my best Friends boyfriend is cheating on her this is not the first time he's cheated?

Question

i'm not sure if i should tell her or not. the last time he cheated she stopped talking to the person who told her.and she got back with him .but circumstances are different this time hes seeing another man.I had to go to a conference in another state.and saw him at the hotel i was staying at he did not see me .but it was him.and he was kissing this guy.i want to tell her but am afraid she'll stop talking to me but i'm afraid for her what with all the std's out there i mean even if it was another woman i would want to tell her for her safety so should i tell her?

I know it was him there was evidence. but i didn't want to put in why or how i knew it was him because my friend reads yahoo answers but here it goes he broke his hand before he went on his trip his company has offies in this city i went to and he is a trouble shooter and goes and fixes things also he has red hair .this guy i saw kissing the other guy had red hair and a broken hand and had a cast on the same hand as my girlfriends boyfriend

Answer 1

You have to tell her .your right it doesn't matter if it was a man or another woman the possibility of std's is high he's cheated before and was caught but who knows how many times he's cheated and didn't get caught.sure she may be upset and stop talking to you but I'm sure she will realize that you only had her best interest in mind.tell her.

Answer 2

This is definitely a tough decision.

I would be inclined to somehow tell her. I know I would want to know if I were in that position.

If she ends up getting up some disease from him passing it to her, then at least you tried. If you don't tell her and she ends up very sick because of this issue, you very likely would regret not telling her and feel very guilty.

If you don't have the guts to tell her yourself, you might think of telling her anonymously, although she will probably not believe an anonymous accusation. But it may be better than totally not telling her at all.

Have you thought about confronting this man? Tell him that she is a dear friend of yours and you care about her happiness and health. Tell him to knock the "cheating" off! See what he says.

Did anyone see him kissing this man, when you saw him? If so, you will have a witness, if you end up telling her and she doesn't believe you.

Good luck!!!!!!!

Answer 3

If you want to keep her as a friend but want her to know this guy is a cheat find a way to let her know anonymously. Leave her a note or email her from an email account you just set up.

Answer 4

Isn't that kind of weird that you were both traveling in the same state at the same time? Are you sure it was even him and not just someone who looked like him? Check your facts first before you tell someone something like that.

Answer 5

i think that you should tell your friend that he is cheating. yes, its true that she may not speak to you for a while, but eventually she will realize that you were only thinking of her and her safety. and in the long run, you both will be better off. just break it to her easily, kk??

Answer 6

Best friends tell the truth always she will be glad you did later in the future once she gets over him.

Answer 7

deff tell her if she doesnt believe u shell stop talking to u temporarally but eventually she come around when she catches him or dumps her for the other guy

Answer 8

well i told a friend once and of course she get mad at me... but if he is a fagging on her then I couldn't pass that one up... though she prolly want believe you but it will make her think...

Answer 9

Tell her.