Drug Possession, domestic violence, and traffic problems
No one is a saint but I'm beginning to feel uncomfortable
2007-01-02 01:51:40 · 18 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has never discuss this with me before he doen't know that I know
2007-01-02 01:52:12 · update #1
here is a lil food for thought. I was arrested four or five times for terroristic threatening and domestic violence. my ex had me arrested. but, I have never done anything to her. she just wanted the upper hand in our custody case. I had full custody and she kept going and making false reports to the police. even made red marks on her wrist to make it look real. but, its in the records now....... so talk to him before you do anything. he should actually be proud of you for looking out for yourself!
2007-01-02 02:10:16 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
While it's true that no one is a saint, unless you have a criminal history as well you should consider terminating this relationship. It may be better to find some other reason to tell him as to why you aren't interested instead of disclosing that you have become aware of his criminal record (just in case). It's obvious that this guy has attempted to hide his past criminal record, and with the domestic violence charge I'd be especially cautious. Honesty is expected in a good relationship, and he should have found a time to discuss this matter with you prior to your finding it out on your own. So, accept that you made a mistake in judgment and cut your losses before you find out more about this guy. Be careful!
2007-01-02 09:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Drug possession and domestic violence should tip you off there. While you weren't exactly the greatest thing in the world for snooping, now that you have the knowledge, you'd be stupid not to act on it. Something must have made you feel uneasy enough for you to look in the first place, so trust your gut and get out.
2007-01-02 09:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by JW 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the guy that i just broke up with has a criminal record, he was in jail for a month for drug dealing and has had his drivers licence taken off him for 3 years. but yours sounds a little more serious than mines, i think that the reason he hasn't brought it up is because he wants to forget about his past mistakes. I suggest you have a talk with him, dont be judgemental or anything, be more understanding and considerate of the way he may be feeling. he's most likely changed but talking to him would be the best way to know for sure.
2007-01-02 10:00:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Domestic violence.... that's a biggie.
You should bring it up at some point. Watch a cop movie or something, or make up a story about a friend who found out her boyfriend had a record... then ask him if he has one.
Give him a chance to tell you.
2007-01-02 09:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to get away from him. The domestic violence means he's beat up his wife/gf or someone close to him. Get the h outta there!!!
You are feeling uncomfortable for a reason. In this case follow your feelings.
2007-01-02 09:54:08 · answer #6 · answered by capnemo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is scary stuff that could definitely put you in danger. If he has made a huge change in his life and is a completely different person now, he would probably have told you that by now and you would not be feeling uncomfortable about it. That makes me say it isn't even worth confronting, it could get ugly and you should walk away as quietly as possible.
2007-01-02 09:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the individual lied either to you, or on the application about the past criminal record, you can dismiss him.
Maybe in the future you should screen before hiring.
2007-01-02 09:56:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
end it before it starts on u. this is serious stuff. imagine if he started exhibiting violent behavior with u? or got u involved in a traffic charge?
get out while u can. avoid direct confrontation if u suspect possibility of violence but for heavens sake end it.
2007-01-02 09:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by implosion13 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont dump him talk to him. I am sure you will do the right thing. You need to know these things! He is probaly scared you will find out. Oh one more thing if he has traffic problems I would avoid driving in his car.
2007-01-02 09:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋