its new years eve.we have to stay in this year. told him we would make the most of it-good food,a few drinks,have a laugh etc etc. planned it for a while,bought nice food etc etc
he's taken the mickey out of me for it all week but in a fun way.
when it came to new years eve,even though we live together i didnt really see him all day & he didnt really talk to me either-he even went food shopping- something which he hasnt done in months!!
after i put my daughter (not his) to bed i expected a bit of us time.
how wrong was i!! i have felt like things havent been right for a while and tried to tell him how i felt. he listened to what i had to say then went off to watch a dvd without me. came back down ( we didnt have food or drink) at around 11.30 then went back out of the room again to go on the pc.
i didnt really feel it was my place to say "come on, its new year in 5 mins" its not like he didnt know what day it was.
big ben chimed away, he came in after the the chimes
2007-01-02 02:07:57 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no kiss no happy new year. so i said it .... he mumbled it back and that was that.
when i asked what that was all about, he said he had f**k all to say to me and went to be. (after about half hour of me chatting to him to find out what was going on - AGAIN!!!)
2007-01-02 02:09:26 · update #1
no kiss no happy new year. so i said it .... he mumbled it back and that was that.
when i asked what that was all about, he said he had f**k all to say to me and went to be. (after about half hour of me chatting to him to find out what was going on - AGAIN!!!)
2007-01-02 02:09:33 · update #2
i have asked him on numerous occasions including NYE if he still wants to be with me/ loves me etc etc....
he says of course. just doesnt feel like it to me.
2007-01-02 02:25:00 · update #3
Sounds to me as if there is something wrong with him. Don't make any rushed decisions, he may have had certain expectations of new year and the way he's been acting may have nothing to do with you.
However, it was NYE and you need to find out from him what was the matter, don't sound desperate and ask him if he still loves you etc. Instead talk to him about how you felt and ask him how he felt, that would be a good start. If you think he may have a hidden agenda for staying with you then think twice, if not and you have known him for a long time then there must be a way you could compromise and resolve the issue.
Be diplomatic and don't loose it, you have to be very clear about what you want and how it made you feel. If he doesn't want to talk about it, don't pressurise or antagonise him as this may cause an argument and he may say things he doesn't mean, but definitely bring the issue up again at a time when he has come down.
2007-01-02 02:36:45 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His behaviour depends on whether New Year is as important to him as it is to you.
I spent NYE on my own and managed to miss the chimes until they were at chime 10 (oops) - it's just not that important to me.
Also, Christmas and family togetherness can also be an alien concept to some people, or they may not want to celebrate it for their own personal reasons.
I would say talk to him about it - tell him that it was important to you and that you feel hurt and see what his response is before making any rash decisions
2007-01-02 02:12:05 · answer #2 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you got trouble, big trouble
you need to wake his a*s up.
the big hard question you need to ask your self is do you think hes cheating is there any signs or signals hes giving you that makes you and if he has cheated does he deserve another chance..
have you notice what is he doing on the pc is he talking with any one.
maybe everything has gotten old with him -that nothing bad it happens to alot of men maybe you and him just need to have a change maybe try new things in lot of ways spice up your alone time.
find out whats bothing him making him so unhappy.
but it is your place to point out hey im here and i want some grown up time after all it is f**king new years or thursday (the day doesnt matter).
most men could careless about holidays but you make sure they know you care about them and you deserve his time.
If hes worth fighting for give him all you got make him talk show him a new side of you let him know your not happy with how things are if he refuses to change cut the rope let him drown and start looking for a replacement, heck even with him there after all aint that what consiterstion hes showing you.
theirs good guys out their i even know a few...
good luck
2007-01-02 02:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by michelle e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a normal behavior for him? has he acted like that before? It is possible that something heavy weighs on his mind if it is out of the ordinary. If however, this behavior is not strange for him, then, it is quit possible you would be best to move on, start the new year fresh, you and your daughter.
All of our answers are only speculation, this is a question only you can answer. Though, I think by being here, asking the question, you already know the answer, you are just looking for reassurance it is the right choice.
2007-01-02 02:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, that sounds like my boyfriend, maybe they are related. Could be several things, but if he is not talking to you then you can't really decipher the meaning. He is not speaking for a reason or he could be depressed, alot of people get down this time of year. It may not be the end of the road for you guys, but it will if he refuses to open up. Good Luck!
2007-01-02 02:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah bless ya, sorry to hear that you didnt have a good start to the new year. whats he like with you now? Maybe he was just being a man whose rattle has fell out of his pram cos he wasnt able to go out and play.......
Just go with your gut feeling....if you are not happy and want an explanation and he doesnt give then maybe you need to give him an option if he wants a relationship or not.
GOOD LUCK XXX
2007-01-02 02:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by KLW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be. He was totally ignoring you. It was new years eve. Is he okay with you having a child that isnt his? I think today you should take your child and leave for a few days and leave a note and see if he comes after you. Thats true love.
2007-01-02 02:12:05 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe instead of worrying so much about whether he want to be with YOU or not - YOU should be thinking whether you want to be with HIM. Do you really want to be with somebody who treats you this way....it doesnt sound very fair. Maybe he just doesnt have the guts to say his feelings have changed. You deserve somebody who is going to be more sensitive to how you feel too.
2007-01-02 02:37:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it and if i was you i would look for somebody that wanted to spend time with you at this time of the night it sounds very strange to do what he did, how long have you been together, obviously just after a roof over his head what was he doing on his pc??
2007-01-02 02:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't mean its the end of your relationship. I think you two just have some issues that you really need to iron out with each other. Don't jump ship until its sinking.
2007-01-02 02:12:55 · answer #10 · answered by OPTIMUS DIME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋