what do you do with immense amounts of anger?

Question

i pretty much want to kill this guy for what he did to me 3 1/2 years ago, or at least cut off his ... okay, that's not healthy obviously.

i try exercise when i'm overcome by it, but i lose my focus and just fall down crying or i hurt myself from punching the punching bag so hard.

how could God allow a person to feel so much anger? it makes me feel guilty.

suggestions?

(story: rape at party 3 1/2 yrs ago)

Wouldn't You Like To Know: please don't do that. i did that from age 13 to 20 (i'm 22) and it just caused more problems. as you probably well know!

my scars actually serve as a reminder to myself to never do something so dumb as hurt myself ever again. it's embarrassing to have them, i tell people they're burns or from rock climbing in the wilderness, etc.

no, i'm not going to deal with a f**king judge. besides, i can't prove s**t.

Answer 1

Anger is a funny emotion, we feel like we are not aloud to be angry but in fact to get over things sometimes we have to allow ourselves to be angry. If trying to take out your anger in exercise is just leaving you hurt maybe you need to try other avenues like write out all your feelings on paper, just for your eyes. It might feel better to admit how you feel out loud and be able to see them in black and white. Or you can always let out a good scream, listen to music that makes you feel better or take all that energy and place it into something positive like a hobby or community service. Talk to someone too, it helps even if you feel stupid for getting help. It’s hard to realize you need to seek professional help but its worst if you don’t. Talking about things makes them easier to deal with and over time. And realize you never have to forgive the person that hurt you but until you let yourself deal with what ever has happen you continue to allow them control over you and your emotions, don’t let anyone have that victory over you. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 2

Have you had this man arrested and tried for rape? If not, this is the first thing you need to do. I don't think there's any statute of limitations on rape. You must do that if you haven't already.

Now if you've done that, you may need to work with a professional to help you get through these feelings which are all normal reactions. You didn't deserve it obviously. You're worth more than that and you're not alone. Maybe a support group would benefit you. People sometimes don't reach out to these programs out of embarrassment, but in your case, I think you may need this.

You'll eventually learn how to let go of this anger, but you won't be able to do it alone. Talk to people and vent. Don't hold it in. There are hundreds of organizations and thousands of people who are waiting to help you overcome this.

I'm really sorry about what happened to you and if it was me, I'd have killed the bastard.

Answer 3

Speaking from a spot of total understanding, the anger wont ever diminish totally.
Im 34..was jumped at a party at age 15 by 5 guys, and to this day, I still have bouts of anger, and sadness and just complete hopelessness. This is not to say that it wont get a bit easier. It does, over time. Over time and understanding of how most people cope with type of things. The more you understand about the whole process, they better you will feel.
Trust me, it wont be easy, it wont go away, but there is a light at thye end of the tunnel.
I write lots. I talk with my friends, lotsssssssss.
Plus, go into the library, or some random book store and pick up a book about it. Youll find out that its quite normal to be angry.
Just hang in there, as cliche as that sounds.

Answer 4

I've had great amounts of anger before, I try going for a walk or jog, or other exercise. If you like to drive maybe play some music and go for a cruise.
I also try and focus my energy somewhere else, trying to just move on. I tell myself it's not healthy to be so angry because stress can negatively affect your health/blood pressure. Talking to someone about it, or a group about it is really cool too. Maybe a church group.

Answer 5

Anger To dream that you are holding or expressing anger, symbolizes frustrations and disappointments in your Self. You tend to repress your negative emotions or project your anger� onto others. You need to look within yourself. Being angry in your dream may have been carried over from your waking life. Dreams can function as a safe outlet where you can express your strong and/or negative emotions. You have some suppressed anger and aggression that you have not consciously acknowledged.

Answer 6

well you where hurt very bad and abused if it has been this long and you still that angry i would suggest going to crisis center and getting some help it is not your fault this happen is the big thing you have to rember and yuo did nothing wrong at all but it is not healthy and you have to get over this some how.You may not want to go to court but it might make yuo feel better.this happen to my wife and was hard for her to get over but she did and she thinks about but not angry anymore she,and the police where very good about it they had him arrested right in front of the hole community so everybody saw it never made it to court but he ended up moving away within 2 months and we made sure everybody knew why he was arested just alitttle bit of revenge can be good .but try and get some help you need to get passed this before it ruins your hole life and chance at meeting the right guy there are alot of really good ones out there. good luck and GOD bless

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear about it but you see ,never cry over spilt milk,as the saying goes.you are hurt / angry and want to take revenge etc. I know it hurts and it is always behind your mind that your privacy has been invaded without your consent. As a healer I can suggest you to use BACH flower remedies ,which will surely help you out of this situation.I am sure you can get one Dr who uses the Bach flower remedies to heal physiological situations.wishing you the best and fast riddance to you trauma

Answer 8

well forone thing do not self injur ur self causeit is not healthy take it form someone w/ experience in thatcatogory! try drawing evil pics of him the rip them up or try to see a councelor of just scream really loud or throw stuff at a wall, those work for me.

Answer 9

Counseling. Talking things out with someone ( therapist, spiritual counselor). Getting out your physical aggression is good, but you need to talk things out and seek guidance to help you recover from this pain.
Do not feel GUILTY. Let this this anger out. It will slowly kill you, release the pain.

Answer 10

yeah i been raped too, i self harm instead of killing him, i know neither option is healthy, but i just dont know what else to do. i am in therapy though its just not helping.