i love my bestfriend, but she doesnt realise that it hurt me when i found that she was dating my ex, i'm over that now but i really dont know how to act around them, i always feel uncomfortable and out of place, and she knows that but he's always there. i dont know what to do. i just want us ALL to be happy.
2007-01-02 00:54:10 · 13 answers · asked by Lony 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did she discuss with you that she would like to go out with him? If not to be honest she's not your best friend at all -- and then doesn't have the consideration to how you might be affected,is beyond me !! You truly don't need either one of them !! I hope I 'm not sounding mean ,but I bet you would never do that to her or him!! You deserve so much more,believe me ! Bless you for keeping your cool --- Alot of people wouldn't be able to -- Good Luck and I sure hope you find true friend's -- Pattijo
2007-01-02 01:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by pattijohughes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say just keep your distance. Talk to her and explain that the situation makes you uncomfortable and that you can still be friends but it will have to be separate from them. This is why friends should not date their friends ex. Not saying that a person should not date whomever they want but once you go that route you can't expect your friend to have any level of comfort around the two of you. Its not a issue of wrong or right but an issue of what value you have placed on your current friendship.
Don't be angry with your friend or start an argument. She has every right to date whomever she pleases but she should also be aware what that decision means. And it means that you can't hang around her when she is with her man. Man I do not understand that one. Did you cheat on him or something? Never understood how someone could date the ex of a friend. If I ever did it it would most surely be about the booty.
2007-01-02 01:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have voiced your opinion from day one. My friends and I have always had a rule to NEVER EVER date each others exes and it has worked this way for years. I believe that a true friend will avoid your ex like the plague but not everyone feel that way so, if you love your friend and want to maintain your relationship then I say learn to live with it and if you can't then I say tell her how you feel and go from there. It may be time for a new best friend
2007-01-02 00:58:27 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
temporarily, extremely deflated (much like I do now- in case you spot my question you will comprehend why). undesirable luck, that ex-pal sounds a million) a bad piece of artwork and 2) lots likre my ex-ultimate-pal, a ruthless monster to whom not something caught and who continuously have been given me into difficulty yet became then my pal lower back. be at liberty to make up together with her, yet do not shop her so on the factor of you- she will probably harm you lower back, like mine did. He now con tinues to stay away from my existence, uncovering secrets and techniques he shouldn't and telling something bof the worldwide, with some additions of his own. He has basically thrown my love existence into turmoil, with little or no desire if I have been a realist, which would be no desire, yet I say that there is often desire, oftentimes observed via the related Tolkien quote). do not make an enemy or a particular pal of her, and make sure that each and all of us your close and depended on buddies are extra dependable to you than her. on the boy, i don't comprehend, even inspite of the shown fact that it sounds like my love existence now, different than for the undeniable fact that the lady i'm head over heels in love with never went out with me or perhaps enjoyed me. sturdy luck.
2016-10-19 08:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaww..i know just how you feel! i'm putting myself into your shoes now and the feeling just suck! i'm imagining my ex bf of 2 yrs going out with my best pal..oh god! i'll go mad if i were you..but ask yourself this qns..when did u break up with your ex? was it a few weeks ago? a few months? have you gotten over him? if you have..then you really shouldn't worry too much..why don't you try talking to your best friend about it? keep things bottled up really won't help at all..tell her how you really feel and if she sees you as her best pal..she'll feel for you so the next time u hang out with her..she'll know what to do and will tell your ex not to hang around u girls anymore..
all the best in life =)
2007-01-02 00:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if a friend has done its to you they oveustly liked him when you was going out with him this can go two ways do u still like him and want him bk because 9 months is a long time or do u like you friend that much and want the best for her but yet again she is your best mate and she should want the best for you and shouldn't do a thing like this and leave him go the decisions up to you
2007-01-02 01:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by JAMESMABOB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it bother you if you're supposedly over it? If he's a good guy--then be happy for them and wish them blessings--it might be the best thing that ever happened for the two of them.
2007-01-02 00:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that lil sl*t!!!!!! that is rule number 1 of what not to do in a friendship slap that ***** and stop talking to her u do not date a friends ex that is agaist the rules
2007-01-02 00:57:50 · answer #8 · answered by HanginByAMoment 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you just don't feel right hanging with him and when she's free then you two can hang out.
2007-01-02 00:57:18 · answer #9 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "I'm over that now' but you don't sound as if you are.
Be happy for them. Move on in your life.
2007-01-02 00:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋