a baby so young but i dont see shouting and sreaming is gonna do she is still with her boyfriend and they wanna stay together the problem is his mother she has been very nasty towards my daughter since she found out i thought she was in shock but she is just a very rude woman has any 1 else been through this and how did they cope with it my daughter is in tears most nights i could slap that womans face for her thanks xx
2007-01-02 00:30:29 · 13 answers · asked by andrea.barrett36 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, hun I can honestly say that I have been in your daughters shoes. It's time the guy said something to his mom about her rudeness towards your daughter. The truth of the matter is, if they are like this now it only gets worse. But your daughter doesnt have to be around his mother. She could do I what I did and tell him if he wants his mom to see the child when its born then she wont stop him from taking it but she dont want anything to do with it. Thats what I ahd to do to get my hubby to tell his mom to back off. I know your in shock and who wouldnt be if their daughter told them that news. Screaming dont help it just makes her fell more horrible and puts more stress on her. She needs you right now. Her boyfriends mother may feel resentment toward your daughter, because she may feel like its her fault that her sons future may not be the way they had wanted. However, if this is the case he needs to put her in her place and let her know it takes two to make a baby and its just as much him as her. All I can say is be there for her, dont discourage her and the babys father all that will work itself out. But someone needs to talk to the other mother. Good luck and congrats.
2007-01-02 02:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by brentheather13004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got pregnant it was my fiance's step dad that was the problem. He told me to my face I should just get an abortion because that would be better. He's never been a nice man and he's not a good father for his own daughter either so I just ignored him. Currently we're both attending school full time and fiance is working full time as well. And instead of being satisfied that we're not leaching off of him he's pissed that fiance's grades aren't high enough for his standards. The fact that he's taking college algebra by correspondence and failing it be damned apparently a C in Discrete Mathematics meant my fiance was a retard. It drives me nuts and so we just ignore him and try to only go over to their house when he's not there. Thankfully he travels for work so we don't have to see him often. Tell your daughter just to ignore the woman. And hope she'll change her tune when she gets a first glance at her grandbaby.
2007-01-02 02:04:30 · answer #2 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Parent,
My sister became pregnat at 13 Y. O. A.. That was over 20 years ago. Certainly, our parents were not pleased with her becoming pregnant. However, through the support of family, friends and our church, my sister and niece went on to conquer each trial set before them. lthough my sister did not wed at the time, she eventually did marry after about 5 years. My sister and her husband both work and her daughter is now a teacher at the local high school. There were those that did not approve of this child being born out of wedlock. However, with the support from family, friends and the church, great things were achieved. My suggestion in regards to the mother of your daughter's boyfriend is to simply smile at her and say "God Bless you" and walk away. This is something my Grandmother taught me. When people say nasty hateful things to you, they expect you to reply in kind. However, when you say, "God Bless You" or you are such a wonderful person" or similar things in a calm voice, in throws them for a loop and they do not know how to react. In doing this, the mother of your daughter's boyfriend will be shown for the tyrant she is and you will walk away with even he own family thining what a good person you are. Stand by your daughter and Keep the Faith! ~ Ben ~
2007-01-02 00:48:26 · answer #3 · answered by Benedetto C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have a talk with the boyfriends mother and ask be easy with your daughter. Maybe things will get better. Things always work out for the good. Good luck on your daughter pregnancy.
2007-01-02 00:43:17 · answer #4 · answered by tabrak2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant at 17 and when I told my parents they were devastated; before I told them I was determined to keep the baby. Then they told me they would stand by me no matter what the decision (the father had by then disappeared after I told him, and also had another child by a different girl)... I was overwhelmed by what I was going to do to my life and decided to have an abortion. It was one of the hardest decisions of my life, but at least it was my own decision. I'm 29 now and just had a beautiful baby boy with the man of my dreams, and I am so glad my life turned out the way it did. But whatever your daughter decides, in the end, will be the right decision for her. Don't pressure her into keeping or not keeping the baby... you don't want her blaming you for the rest of her life either way. Talk to her about it honestly, but in the end she must decide for herself. I'm sorry about the boy's mother - that's awful. Tell your daughter to stay away from her!
2007-01-02 01:33:40 · answer #5 · answered by Saggyrl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you have not have been given any legal say in her being pregnant, for this reason you may not make her provide up her infant for adoption. it may additionally be very incorrect so which you would be able to attempt to stress her to do it. even inspite of the shown fact that, adoption is an selection that it somewhat is precious to to debate together with her. it somewhat is totally annoying to provide up your toddler, so please comprehend if that's not an selection she needs to think approximately. in the adventure that your daughter decides to maintain the newborn, then the father of the little possible say what he needs, the courts supply unfastened paternity attempting out and he does would desire to take duty for the youngster. i'm unsure in case you get toddler help from him whilst he's below 18, yet while not, bypass after him as quickly as he's eighteen. To my expertise, if he isn't 18 yet, his mum and dad are answerable for his toddler help money. Please register for nutrition stamps, medicaid, funds information, and so on in case you have not already. on the grounds that your daughter is pregnant, she gets medicaid to conceal her prenatal care and he or she will qualify for WIC which permits pay for infant formula or nutrition to your daughter looking on whether or not she chooses to breastfeed. If she will detect a job, or create some variety of earnings for herself via babysitting or advertising baked products or something, she would desire to try this and shop each and all of the money for the newborn. Host a sprint one bathe at your place and ask that each and every physique carry a %. of diapers in different sizes, that way you would be wanting lots of diapers to start up with. She must additionally register for digital college. digital college is available in lots of counties, and is the coolest same curriculum as ordinary extreme college, it somewhat is basically achieved on line. which will provide her extra helpful threat to guard the newborn AND finished extreme college.
2016-10-19 08:44:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would go and speak to that women. i would not allow that women to treat my daughter that way. it takes two to make a baby. i had my first when i was 19 the father of the baby and i are married and love each other very much. we have been married now for four years. .good luck and no matter what happens stick by your daughter she needs you now more then ever.
2007-01-02 00:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your daughter to avoid his mother. She sounds like an AWFUL lady.
If she harrasses your daughter, write her a letter that says you'll take legal measures if she continues to harrass her.
Good luck! I'm sure you love your daughter, and will therefore greathly love your grandbaby...
2007-01-02 00:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by Eternity 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
no you dont need any stress at all you need to take a break from all this and let them cool down . i was 18 and still in school when i found out i was pregnant. my mother was very happy then when i told my dad he told me to get my stuff and get out. i was with my boyfriend for 3 years be for i got pregent
but it did not work out to were i had to move out it will work out just give it some time. do not stress anymore then you have to
2007-01-02 03:25:54 · answer #9 · answered by kimmy07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You and your daughter just decide what she is gonna do and ignor that woman as she has no say in what is done with your daughters baby. Please if she talks about abortion please ,please talk to her about adoption instead. If she chooses to raise the child she may need lots of help but you sound like the kind of Mom who would be there to help her.
2007-01-02 05:14:20 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋