I was in love with a guy but he betrayed me and that relation ended 3year back. Then 2year back I met another guy through net and we became friends. And slowly he said he like me and truly wants me in his life. I ignore his feelings but one year back I find myself that I too love him. He was serious with this relation and everything was going fine but that dream broken soon. His parents, his sister dislike me and after that nothing remains same in our relation. Meanwhile our family suffer through a tragedy which added more differences in our relation. His just start going away from me because circumstances changed. Then in September he calls me and said he doesn’t want to hurt me but he is helpless. He said the biggest thing which made him to stay away from me was my past relation, that I liked a man before him also. He always use this line” why I was not the first person in your life’. He said he wants to see me happy forever. I know he love me, the words he was saying was not lie.
2007-01-02 01:56:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would venture to say that the reason you found an answer to your question is that oyu never asked a question.
What should you do?
It sounds like he has made it clear both verbally and through his actions that he does not respect you enough to make you happy. You have done nothing wrong and shouldn't spend your life feeling as though you have done something. So what, he's not the first person you liked. He need's to get over it. If he truly loved you then he wouldn't care what his family thought of you and do you want to be a part of a family that doesn't respect each other? My Parents haven't always liked who I was with however they always showed respect. That's how I was brought up. I say it's good to feel flattered that you don't think he's luying to you when he sais these things but at the end of the day your still alone. "Don't ever make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option." Good Luck! '-)
2007-01-02 02:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What needs to happen in this situation is for you to forget about the past and those dudes that used you _____ just find someone new that caresfor you --do not dwell on the past or those other gentlemen callers...look for the future to be a better time in your life and work through your good thoughts and have a happier time with a new partner-----this is the time for a relationship to be positive and not built around some family that doesn't like you or some guy that cannot be there for YOU______move on and away from those rocky relationships and guys that are not there for you----just wait for MR. Right and no longer pine your feelings for mr. maybe who is not there for you when you need him.....get out of your house and involved in some activity or group where you will meet the love of your life____________
2007-01-02 02:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by XTX 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is a loser.
First of all, what happened in your past happened before he came along, so it shouldn't be important. What should be important is what's happening now. Since he's used this line before, he's using it as an excuse, and constantly using it is meant to hurt you. Besides, if his parents and sister dislike you, chances are he's told them enough to cause that dislike, and it's not going to change. When a guy judges you because of your past, and wonders why he wasn't the first, he will always keep reminding you of it.
Some people just won't "let sleeping dogs lie", and he's one of them. Let him go. You don't need another heartache.
2007-01-02 02:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His reason to stay away from you is not reasonable. It must be something else. Be cool and find out the reason. Remember 1 thing: "You can not hold back anything. What you have to do is to love what you are having. Let it go so that you can be stronger"
2007-01-02 02:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by noisy-girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason guys have complex's with our previous mates. You need to tell him that yes youve have other people but your glad they came and went because now you have him. Make him feel special . Hopefully this will work. Good luck
2007-01-02 02:32:40 · answer #5 · answered by jdnsmama1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think if you can get marry so go ahead but if the conditions are not good and you cant, so dont worry, another loving ambushed for you.
love comes to existence by being tamed nothing more.
2007-01-02 02:12:10 · answer #6 · answered by xml7070 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please, he's running game.....I'm assuming that the two of you are adults, and yours wasn't the first relationship on either of your parts....therefore, I'm going to need you to open your eyes the to fact that he's using previous relationships against you as a means to keep the relationship where he wants it....."why wasn't he the first in your life".....same question "why weren't you the first in his"......he's a bum, leave him alone......
2007-01-02 02:01:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry but that is a silly comment from him ---- everyone has a past but its the past and you have moved on --- if he cant get past that then you need to move past him and if he wants to see you happy then be happy --- without him
2007-01-02 02:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just take a break from dating drama queen go start a soap opera ok
2007-01-02 01:59:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're getting a lot of answers, just not the one you want to hear.
2007-01-02 02:05:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋