i love my parents, though not so much my father as my mother, my family is poor, i promised my mom that as soon as i get my career on track after college that i would buy us a house. Now i think i am starting to regret saying that, i am constantly arguing with my father whom i believe is becoming a hypochondriac, and i have always had a deep resentment towards him.
I can't imagine having to live with him any longer but i love my mom and i want to keep my promise to her, what do you think?
2007-01-02 01:28:04 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
here is my advice dont make promise most of them just do what happen to you they come back to hunt you.
2007-01-02 01:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the question you have to ask your self is what did you mean when you said 'when you get your career on track". are you at that place now?
to me that could mean many things as it should to your parents.im sure you have bills you must pay-off and in no way ready to buy a house or to go put your self in a contract with your parents so early on.
i understand wanting to help your parents becouse they loved and raised you with little money and im sure they did with out along the way
i am a mother of a 5 yr old boy i would give him my last nickle if he needed it and only want the best for him in life.I would think later on he owes me anything for me being his mom .he dint ask to be born i was the one who wanted him.icould be wrong but cant see your mother exspects you to honor this promise you made i think she would be please with the fact that you care about there health and welbeing and that you give what you could aford to give.
have you talked with her.
maybe you can come up with a agreement tell them your not at the place to buy a house but maybe you would like to help them with a couple of bills.
after all if your not getting along with your father now its not going to get any easier when your living in your house fore 30 some years.
i sure your going to want to get married and have a family some day ...
hope you work things out just listen to your heart...
after all only super stars with big $$$ buy their parents homes...dont worry it will be ok and if they are upset that you decide not to buy this house take some time for your self it will all blow over...are you the only child...if not why are you worried
2007-01-02 01:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by michelle e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was always taught that a person is worth what their word is worth....
Have you thought about buying a bi-generational home? Basically, it's a home that is for you with a separate part attached for your parents. It's like having a house with an appartment too. There are bi-generational homes that the smaller part for the parents can either link directly to your house from the inside or you can get one where the part for the parents is separate and they cannot have access to your part from the inside.
That's what I would do... Whatever you choose to do, do it with your heart... Good luck!
2007-01-02 01:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by The ReDesign Diva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep family can be tough.
Have you thought about buying a duplex so you could live next door but apart.
If that is still too close then look at condos as opposed to a house and get them one in the same condo development but far enough away from you for your comfort.
2007-01-02 01:31:15 · answer #4 · answered by Morgan W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mindy I dont know how old you are but im 13 and my parents are broke up so if you please email me and give me more advise id be glad to talk. Do you parents fight? are there any problems? and do you have brothers and sisters?
2007-01-02 01:33:16 · answer #5 · answered by Skater01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋