im a shy girl myself and like this shy guy when we get talking we have quite a lot in common same interests/views/thoughts yet i find its normally me initating convo with him. I started getting somewhere but then these new loud gals started and he seems to pay more attention to them . I went on a couple of works dos hoping he would come over to speak to me which he didnt and it was me talking to him so how do i know if he likes me or not. As if hes not interested why od i get a tension/awkwardness from him
2007-01-02 01:23:26 · 12 answers · asked by joanne100uk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The person you should be relating all this to is him. So you're shy - why should it affect your (possible) love life.
Besides, if he says he's not really interested, then at least you'll know. Don't take it personally; just chalk it up to experience and quit wasting your time on him. Good luck.
2007-01-02 01:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's paying the loud girls attention then you should start paying loud guys or indeed other guys in general attention. Maybe he's scared because he perceives you to be focussing all of your attention on him. If he can pay the other girls attention then he should pay you attention aswell. Start chatting to this guy and that guy but not overly flirty or anything. If he doesnt make an effort with you then, then I'd say maybe he's not interested- but it's his loss! Your shy and you were able to make the effort, so if he really wants you then he knows where you are, let him come to you, don't be desperate. I'd say back off, befriend other guys and see what his reaction to this is. Good luck, I'm rooting for you because I've been there too!!!
2007-01-02 01:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by lovely girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop initiating the conversations then. The last thing a shy person needs is a relationship with another shy person. You would never get anywhere fast. Go for someone more assertive, thats why he is talking to the loud girls more, because its easier, they do all the work for him. You will find someone who can actually demonstrate how they like you. take care
2007-01-02 01:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by goobygum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well why don't you just go over to him and let him know how you feel about him and see if he feels the same about you and there's no reason to be shy. Or if you want to talk away from work just you ask him to dinner or coffe and talk with him about how you feel about him and see if the feeling is mutual. SO don't wait because one of the loud girls might catch him before you can. And if you just need to chat IM me anytime
2007-01-02 01:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are two possibilities.
He is shy or he isnt interested in you (or both).
Is there an event that is connected with your shared interests you could ask him to?
You arent going to know if that awkwardness is him being shy or his lack of interest unless you ask.
Sucks doesnt it!
2007-01-02 01:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Morgan W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a relationship would have gone no where wit him anyway. u mis- read him. The so called loud ones struck a nerve w/ him. If its meant he will be back don't rush look elsewhere in the meantime,
2007-01-02 01:32:25 · answer #6 · answered by Dotr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he's just afraid to say anything or show interest cause of all this "sexual harrassment" crap. Any wrong word or if it's taken the wrong way he's done...finito. That's how i act around women at work..like im on eggshells
2007-01-02 01:31:44 · answer #7 · answered by V P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the squeakiest wheel gets the most grease. that's what the old folks used to tell me. he is probably paying more attention to these girls because they are so loud. keep doing what you were doing to start conversation but keep it light without a lot of pressure.
2007-01-02 01:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run up to him and grab his manhood. Be aggressive. Then you two can get it on in the office. It'll be real exciting and probably help your 'shyness' in a good way. Just don't get caught and fired
2007-01-02 01:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont give up, even if you think to yourself your talking to him cos you want to be mates with him, if you give up and you lose out of contact then you will never get anywhere with him.
keep yourself there in his view so he cant forget about you, then gradually he will start to see what he's had under his nose the whole time
2007-01-02 01:41:12 · answer #10 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋