don't like, or someone you don't like that much, who won't leave you alone.
So, maybe he's doing all the things you thought you wanted, but he just isn't the right guy for you? After all, he is a person with a history, personality, likes and dislikes, beliefs, etc., and if you're not crazy about who he is, that's ok, regardless of how often he calls you.
2007-01-02 02:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Torchbug 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a clingy boyfriend once. Drove me insane. Wouldn't let me talk to my friends, and if I did just hung around looking pathetic and waiting till I'd finished talking so he could have me to himself again. Maybe I wouldn't have minded if I'd been more into him though. I reckon the definition of "clingy" changes depending on how much you like someone.
2007-01-02 02:16:08 · answer #4 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol..the reason it is like that is because you are so independent. If u were clingy to this guy I guarantee he would be the same as the rest.....but because you seem so secure and independent it throws him for a loop! He's like what the hell! They are just not used to it so it opens up his own insecurities!
2007-01-02 02:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by TNL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you just plain don't need anyone 100% of the time. Of course, he may just be insecure or something. ??? Not enough details to determine that. Anyways, just tell him and dump him if he doesn't respond. What ever you do, don't drag him around. Just be decent, be honest and up front.
2007-01-02 02:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you know he loves you!! You're lucky!! Give it some time and you'll be used to it. Best of luck in the New Year!
2007-01-02 02:15:14 · answer #7 · answered by dwarner33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋