my boyfrind told me he felt smuthered on friday as we saw a lot of each other over xmas. I stormed off home. The next day contacted him, we argued on phone then i kept asking if he wanted to split up first he said no the more i asked he ended up saying yes. Then he called me back and said he made a big mistake, due to to him going away he asked if we could see how things are for a week, i agreed. Then thought about it and im not a doll waiting so i called back and said if u love me u wud know what u want. he said sorry u feel that way. Wen he went away i text him a couple of messages he replied to the first nicely and then ignores the other 3, i got anxious and text i love u he wrote back'' dont know what to say as far as im concerned there is no way back, u wudht give me the oppurtunity of seeing how things are so im sorry . I dont know if he is still in a mood and feeling smuthered or he means it. He loves me i know that he is honest and nice, will he come back, hes away till sun
2007-01-02 01:16:50 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i thought he wanted me there im from l'pool he lives in preston so we only see each other 3 times a week, so with it being xmas i seen him every day i had pmt one day and asked him to stay in with me so he didnt go out with his mates(they didnt even go in the end) but he threw that at me saying i dont let him see his mates, he doesnt particularly love goin with his mates but he said he feels he cant do anything. nothing has ever happened beofre and i am very laid back i didnt think i was smuthering just by being there think xmas week got on top of him but how do u love someone and walk away and never talk to them again im worried that will happen. he was so loved up even on xmas eve said this was our 1st xmas of many, i cant picture my life without u. Whenever we do argue he pancis and cries for me not to dump him yet he is so cold and walking away so easily
2007-01-02 01:27:28 · update #1
all u people slaggin me off u dont know me i may of been up there at his but i went shopping half the time, !!! just coz im rambling on a message board doesnt mean im a pain, yes i do have my own life i live on my own he doesnt but hes not smuthered when he gets breakfast in bed. !!! just he invited me to his house he just was worried about hurting my feelings thats why he didnt tell me to go home, he just went of on one at the end of the week.
2007-01-02 01:37:27 · update #2
id understand what all u people are saying if this happened every week, it was christmas i only see him 2/3 times a week the other 51 weeks of theyear and i dont have a problem, he inivited me remember
2007-01-02 01:43:42 · update #3
some of his mates have gfriends but one of them text me saying hes let a good thing go. i get on with them all. i dont want to contact him again just worried il never hear from him again
2007-01-02 02:41:42 · update #4
That depends on if he misses his flight home or not! ;-)
2007-01-02 01:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by Agony Aunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, ok. Take a deep breath.
You panicked and started texting him loads when what he wanted was a bit of space. By wanting some time on his own, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Christmas is a bit overwhelming normally, with lots of family around and stuff, and he probably just wanted a bit of space to do his own stuff for a little while. But by calling him and texting him, you almost bullied him into dumping you. I'm really sorry, I know that sounds harsh, but that's how he sees it.
I know it's hard, but DON'T CALL HIM again, at least for a whole week (ie 7 days). Go for walks, go out with friends, do anything else but contact him. Give him some space and prove to yourself that you can do it. And then when he's thought about it, he'll come around. Call him on the 8th day just to say hi and see how he is, and arrange to meet up to talk.
Hope you feel better soon.
2007-01-02 12:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Maureen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smothering him? Girl, you are suffocating him!! "....the more i asked he ended up saying yes." What was wrong with his first answer that you felt you just needed to keep pushing him?
Not only have you just proved that you have been smothering him, but also that you are complicated and that's not something a budding relationship should have to endure. First you want one thing, then another.........seriously, you should both try and make up your mind before engaging in a relationship.
Sound like he has already made a break for freedom.......I suggest you accept this gratefully and move on yourself.
Best of luck and remember, there could well be a lesson in this for you.
2007-01-02 09:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie.. Leave it. Let things calm down. do not text, call or email him at all for at least 3 days (to start with)
I bet you $1,000,000.00 or £'s if you like, he will call you. Ignore him long enough and he will wonder where you are.
It's hard to do, but all empowering. Once you get back and sorted out, try to give him a little more space. Find time to do your own thing and be with your friends too..
Good luck. I feel for you.
2007-01-02 09:29:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are smothering him without realising. Why did you need to ask him whether you were splitting up again and again? Don't contact him to sun. You'll have a break and he'll miss you. Trust me it'll make him want to kiss you. Everyone loves each other more when they are not there
2007-01-02 09:21:35 · answer #5 · answered by dotty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should leave him be for a few days and see what happens.
he just may feel a little panicked right now. do all his mates have gf's? or do they always want him to come out?
it also maybe that hes had enough.
only time will tell.
just dont contact him for a bit.
good luck
2007-01-02 10:39:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you ever think to give this man space, you are smothering him, can you not let a minute go by without feeling sorry for yourself. dont be reliant on him, live your own life, he is probably a commitment phobe, in other words he feels trapped so needs to get out.
let him have his time, you have yours, dont do things out of revenge, just see how the land lies.
2007-01-02 09:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Honey I'm from Liverpool to!!so here's what i think,you need to back of girl.Ive been in a similar situation so i know where your coming from,you have to get some other interests.go out and about,take your mind of him.and its gonna be hard but don't text him anymore let him do the running.
2007-01-02 09:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by karen. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey if he loved u and felt the same way as you. you guys would not b fighting just move on im telling u get out now while you can so u can find the rite guy 4 u
2007-01-02 09:24:21 · answer #9 · answered by likewhoaitsashleymarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to calm down you went a little psycho there. He needs a break and by the looks of it so do you. He will probably be back but you need to realize that people need room to breathe.
2007-01-02 09:22:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about that comment..
"kept asking if he wanted to split up first he said no the more i asked he ended up saying yes."
what else what he suppose to say? its like you just said what you wanted to hear...
maybe you need to give him some space.. and see what happens
2007-01-02 09:24:26 · answer #11 · answered by steph 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋