after me and my boyfriend have had sex he always seems to come asking for more should i give him more or no?? help!!
2007-01-02 01:50:03 · 37 answers · asked by likewhoaitsashleymarie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
like yeah! If you feel like it. Alternatively say NO, the last one was rubbish.
2007-01-02 02:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by goobygum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only give him more if you want more too. If not, learn to say no. A lot of women learn to say 'no' far too late and end up doing things which in years to come they regret. Tell him you want to focus on other things in a relationship like a friendship, talking, socialising, spending time out. If he's not interested, find somebody who wants you for YOU and not just sex.
2007-01-02 02:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God! no wonder Guys think that Women don't really enjoy sex...we're just here to help them fulfil some desire they may have.
Sweetheart, you talk as though you've done your b/f a favour, as though you didn't want it yourself, as though it was meant to be a one off & why is he bothering you now....again....
Sex is great & should be seen as that...it's something that's shared yes...but something we want for ourselves...is it not?
To answer your question the way you asked it...
You've called into a local cafe & ordered a cup of tea...tea was brought to you & you drank...the next day, you are thirsty again...you go back to the local cafe, order another cup of tea....the cafe owners are amazed you should return for more....what would be your reasoning....well! I got a cup of tea here yesterday, why can't I get one today? if you don't normally serve tea why did you yesterday?
Get my drift here...if you don't want to take part in something...then don't start it off in the first place...don't get me wrong Babe, I'm not suggesting for one minute that just because you had sex one day with your b/f that you have to have it the next...it's just the surprise you seem to express in the thought that he'd actually return for more. You've embarked on a sexual relationship with this Guy...you made that apparent when you agreed to have sex with him....if you didn't want to enjoy more of it with him...then you shouldn't have done it in the first place....if you didn't or don't enjoy the act of sex/lovemaking then a little more education is what is needed here...perhaps if you can feel that you're actually participating...you'd then feel more a part of it rather than more of a "part"
Perhaps he'd be better off with a blow-up dolly.
BTW If you don't want to share your body with someone else...then it's simple isn't it, don't share it. If I was a Guy I'd hate to think the person I was supposed to be sharing the act of sex with didn't really want to but did because everyone on Yahoo Answers said she should....well, knock me out with a plank of wood!
2007-01-02 02:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by Funky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is that you are using sex as a control..... 'Should I give him sex' Like it is yours to give..... it is something that two people that love one another share ..... You obviously dont enjoy sex and think that it is a chore..... May be you should consider asking him to give you some more sex next time.... Or thank him for the sex that he has given you.....
2007-01-02 01:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the opposite problem :( :S
Only give what you are comfortable with and WANT! Never have sex just because it is demanded - it will be less enjoyable for both of you if you're not really in the mood.
Having had sex once already is not a pass to have sex with you whenever you want - no one has the right to sex on tap - you ALWAYS have the right to say no; regardless of whether you've had sex before or not.
2007-01-02 01:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by tasha 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Offer him sex on tap. But also demand it when you feel the need. If he'll rise to the occasion, you could both get a lot out of this.
2007-01-02 02:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by PhoenixRights 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no because if you are always doing it then it seems like he's just in it for sex...sorry to be blunt but hey...go without it for a while, and if he stays, give it to him.
2007-01-02 01:55:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it all depends on both partners not only 1 if u dont want sex then u dont have to preform..lay down the law!!!
2007-01-02 01:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by XxCXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An exclusive sexual relationship carries with it the responsibility for sexual satisfaction of both partners.
2007-01-02 02:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy it while you can. In ten years time you may be complaining that your lover is inattentive and losing interest.
2007-01-02 01:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Clive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋