we loved each other from the past 3 yrs. and suddenly on 1st jan this year i noticed one of his sent messages.it was 4 a girl i didn't know about and wrote"u r sweet,cute charming,smart and beautiful." we've been absolutely committed and i couldn't expect this. because of this i cried a lot. my best friend advised me to 4get him which is very difficult. i haven't even received his 2 calls today. i feel miserable and perplexed. i dunno how to deal with the situation. what do u great minds suggest?
2007-01-02 01:14:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey pal.....its time you stop sulking and move on...
2007-01-06 00:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by raindrops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This why you don't look at things that are not yours and any of your business. I think you need to talk to him. So much of what we see can be takin out of context. It's best to get the full story but here is where the problem comes in. Even if his explanation makes sense your snooping has all but tainted the relationship. Lets say he is innocent. Well now he is gonna be mad that you went through his phone. He will ultimately lose respect for you and the relationship. And if he is cheating at best the relationship is over with. The problem is this snooping is never good. If you have doubts about the relationship communicate and or leave. Snooping will not ease your worries or concerns. It will only fuel and feed it until one day you are totally out of control.
2007-01-02 01:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would hurt for sure, but u can't have any type of closure until u talk to him about it. He obviously isn't as committed as u are, and he won't have an excuse for what he did but u need to at least talk to him to release your own feelings so u can move on and heal. You need to be able to tell him how that hurt u. Good luck and remember that it's him that did the wrong and u are worthy of much better.
2007-01-02 01:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say that you are "absolutely committed" how can u say that when u jump to all sorts of conclusions with remarkable ease.Why dnt u talk to him and find out who da person is and wat they mean to each other.She could be his friend & mebbe u are just jumping to conclusions. Apart from dat plz take a real look at the state of your relationship coz honey with your trust in him so easily shaken it is best if you really decided what it is that you want out of this relationship--him just as he is or some figament of your imagination.More importantly honey if he doesnt call i believe that perhaps u can take da initiative and call him.So u take care
Advice is wat i can give u but how you use it is your Perrogative & i'm sure you will make da right decision.
2007-01-02 02:25:58 · answer #4 · answered by trouble2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my husband of twelve years.. cheated on me many times now im raising a child that came from another woman.. and recently I found out that after all of wht we being trough and the permanent of his daughters custody is almost final and all because of me caring and writing judges and investigating everything for him.. he goes out there and cheat on me again.. and guess what?? like an idiot Im still here... women only have two choices leave or stay and we stay... if you know your boyfriend is chating and cheating then you have a choice to make Im very unhappy with my marriage.. but I stay for the kids and the little girl she needs me.. if I leave i have to leave her behind so that is my case.. Let me ask you something why do you stay?? once a man cheat or think about cheating they dont stop.. do your self a favor and get the hell out of there before you end up like me... good luck hon
2007-01-02 01:27:44 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he wants to start a fresh life with u and for that reason he sent u that message.but u can always go and ask him about that. afterall u love each other. but if he tells that he doesnt love u any more it is better to forget him. I know its not that easy but u can always try.but always take an action according to the situation.wish all the best and I hope he never hurts u.
2007-01-02 01:21:25 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there
I really don't think that he is cheating with you. first things first, You just call/meet him and should ask about that girl. She could be his good friend or a relative. Calling somebody beautiful, charming and smart doesn't mean that he loves her. you just need to sort these things after investigating all quaetions. All the best.
2007-01-02 01:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Vik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. If he had send that message in your phone, maybe he was trying to surprise you. Maybe he doesn't want to hurt your feelings that's why he's not returning your calls.
with your best friend's advise, ignore him. Get yourself busy. Join clubs. This way you'll stop thinking about him.
2007-01-02 09:46:25 · answer #8 · answered by haseen_gudiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That`s a hard thing to deal with. I know you are heart broken but your friend sounds wright.I would ask to make sure,he may have a real reason so talk before you walk.
2007-01-02 01:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Step 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, tough luck! You found out! I'm sorry I will not call her again and I'm sorry. i will be loyal to you from now on. I messed up.
If you confront him, this is what you will hear. So dump the cheater. Once a cheater is always a cheater.
2007-01-04 19:42:35 · answer #10 · answered by nice guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and talk to him...about the matter. This is the only way to solve the problem. Best of luck
2007-01-02 04:44:24 · answer #11 · answered by Ashish M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋