I feel terrible. normally he does fine. i have to work which means he has to go to daycare. usually he doesnt cry. do other mothers feel as bad as i do. you think he is okay?
2007-01-02 01:43:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The same thing happened to me today. My daughter is 2 and she is usually fine when I leave, but this morning she threw a royal fit. I felt terrible, too. I think she is fine now and your son probably is, also. Maybe he just wanted his mommy today. That's what I think it was with my daughter. Not that it makes me feel any better. I would have loved to turned around and taken her home, but unfortunately I have to work. Kids will do this from time to time and it is completely normal. Call the daycare to see how he is. That's what I plan on doing. Take care...
2007-01-02 02:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by L80bug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably just out of sorts today...could be the holiday "let down" especially if you had a few days off with him. He may want to stay home with his new toys. He may feel a bit under the weather or just plain having a bad day. You're not a bad mom and I know from experience that the hardest thing in the world is to leave your child who is crying for you. Try to stay strong and make sure you're watching the daycare like a hawk for anything weird. Take care! Good luck!
2007-01-02 02:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by Mum2Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's so hard! My 3 yr old has started doing this at my Bible Study recently, when I leave her in her classroom. I'm a stay at home mom, so I only deal with this occasionally. I've decided that it is a way for her to manipulate me, and sometimes it works. I've gotten so desperate on one occasion that I bribed her with a trip to Burger King for lunch if she would not cry. It only worked once.
Another thought ~ do you ever have days when you just DO NOT want to go to work? No reason, you just don't want to? And you could just cry because you know you have to? Maybe he's feeling like that?
When I did work, my husband got to be the one to take the kids to daycare, so he had to deal with the mornings like yours. I wonder if it just doesn't affect men as easily, because he never had any problems leaving.
Ask your daycare provider when you pick him up today - he probably stopped as soon as you were gone! Otherwise, he may be getting sick, like others have suggested.
Good luck, mom!
2007-01-02 03:29:04 · answer #3 · answered by shellbugger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is completely fine.
This is a normal stage at the same time other children go through it too.
My children had the same providers and were always fine when I left them, then at around 3, the fits start, they will pass, they just want to see what they can do to get your reactions.
Don't be surprised if he starts to cry when you leave him and cry when you pick him up beause he doesn't want to leave.
YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOM
You are doing what you need to.
Only worry if you see behavior changes in normal everyday activities(other that crying when you leave) or the obvious physical signs that he is being neglected. I'm sure everything is just fine though and he stops cryong a few minutes after you leave and forgets aout it the rest of the day.
I know it's heartbreaking, but I assure you, this is completely normal.
2007-01-02 01:49:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can almost say 100% that he is fine!
I am a former childcare provider. No you are not a bad mom at all.
I am guessing maybe you had a few extra days off because of the holidays, and now he has to readjust. They always do trust me!
I know it is very hard to see them distressed but from very personal knowledge of this , after a few minutes we have the children involved in so many activities they soon adjust and start playing too.
Don't worry!
As long as you trust the daycare center and know the people there HE IS FINE!
Christian mom in PA.
Member of the Coalmont Church of Christ in PA
2007-01-02 02:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all of us who have to drop them off go through this. I have to work too (as opposed to WANT to work) and I hate leaving him. But, he has a great time, and loves his teacher and his friends. (He is 19mo.) I'm sure that you know that you are a good mom and are just looking for some reassurance. Well, you'll probably get it here. And, thank goodness. All of us Moms need to be told more often that its going to be "o.k." We spend so much of our time and energy "making it o.k." for the rest of our families, its nice to have someone else hold our hand once in a while.
So, as long as you are loving and caring and doing your best to keep him safe and healthy, then you are a wonderful mom. He may have had a bad day, or he may be going through a phase. Who knows? Or, maybe he just loves you so much he didn't feel like saying bye-bye today.
Give him a big ol' hug when you pick him up and tell him how much you loved him and missed him. And, he'll probably tell you all about how much fun he had today!
Good luck, and you have MANY supporters out here!
2007-01-02 06:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amalthea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be checking it out, trying to find out if something is going on there. Maybe hang around if you can and watch for a bit or stop in earlie when ever possible to see how things are going. Might be just having a bad day, but if it continues I would be watching more closely. Maybe even talk to the other Moms get them to watch out over your child to see if they notice anything that explains the behavior, or if their children have behaved the same way lately. Today you just can't be too safe, like I said if it continues don't ignore it.
2007-01-02 01:56:55 · answer #7 · answered by snoweyowl44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate it... i cant think when it occurs.. it just makes the whole day awful.. I feel bad going out to lunch and going on line.. i hate it..
BUT... call the center and ask if he is ok. Did he stop crying? that always makes me feel better they usually stop by the time you arrive at work.. Dont worry he will be ok. the holiday just messed up his routine... is all.. Call the center or depending on where u are.. (temp. wise) if its warm i used to go eat lunch across the street from his play yard to see him play during lunch.. and pray he doesnt fall because then your afternoon is ruined by not being able to help him up..
well good luck and a mother is always filled with guilt, and anxiety, and just worry ... a bad mom is one who doesnt feel this!
2007-01-02 03:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by Mystic Bell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad Mom. All kids do that once in a while. Maybe he just didnt want to go today and wanted you to stay home. I know its not possible but he doesnt understand that. Sure he is okay. Its you who feels bad but no reason to.
2007-01-02 04:26:48 · answer #9 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 61/2 year old that has started this right before Christmas break and tomorrow she goes back, she was getting sick. maybe that is what is wrong with him, and yes I feel horrible leaving her sitting there crying I am worried about tomorrow, I just hope she doesn't cry
2007-01-02 01:51:50 · answer #10 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋