My bf went 80 days without smoking pot to pass a pee test. Which he did. Now he back to smoking and doesn't understand why I'm pissed off. I'm heart broken because he brought the New Year in stoned and I was once again alone. I told him to go, get his things and leave. He wants to smoke and have a "girlfriend". I told him to choose. We have been together for 2 years. I didn't realize how much nicer it was with him clean until this weekend. Was I wrong for doing that? Or can you have both?
PS I don't smoke, never have and never will.
2007-01-02 02:01:57 · 27 answers · asked by to_sassy4_u 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well if he smoked when you met him then you should be a little easier on him. Maybe you can work something out to where you dont want to see him or be around him when he's high. If he loves you and you stand by this, he will smoke less so that he can be with you. Goodluck!
2007-01-02 02:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you aren't wrong for wanting a bf to be clean and pot free. You have that right. I don't blame you at all. I would have done the same thing if I were in your position. If he can't respect you enough to stop smoking then you really don't need him especially pot. Not only is it harmful to him but the second hand smoke could kill you quicker than his smoking. You shouldn't want a man who smokes weed. What if when you decide to have a baby what then? There are new laws stating that if the mother is pregnant and the baby is addicted to drugs then the mother is liable for the baby and the condition of the baby even though you are not the parent who provided the weed to the baby but the father. You could still lose your baby and go to jail in the process. Love is powerful. You have to learn to love yourself first. Is he really worth it? God Bless
2007-01-02 02:11:12 · answer #2 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first things first this isn't a problem. I, as the boyfriend, dealt with a similar situation with my girlfriend,but I had a real problem. I was smoking meth. And my girlfriend felt hurt and betrayed for a good reason, I could die. You know how pissed off I got(because of the meth).Cigarettes, alcohol, heroin, meth, Coke are all drugs that will ruin your life and in the end, eventually kill you. Pot is none of these. There has never been a recorded death linked only to pot. Cigarettes kill hundreds of thousands of people a year. Without pot that rate would probably double. I think you need to get off your high(or not)horse and worry about serious issues like what kind of munchies to get your boyfriend. I work at a special ed school now and if it weren't weed I would still be in the gutter."Have you ever sucked di@# for weed,"
"Boo this man."
2007-01-02 02:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by yodav1023 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he can't control himself after he smokes, you made a good decision to give him an ultimatum. Most pot smokers I know are able to behave and function normally, just in a happier state of mind. If he gets out of hand and hurts you in the process of smoking pot, you didn't do the wrong thing.
2007-01-02 02:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by kz 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
NO so he has to make a choice you or the pot.Cause if he can go 4 80 days he can go longer.MAybe it s time you sat down and have a chat wit him tell him how u really feel. Get what u got 2 say off ur chest and i am pretty sure he will make the right choice.Or maybe its time u made a choice.
2007-01-02 02:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you and your bf and after completely different things in life. You've given him the ultimatum and the ball is in his court now. Time will tell... if he wants pot more than a loving relationship then I'd say, you can do much better than him!
2007-01-02 02:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Sami 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't really expect someone to change just for you. even if he agreed to stop smoking, (which he wouldn't, i wouldn't) it would all be a sham. he would resent you always and eventually he'll begin to see you as the person who stifled his free will, not because you asked him to stop smoking but because you found the means to control him and keep him in line. you should relax, it's pot, he could be on meth. pothead and loser don't always go hand in hand. it is possible to live your life and still smoke herb. plus, if you like your boyfriend so much better sober, maybe you don't really know who your boyfriend is or maybe you need to find yourself a sober boyfriend with a similar, narrow, simplistic approach to life. (Can you tell i share a similar habit with your bf?)
2007-01-02 02:14:08 · answer #7 · answered by mudd 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ditch this loser. he wont ever amount to anything and its only going to bring you heartache. what i dont understand about some of you younger peoples posting is that you act like a year or two is a lifetime, trust me its not. get a guy who doesnt do drugs and is more like you. if you continue with this loser you will end up getting married and having his kids and they will grow up smoking pot with loser dad. do you really want that in your life? change it now.
2007-01-02 02:08:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont believe in it, so i would say you cant have both. But im sure there are couples out there that are like yall and its worked. But if he gets high all the time, i dont see how that can work. I maybe can understand every now and then maybe, but not on new years eve when you supposed to be with your other half. he needs to have alittle more respect and grow up alittle bit.
2007-01-02 02:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
some people enjoy a smoke and some use it too much,he knows what it was like with you when he was clean and still chose to go back to smoking all the time,,he either doesnt believe he is doing anything wrong or doesnt care.
2007-01-02 02:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋