other much, I met his son and ive been closed to him. I asked his father,who is my boyfiend if he can leave his wife then he anwered he loves me but he can't leave his 2 kids on his wife the reason why his wife gets easily mad and his wife hurts their oldest son physically.What should i do? Should i let him go depite we love each others much or ill wait for his decision?
2007-01-02 00:51:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's married. He's already told you he's not leaving his wife and kids. He's cheating on her with you. If he married you, do you think he won't cheat on you?
You're "committed" but he doesn't know the meaning of the word. He hasn't committed to any of you. It's not appropriate for you to be close to his children, either. He's setting a bad example. You're enabling his behavior and you're depriving yourself of a healthy, honest relationship.
Life is short. The years go by faster and faster! The sooner you get it together, the better chance you'll have at some happiness.
2007-01-02 00:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by joanmazza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are your choices he wont ever leave her so the decision rests with you.
1) You continue seeing this man when he can always knowing that he will return to his wife as he always will. You will never get more from him than you do now and will have to just be happy with the time he spares to be with you.
2) You realise you deserve more from a relationship and leave him, eventually you will find a man who loves you and wants to be with just you.
If he is such a great father why does he leave his children with a mother that physically abuses them? The story is either a lie or he is a terrible father who is quite happy to leave his children at risk.
Are you happy to be just a mistress for the rest of your life?
2007-01-02 09:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by madamspud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has already given his decision to u. think he is telling u a story, think he is telling u that his wife will be mad, that's a given, but i think he is the one she will physically abuse, and not the boy. he is not willing to leave his wife, or children, as it will just cause him too much trouble. you are chasing a dream that will never come true here, the man is using u, for the obvious, he will never leave her, u need to go and get your own man, and leave hers alone. as what comes around goes around, and karma will visit u, and whatever u do to others will certainly come back to haunt u. u can't build happiness on someone Else's misery, and expect it to work for u. if this woman his wife was such a vile person why is he still with her? don't believe everything he is telling u. what does all this say about your character.
2007-01-02 09:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a gun or a mean dog. You don't have a relationship you are the chick on the side. Use protection if you continue to have sex with him a condom and a pill. Tell him it is over. He has already chosen to stay with his wife. File a restraining order. Change your telephone number. Take some donuts and coffee to the local police precinct. If he calls you then you call and attorney.
What a creep!
2007-01-02 08:57:32 · answer #4 · answered by ARM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but you are in a one way commitment. You might be commited to him but he is commited to his wife not only in words but by law. You are wasting your time and energy on this man...he belongs to someone else and has children too. Let him go to work things out with his family and find a single man to start a life with.Nothing good will come from this lie you are both living right now.
2007-01-02 09:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I noticed you said "I've been committed to a married guy...". That should answer your question. You need to wake up and smell the coffee because he is not going to leave his wife and kids. You shouldn't even be trying to get close to the kids because that's putting stress on the kids to keep daddy's secret. Move on you deserve better.
2007-01-02 09:00:33 · answer #6 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will say anything to keep you around so saying that he love you means squat.
You first off should never have entered into a relationship with a married man. Now that you are already involved it makes things harder.
He needs to make a choice you or his wife. His choice will be his wife so be ready for that and find yourself someone who is readily available for you. You should not be second to anyone
2007-01-02 09:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like an excuse honey. I think you know what you should do. He is having his cake and eating it too. Did he introduce you to his son as his girlfriend or just a colleague? If he didn't tell his son who you were then you have your proof. If he did then maybe the wife hit the son because he told her about you.
2007-01-02 08:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a married man is always a losing proposition. He's having his cake and eating it, too. Why are you afraid of leaving him? Is it because you don't think you deserve total commitment? Do you think there is no one else who will have you? I think you need to be alone and work on yourself before getting into any other relationships. This man isn't going to change, but you can, and you will be happier for it. Good luck.
2007-01-02 08:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by Rebecca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a load of bs to me. If he's so concerned about his wife doing this then he could report her and take custody of the kids. Why bother with a man you know is taken? There are plenty of single ones out there. Basically your "boy friend" is using you as booty call girl!
2007-01-02 08:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋